Anyone have any advice for me? On how to get your exback i haven’t spoken to him all week i have ignored him and i stoped trying to contact him for a week now. Because like two weeks ago he brokeup with me on a tuesday and i tryed talking to him and he just seemed like he didnt want to but he did and he seems like he still cares and he said that he loved me and all im just so confused. I honestly think and his parents think its because of his band ever since he has been in it he just ended up making it his life and his number one and two of his friends are bad influences and his parents are really upset because they miss me and my daughter and they love us and they still want to see us and want us to visit them. And his mom was crying and gave me a huge saying she wishes some day i become her daughter in law. Well anyways iam not sure when he will talk to me idk what to do because i thought i blew it on halloween because his band had a show at the same place as my friends band and he didnt really think it was a good idea for me to go because he was afraid i was going to cause a scene and well after he played i tryed talking to him and he just freaked out yelling at me and so on monday his mom came over to talk to me because i was so upset about what happened and i was upset because he wrote to me saying he was on the fence of things until that happen so idk what the hell to do i love him we were together for almost 2years our 2 year is suppose to be this 11th coming up =/ and i have been talking to his mom and she said that she and his father talked to him and they said that he will contact you and they told him to comly talk to me bc. he does have a temper problem. And i just want him back even if he does have issues who doesnt? idk i really miss him and i feel like he was my soul mate and i feel like i mest up because he felt like things werent going to move forward b.c. i didnt have a job yet and i have been trying to find one but its just to dam hard now days to find one and we were suppose to move out together he gave me a promise ring for our one year and he said he has never done that before and iam his longest relationship so i need advice QUICK! on How to get him back because i really feel like and his parents feel like he is going backwards down a bad path again and i want him to see that iam here and iam going to be here and help him no matter what but idk i really want him back. Sorry i hope yous got some kind of sense of this. Right now i might be working at a hair salon soon and i just want to try to better my life and i want him to see some how iam positive and independent now i just want him back before i guess its to late….=/

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I really dont want to die but I feel like that.. Me and my girlfriend officially broke up because her mom doesnt want her dating black guys and she’s accepted it.. i feel so screwed over because i went to the end of the world for her.. I loved her so much.. and she loved me too.. she just feels that if we were meant together so much force wouldnt be on us to split up. She seemed so mean when she told me.. I just dont get it.. before her mom found out she was so into me.. and now its like I cheated on her or something. And Im reaching out for love..and its not there. I cut off all my friends and things I do JUST for her.. and now shes gone.. and I have nothing left. And I see her everyday at school.. she was my world.. I just want to run from it all..
i even lost my virginity to her..

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hey, can someone please help me? i just got married 5 months ago, and i just also had a little baby girl about 3 months ago. And my husband is always ignoring me, and he never tells me that i am beautiful anymore… he is always telling me to shut up and stuff, and i really dont like it. i check his phone when he gets home from work, and it says that he called his mom like 3 times, and thats almost every day, and he only calls me once, (if that) what is going on? why dont he love me? and what can i do to make him love me again? should i just move on and divorce him?
btw we are both 18

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I’ve been separated for over a year from husband, he was recently laid off lost insurance coverage. I have outstanding bill with doctor so he refuses to see me, the emergency room runs the same tests and says go see your doctor- So, what I am asking; Does anyone know of Care Treatment facilities that may treat me? I want to go to work! I think I’ve been given a death sentence with no hope. I’ve also been dating a guy (I’ve had a crush on for 28yrs-Iwas15 the first time I saw his beautiful green eyes-and perfectly chiseled face-but never told anyone until this past November when we crossed paths again-as we have thru the yrs-and he turned around to give me a very warm firm hug and invited me to dinner with his friends-he doesn’t want to believe I am…ill and his people are telling him to drop me because there is "something" wrong with her. I feel like he should too-I have nothing to offer him but pain and misery and loss eventually death in my heart I believe he loves me and would do anything he could to help IF there IS any help out there) I have three children 22,11,8-&5yr old granddaughter, that I have been in so much pain and NO energy But my mind says GO!!! so much to say and so many questions-I have looked up pancrepancreatic I’ve seen some surgical precedures and have heard one doctor say if they get to it too late the surguries will not prolong life expectancy-only removal of the painful dead cells that block the ducts that secrete the enzymes, but with no car,job, money, insurance All I have is God. and I’ve been a terrible Christian, making promises with all good intent and falling short every time one thing or another I do not deserve a miraculous healing from God but I do need One (or about a million little miracles) to pull something together so my son can have a chance at life-he is mamas’ "BOY" he loves his mom and wants to go with me when I go-He can play piano, drums, guitar and praises God-Loves Jesus but the friends he has do not go to church my estranged husband refused to pray with me or surrender his lustful greed (I"LL just stop there) he was not a positive influence for either of us, I have regrets I got away last year-because I wanted to take one more chance at having a good life and pursue happiness less hatred around me more happy -doesn’t look like that is going to happen. How can I find out if anyone has an insurance policy on me? I am curious as to how from sept to now I am in so much pain-agony words cannot describe-I am sorry I am not practiced at the art of short n sweet and keep emotion out of it-I have no clue where to turn, the hospital told me to see my doctor, the doctor wants his money (I don’t blame him I just need to get to work so I can pay him

