I ask because he has made NO further attempts to contact her; I gather she is on holiday (at home, and he is working) but as far as I know, he has NOT contacted her. Assume this is the truth.

So – was their meeting last week just coincidence?

History is:

In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn’t want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again.

After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years’ worth of those messages. BUT –

He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good – most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out ..

The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for ‘sexual assault’ in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other.

PRESENT DAY:

As some of you know, lately (last 2 weeks) he has watched her from his work van as she walks from her office to the station; he DOES genuinely have jobs in that street but he HAS watched her as opposed to hiding behind a newspaper as he sits in his van/looking away, etc.

This has happened 3 times in 3 weeks, and each time, he has stared, and she has walked on, not stopping.

THIS TIME, SHE STOPPED AND THEY TALKED.

I can’t believe it. If the sexual assault arrest has not made him hate her WHAT THE F*CK WILL???

This is what they talked about, which I know because his partner driver "felt I should know" – he was not there but was nearby -

Admitted to her that he HAD indeed been waiting for her to approach him all those times he was parked near her work, and asked why she had been "running past" him!
Apparently he "forgave" her for having him arrested.
He wished her a happy belated birthday.
He asked how her new house was going.
Oh this is good; he asked why he "could not find her" on Facebook.
He asked her ‘can I trust you now?’ (!!)
He said ‘will you let me wave at you if I drive past you?’
She told him another guy had got obsessed with her lately and he said "See I told you you were dangerous" – what does that mean?

Please can someone decipher the things he said to her,AND tell me why would he give her the time of day?

This was last Monday but even on Tuesday, apparently he passed her in his truck and beeped & waved at her!

I am concerned as to what he plans next.

Tags: attempts, Caught Cheating, ck, coincidence, Contact, Husband Cheating, ims, jobs, love, Mistress, present day, quot, sexual assault, texts, truth, verge

We dated for 3 months it all started after a night of drinking. He asked me to stay over and I said it wasnt a good idea. He promised he wouldnt hurt me and wasnt like that. We continued to have sex everyday almost it was amazing. I developed real feeling and he knew and told me he wanted to take it slow. I was fine with that but more and more he continued to let me know that he thought I was a nice person but he was content in being alone before but he gradually pulled back. I thought things were so great and amazing. He was away on a trip for a while and i only saw him once when he got back (outside of work) then I told him I was tired of feeling like his secrect mistress and he broke up with me telling me I give him so much love that he equates that as committment and he could see himself committing to me because hes focused on other things. I am devasted I have never been dumped or rejected and the topper is I have to still work with him. Luckily he will be away during the week on business.
How do I stop being so devasted. It hurts so much thinking about never kissing or touching or anything. I feel so alone

Tags: boss, committment, love, Mistress, Much Love, Real Feeling, topper

I don’t want to give my husband up so should I just act as if I don’t care about him having long term mistress? I still want my marriage to work. Its been over 2yrs since they’ve been together but, we have 15yrs and 4kids invested. Right now we are separated but, spend time with our children. I don’t have sex with him just starting over like friends.

When should I ask him to let her go – When he talk of reconcile?

Tags: 4kids, I Don T Care, marriage, Mistress

I am in love with someone that is not as committed as I am. I am being treated like a mistress, not a girlfriend. He says he loves me and wants to be with me forever but his actions tell a completely different story. He ignores me unless he needs me. I know it is time to cut him loose but I need help.

Tags: broken heart, different story, girlfriend, love, Mistress, rebound relationship

History is:

In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn’t want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again.

After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years’ worth of those messages. BUT –

He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good – most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out ..

The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for ‘sexual assault’ in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other.

TWO WEEKS AGO:

I have found out via a very reliable source, that he drove past her as she walked home from work to the station – IMPORTANT- they both work in the same zip code, he is a driver – he saw her, stared, and apparently he parked right whereby he knew she would be walking past.

Minutes later she indeed walked past, and his van was right there, and he caught her gaze and made sure to hold onto it until she disappeared from his view.

I am sure he genuinely had a job/pickup/collection, but answer me this: why did he park right by where she would be walking? I happen to know there are PLENTY OF SIDE STREETS on that road so why did he park up in the main bit where she would be passing (entrance to the metro)

Why didn’t he just think ‘f*** her’ and park in a side street and not look at her?

TODAY:

I was told again that MY HUSBAND WATCHED HER WALK AGAIN, AT THE EXACT SAME SPOT. THIS TIME HE WAS SMILING AT HER.

Now I don’t know what kind of smile – was it "haha, you didn’t get me jailed" or "hi!" or what?

Apparently she stopped a few meters away, texted something to someone, and carried on walking.

Now – he did NOT attempt to speak to her, nor did he leave his van at any point.

Can I just put this down to the fact he has a collection in that street? (which I know as fact) Why does he not attempt any contact?

Tags: Caught Cheating, gaze, Husband Cheating, ims, job, love, metro, Mistress, quot, sexual assault, side street, side streets, texts, verge, zip code