I know this is a dating question, but I’m asking in this category because the answer are more mature.

Saturday I buried my cousin who died on my front door step New Years Morning and I hadn’t talked to her much since the day he died (she was at my house when he died).

Yesterday, I text her to tell her I missed her and she kept quoting a line that I posted in a comment on Facebook this week. It started, "I’m single by choice…" Whatever it was, I was in a long dialogue with friends & various relatives. My girlfriend isn’t on my Facebook friends list, but I have it where friends of friends can read my posts. She said that her mom was reading my posts and brought it to her attention.

She kept asking me "are you single by choice." I explained that the conversation wasn’t that serious and I was referring to not being married right now. I also explained that who I’m dating is none of my family’s business on Facebook. My immediate family knows who I’m dating…and if they didn’t before they know now because my cousin died on my front porch the morning she was at my house.

Even after the explanation she wouldn’t let it go. Then she text me later that night and said she wanted to end it, because the relationship isn’t working for her. My response was, "Ok"…then I went to sleep.

She text me later last night and early this morning telling me that she missed me and didn’t want to break up & that she was expecting me to fight for her. My response was, "You didn’t ask my opinion, you told me that you wanted to end the relationship. My response was ‘ok’. If a woman says she doesn’t want to be with me, I usually believe her."

Now she wants to get back together. I’m not sure it’s worth it. I’m 36, and she’s 29, if that has anything to do with it.

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Married two years he left me over a month ago. I feel he was angry at me a lot and often showed a horrible temper yelling pushing me and some throwing things around. He says he yells cuz I don’t listen and that I’m not soft enough and call him on everything and make him feel like I’m his mom. Yes I have faults and probably was snappy at him a few times. But the abusive stuff I don’t think should happen! But I always apologized and took on the blame to stop his threats of leaving me.

Well he left all I can think of how much I miss him. And that I’ll never find anyone again. Yet I’m very attractive and have a good job friends family etc

He was often mad I wouldn’t have his kid. He says his dream is to have a family (yet before marriage he said as long as i have u)
I always say stop yelling and threatening to leave me for six months and we can have a kid. He never has.

Yesterday I spoke to him more and said I wanted a family too but need us to be stronger together. He has texted me back saying "ok to get me back you must have a kid in next six months. Then he will be mine forever.". He said he isn’t giving up on his dream. I said back to him I wanted to think about it and he wrote back "what part of I want a kid asap don’t you understand?" he
Said fine think about it but that he will keep looking for a replacement for me in the meantime. He went on a dating site two weeks after leaving me.

This could be my only chance at a kid I’m 39…. I know it doesn’t sound right but I really fear losing him
Help!

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My ex girlfriend and I had been together for over 2 years and we have decided to take a break to see other people and "figure out what we both want" in her words. Its been about a month now, and we still talk here and there… usually just the occasional text message. I’d like to get back together with her but I want to respect her wish to take some time.

What should I do to make her want to try again. Its a fine line between making them miss you, and being forgotten all together. I’ve heard so many different theories as to leaving them alone etc., but to me that just seems liek an invitation for them to date other people. Also, I don’t want to escape being her boyfriend, and being placed into the dreaded "friend zone"

If anyone could provide some advice I’d appreciate it. My only worry is she’s very close to her Mom, and as much as she told me she really liked me, she told my girlfriend she didnt think I was the "one" for her. Not sure that helps my cause.

Tags: Break, ex girlfriend, friend zone, invitation, mom, People, Respect, text message, worry

Ok … I have been married for over 20 years and we have 2 boys a home and so much more but my wife has fallen out of love with me and there is no sex for over 1/ 2 years. I would like to know what i can do to help her fall back again so she will want to have sex again. She may have sex is i pressure her but she would not love me back or go through the motions. I know women or emeotional and they need to fill good and love there man to want to have sex. Its not just a chore for her just because we are married. I want her to love me again. She loves are kids so much that i dont think shhe has any room for her husband. She never wants to do anything together or go out on a date or a getaway with out the kids . Only if the kids are with us. So there is not much i can do to spend time with her. I help at home and all the chores and i give her back rubs and foot messages and i tell her she is attractive all the time. She is a good cook and a great mom and all is good. There are things she complains about and i do listen but i just dont wish to change so much that i am not the same as i have always been. How can i regain her love again.??? She is 43 and i am 50….

Tags: back rubs, chores, getaway, good cook, Lost Love, love, Love Man, mom, motions, Much Love

he hates her guts and cant stand her but his mom wants to keep talking to her and wont let her go! so do i worry about him adding his ex back on myspace??

Tags: ex girlfriend, guts, mom, myspace