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my aunt, shes a 42 year old divorced women that lost 127 pounds. she eats diet pills like candy. and her ex husband gave her no sex, she has people over at her house at different times of day she finds them online and since she has told me that these men mean nothing to her and not to be attached (as well as her children) she wants nothing to do with my mom (her friend for over 30 years!!!) she isn’t even my real aunt shes just been my moms best friends since middle school. she wants nothing to do with me, she said she HATED ME! for no reason and said she didn’t want me around anymore because i was a bad influence on her kids, she told my uncle not to let me see my baby cousin (i spend every day of my childhood with my cousins, i walked over to there house every day after school and that was the way it was for 9 years!) only to get back at my mom! my mother only told her that she needed to spend more time with her kids. she wants nothing to do with her kids that are 10 and one is almost 13, when my cousin "beau" went to his moms house last she replaced his bedroom with her "craft room" he sent me pics on his phone. got rid of his bed and throw out all of his stuff! he cried and he NEVER cries! so my aunt took him to his dads house and they see their mom like ever 4 to 5 weeks, i haven’t seen my baby cousins in 8 months and i feel like im going to die! but god damn it i love my aunt sooo much! im tide between my hate and love for her.
but the thing is i am home schooled and don’t know other kids. i loved going to pick them up so i could play with the other kids before their parents picked them up, i have known my baby cousins for my HOLE LIFE and its like as if they died, i can’t see them!!! i am acting as if they are off the planet and im morning their deaths! its terrible, how can i see my baby cousins again! my mom won’t tell me talk to my aunt there for i can’t convince her to let me see them!!!!!
:,(

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My exboyfriend and I broke up the beginning of this year. I had recently just went through a serious operation and he was by my side, but I didn’t feel the same way about him anymore so I left him while I went through recovery.

He was furious, calling me names, threatening to tell my friends and family about the operation (a very big secret I chose to keep to myself.) I stupidly told him we could be friends and we were for a couple of months, but during those months he would call me every day, telling me what to do and what not to do and if i didn’t comply, he threatened to call my house and tell my mom about my surgery. He would leave my voicemails telling me he was going to kill himself unless i talked to him. I finally told him we couldn’t talk anymore and I changed my number.

My mom ended up finding out about my surgery and we got through it together, but my ex still calls my house and asks for me, begging for me to talk to him. My mom doesn’t let him know that I am home when he calls, but she does tell me that he keeps calling. He called last night at midnight and told my mom he was worried about my "financial, mental and phsyical health." My mom asked me about it and I told her I havent talked to him in over a month, which is true.

I plan on moving out next month with one of my good friends, but I want him out of my life for good and I want him to stop calling my home. My mom told me NOT to contact him, no matter what happens, but does anybody have any good advice? He threatened me before that he would just "show up" at my work and "surprise" me, but this was months ago and he hasnt done it yet. If anybody has any suggestions, I could greatly appreciate it.

Has anybody been in this situation? Do you know why he is like this, is there anything I can do?

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Heyy guys (:
im really a confused point right now about this guy.
im a 16 year old girl and this guy,chris is 19. We aren’t in a relationship, but we are "dedicated" to eachother. It’s been like this for a few months,almost a year.I could say that I love him.Or at least, I’ve fallen extremely hard for him. We met over the summer in my mom’s home country, his family and my family are close. I live in new york and he lives in vegas.I’m in high school and he’s in the air force, working.He’s the sweetest guy anyone could ever ask for.He calls me almost everyday, he texts me every morning, and etc.he tells me everything,he tells me if he’s going out with friends to a party, i do actually trust him.my family also approves and so does his.About a month ago, he started to ignore me…turned out he got in trouble with his chief AND his ex was trying to get back with him…he was distancing himself from me until the problem with his ex would be solved.I actually understand why he would distance himself from me while going through that. I did tell him though that he needed to trust me and that he could tell me anything, cuz this is the time to prove to eachother that something can maybe develop in the future, if we trust eachother. So, after that everything was okay. Then starting last week…he stopped calling again…he texted every now and then. I do understand that he’s busy, but it made me think alot.especially about the future.He also was suppose to come visit me during this spring break, but his boss didnt approve, which of course made me sad.I do understand though.Its just…i think…we’re at different point in our lives.If he doesnt call me, even is he is busy, how can I contact him and count on him if i need him during a crisis.He also opened up to me about his past….about everything…he’s only had 2 girlfriends…he told me he did cheat on his first gf when they were going thru problems…he admitted it was wrong…so i mean, people make mistakes…but how can i trust him. I feel like i have to let him go, but I can’t. I never wanna lose him. He said he would "wait for me" until i finish high school….but thats a few years ahead…i dont think we could both wait that long..but if we get together now, he’s 3,000 miles away,im in high school with the temptation of other guys,and just everything. I do care and love him, though. Dont know what to do :/

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Ok so my ex and i only dated for about 5 months, but during those 5 months we grew VERY close and fell head over heals for each other. He moved in with me and everything was going well. At times, he was hard to trust. One day he ran off to vegas with his friends.. and cheated on me. I broke up with him. I got with my new boyfriend soon after (possibly a rebound?) My ex still comes by my house looking for me ( i hve never been there when he comes by) He tells my mom he loves me and he wants to marry me. I have been with my new boyfriend for two years and he has been with his girlfriend for a year and a half. He still comes by my house looking for me and tells my mom how much he wants me back. I havent seen him since we broke up! TWO YEARS!!! and he STILL hasnt let me go.. what do i do? i still think about him a lot and often dream about him. i would hate myself if i left my current boyfriend to go back with him and he did the same thing and hurt me again. i dont want to make the wrong decision! ugh! helppp meee pleassseee. and no stupid answers. i really need help on what to think of this

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I don’t know why… but my husband is very suspicious around me. He says he isn’t, but he definitely is. He never calls his mom in front of me, and when she does call he won’t answer in front of me. He always says " oh we’re busy, I’ll call her tomorrow". He gets constant calls (about 8 a day or more) from 800 numbers…. and this one 414 number. We do have a few debts so when he says they are bill collectors, they very well could be. He does EMS and sometimes he comes home late for work. I used to work at the same company and I know that at times I’d be 3 hours late coming home. Usually when he takes a shower, he brings his cell in there with him(I do the same so I don’t miss important calls). He also brings his laptop but he uses it to play music. I never go on his laptop or through his phone. I have went through his phone before and it always starts fights so I stopped doing it. A lot of times there were hurtful things on there. Him flirting with his co-worker, his mom texting him about divorce papers being in(We’ve since healed our marriage and shredded them months ago). He moved 1 hr 10 mins away from his mom. He moved 1 hour 45 mins from his job. He didn’t want to give up his job or friends or even college for new ones. He killed the car in mileage for 2 years, then finally got laid off from his one job. I got him hired down here, so he finally quit the other one. He tries to say he "quit" that job for me… but i’m sorry. when you move, you accept the fact that you need to find new friends, new jobs, and what have you. He always puts it on me though. He still isn’t very accepting of going to school down here or making friends. He throws a fit anytime i bring it up. Our pastor, aka our marriage counselor, said for him to permanently "delete" that girl the he flirts with from his life. He still hasn’t. Anytime i mention her he bursts out into anger. She got married and texted him right after. He said he doesn’t want to get rid of her because thats His "best friend". I thought i was his best friend? "Oh you know what i mean hun" is his excuse. When his phone rings, I don’t answer it. I’m scared he will get mad at me for answering it. I mean, I am his wife after all, but I want to respect his privacy. I do believe in whats yours is mine though. Other than these things, there really hasn’t been that many issues. We are definitely in love more than ever… but he just lies all the time, even about stupid things that don’t matter. I was cheated on in a previous relationship and always told myself I’d never marry a cheater. Well after we got married he told me he lied about it and used to cheat all the time, but he grew out of it. Why do I always think he is cheating? Why do I never feel like I have enough of his heart? Could it be because of his lies and deceit? Could it be because I’m scared to get cheated on again? I know his family hates me… and that already makes him love me less. I can never go to any family functions…. and he never says anything about it. He doesn’t always make me feel like a queen. He barely listens to me. He never listens to my advice. He only wants to do what he wants to do and doesnt care about my desires, plans or dreams. Its like he still thinks he is single. I really dont know what to do. Maybe if i get him to have the mindset of a husband instead of a single man, things would be better. Who knows how id do that though. I could sit and write here all day. But the point is… I dont feel treasured. I feel taken for granted way too often. It’s almost like that book/movie. "he’s just not that into you"….. only this one married me, then realized it. It sucks and hurts but i love my man and dont even believe in divorce if i wanted to. How do I get him to be more honest? really, i think if he wasn’t so suspicious, I wouldn’t always assume the worst. I know they say if someone thinks someone is cheating, its usually because the other person is and they are self conscious about it. Honestly, I am not cheating. I’m very faithful. I just wish he even cared enough about me to put a real ring on my finger. He’d rather waste money on video games. I’m a very gorgeous thick mid 20 year old woman. I have gained about 10 pounds recently… but this has been ongoing for quite some time idk. What do you think? advice? suggestions? tips to get him to love me more?

Thanks everyone,
goodnight!
I just wanted to re-iterate that to my knowledge has had NEVER cheated on me before… but he said he was a manwhore to his ex’s in the past.

I’ve talked to him and our pastor about all of these issues. The pastor put everything on me. I don’t know why. Anyway, my husband definitely has self esteem issues. I always tell him confidence is sexy, etc, etc. and always try to lift him up and make him see what I see.

I know he’s not cheating now. But I dont know if he did before or not. We just moved. But for some reason, anytime he brings up a female partner, and talks about her all the time…. I just don’t like it. It makes me un-easy. I do have self love and whatever else, I’m just too optimistic that it sometimes blinds me and causes me to be naive.

Thank you all for your advice. I just wish he’d tell the world about me on his websites(even though our status is "married" on them) & buy me a real wedding ring. Our marriage is only as strong as our ring! <3 Fake rings = flimsyness

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I was in a 13-month interracial relationship. It was not easy for both of us:

- he cannot be committed to me without his family rejection over a interracial marriage
- he cannot express his feeling because english is not his first language
- he cannot be himself becuase he cannot speak hindi with me
- his mom kept pushing him for marriage, but he can’t tell his mom about me
- I feel seperated/lonely whenever i hang out with his friends.
- I feel insecure about the whole situation from the beginning to the end – worried when he is going to get arranged with another girl in his culture
- I feel i cannot connect with him and there is a gap between us.
- I feel desperate…i want light in the relationship, but it is always dark
- We like each other, we enjoy each other’s companies, we talk to each other in numerous hours of phone calls everyday

Despite all these, we managed to be together for 1 year. We were, in general, very happy together, but wenever we both talk about/think of the future. We ended up talking about breaking up. So, this time is finally 99.99%.

He decided to break up with me because his friend has a similar issue like ours. She chose to marry the man despite of the family’s disappoval. The family is now no longer calling her their daughter!

This is like a series of scences in a drama:

1. He was very strong-willed. He told me strongly, "I don’t like you, that’s it. I cannot do this anymore. Even now i feel intensed to be in a relationship with you, it will be 100x more intensed after i told my parents about you."

2. He still called me for the next two days and told me how much he missed calling me sweety..So i asked what does he want, he responded the same way as before.

3. I msged him and snapped ties with him. He regret for saying no to me cus I "may be the best thing he will ever have".

4. The next day, I called him and decided to ask him what’s his intention for saying that. He said "he doesn’t know what he is doing." but he still insisted of snapping ties, so i agreed.

He is going back to his native land to visit his parents in 2 weeks. I don’t know whether i should hope for anything at this point. I am so worried he is going to find another girl during his visit. I have so much stress in myself and i feel very sad. I feel hopeless and have thought of hurting myself to ease my pain from my heart.

Tags: Culture, doi, family rejection, first language, Friends, gap, Heart Broken, intention, interracial marriage, Lonely, marriage, mom, parents, relationship, scences, ties

we’re 23. we were together for 18 months and we were very serious. i mean, we were practically engaged to be engaged. she broke up with me about a month ago and it has been very hard on me, hardest than any other break up by far. she said i was too jealous and didn’t trust her just because i wasn’t cool with her texting this guy till 3 AM that she met a few months ago. for some reason, we agreed to try to remain friends for us but also because she bought me a dog, so for the dog too. well, being friends hasn’t worked out too well. there are just too many emotions, mostly because i miss her and now i feel she has changed almost completely. she’s been a ***** to me lately too. we’re constantly arguing. i’m constantly asking her and wondering what is going on between her and the guy she was texting till 3 AM while we were together because now there sadly seems to be something going on, even its its purely physical because imagining her having sex with another guy kills me inside. she claims he had nothing to do with our break up though. i just don’t think i can talk to her or be friends with her at least any time soon, even if that means my dog can’t see her "mom" anymore (don’t think my ex cares anymore anyway). i feel like i’ve made no progress getting over her, but her being a complete ***** to me this week has started to push me away. i know whats best for me, i know i deserve better now, i know i should stop talking to her, but its really hard. i’m still thinking about her a lot, wanting to talk to her, constantly being reminded of her throughout my day, and so on. what can i do to really get over her?

Tags: Advice, being friends, emotions, ex girlfriend, having sex, mom

My ex n I broke up bc I thought he was cheating on me n then on valentines day he doesn’t even care to wish me, so I figured that he has someone else in mind, n it’s over, n plus his parents bitched at my parents like crap, n thts y my mom wanted us to break up no matter wht. I cant tolerate my parents insult, so i broke up with him, n he doesnt even care to respond n i also was quite sure he was cheating on me. Heres me carrying a broken heart, ready to give up on life etc…. all tht melodrama girls go though with a broke heart, adn then this guy walks in to my life and make my life wonderful n a desire to live again develops, n he falls in love with me asks me out n we r dating. But jst then after a month I find out tht my ex never cheated on me, he loved me like hell he had to go somewhere for his wokr n thts y he cudnt wish me valentines etc, but abt his parents bitching tht was true n well he didnt even knw tht his parents were rude to my parents. I felt so bad when i told my bf all this he was upset yet he told me that I can go back to my ex if i want to. Here is the real question what would u do if u were me? This happend 3 years ago, n i made my choice n i want to kn wur opion as what u might have done!

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Ok, I put out a question prior, and all of you people who I don’t know, are beautiful and thanks for the words of help. Bottom line is can you girls tell me if she can love me again. Remember i didn’t cheat on her, i dont abuse her and i dont put her down. I am just a easy going guy. Sure i know what pisses her off and im sure i have pressed her buttons but the big picture is to do anything to make the other happy. I am willing to do anything. Can she love me again. What do i need to do to get her there. Please tell me what she needs. i love her and my kids too much to give up. we are in counclling as well. With her mom being married 6 times i dont think its fair that she has been givin the life she has. I see her as a beautifull person but all she does is yell and scream. I want her to be happy and its not her falt that life didnt give her a good past. I feel i was put in her life because i where my heart on my sleave. I dont know whats its like to think negative. please help.

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so heres the summary of my past 2 yrs. i fell in love and well we were on and off and she liked another guy but it didnt matter bc she always ended back with me bc she "loved" me……so this time its different. im not broken hearted bc she dumped me.im broken hearted bc she doesnt know what she is doing..b4 she left 2 her moms house on a 4 day vaction she was saying i love you to me and kissing me and making out..she is a good girl.or atleast i thought.her mom lives 2 states away

i found out and she even confessed after i asked her..she fell in "love" w a guy in 3 days and had sex w him the last night she was there.so she thinks shes in love but i think she is super infatuated..

but anyways my real question is. i have dated and got to know many girls.but i cant seem to find a good girl for me. i feel like i’ll be alone the rest of my life bc i cant find someone who are like my ex. i knoweveryone is diff but my ex made me so happy. she had the personality i loved. and well since everyone is diff i dont like the other girls

so will i ever be happy again? i’ve dated atleast 8 girls and im tired of getting bored of them

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My wife comes to my office to have lunch with me but mostly we make love and than lunch, off course we lock the doors. Is a family owned business by my dad, my mom found out about it since I bought a bed for us to put it in the back room so wife and I have more privacy. My mom now tells everyone and she called my wife all the names in the book, I’m very close to my mom so I wasn’t harsh on her and now my wife is mad and won’t speak to me saying that the whole family things she is whore and I wasn’t standing up for her like I should. What can i do to make my wife make love to me at office again, i’m welling to tell her whatever she needs to hear or do?

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My girlfriend broke up with me on Monday, she gave me no real concrete reason. She said that we were fighting a lot, and she was really stressed.

Background: She has a baby, we just started back to college, she wants to get a job, and move out of her mother’s house. There’s another guy, but she told her mom she doesn’t like him "like that," which may be a lie. I love her and the baby more than life itself (although the child is not mine).

She asked me for space and time, but she won’t let me give her any; she says she still enjoys talking to me. I want her back, and I want to be around her, but I don’t want to be her doormat, and I just want her back in my life.

I promised her that if she would take me back, things would be different. She was my first girlfriend, and, also the one that took my virginity. I waited almost three years to date her, and then it seems as if once she gets stressed she just dumped me. I’ve been a mess all week, throwing up blood (from my ulcer that I’ve developed) and I’ve had an upset stomach. I’m basically suffering from classic "broken heart syndrome," which is just a lot of bad feelings and stuff.

How can I get her back without smothering her, and without getting myself hurt again in the process? Or actually, any advice whatsoever would be greatly appreciated.

Also, Her mom and I still talk, because her mom really likes me and wants her to come and date me again. But her mom is using me to keep tabs on her, and I’m using her mom to keep tabs on her. Through the last few days, she’s been having it kinda rough (or so I’ve heard), and I don’t know when a good time to ask her to date me again would be. She still has my shirt (she gave the rest of them back), and I found a shirt she left at my house once. But overall it’s like I want to date her again so badly, and I want things to change, that I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get it better. All I really want is to stop the pain in my heart, and I want her to love me again, regardless of whether or not it will "last," I just want a real second chance with her.

Tags: back in my life, bad feelings, broken heart syndrome, doormat, few days, first girlfriend, girlfriend, good time, How To Heal A Broken Heart, job, mom, pain in my heart, space and time, tabs, throwing up blood, ulcer, upset stomach, virginity

I’m recently divorced for the 2nd time and in my mid 30s. I’m heartbroken and depressed. I have great kids and they are the reason i live. I spend all of my time with them but I’m sure they have better things to do than hang out with their mom. I have just gotten so down on myself. I look at married couples that are happy like most of my friends and my sisters and I am so envious. I feel like a big loser to be my age and not be married. It’s hard financially and emotionally. All I do is sit home or take the kids places. I grew up in not so stable home, we moved around alot and my mom was married 6 times ( please don’t say anything mean about her b/c she passed away a few years ago) All I have ever wanted out of life is to be a wife and mother. Don’t get me wrong, I am educated and i went to college but I would rather have personal success than financial success. I want to have a family and someone to grow old with that can share life with me. I know that you never find someone when you are looking so I don’t look. I don’t even know if I will ever love again because I loved my ex husband so much and i’m having a hard time forgetting him:( Anyway, what can I do to feel better about myself? and should I just give up on having a family and accept that I will grow old alone?

Tags: big loser, financial success, hard time, loser, married couples, mid 30s, mom, personal success, Reason

My mother in law lives with us and she doesnt talk to me and just ignore me in my own house. I do respect her because his my husband’s mother but I feel really disrespected in my own house. I work from home and see her everyday. I tried being really nice to her and make some small talk but she will just ignored me like I dont exist. The only time she will talk to me is when she wants me to buy her some food. She only talks to my husband. His mom being around is causing stress in our marriage and I’m ready to walk away. What can I do to make my marriage work with mother in law in the picture?
my husband doesnt think there’s something wrong with his mother and told me just to understand his mother because she’s clinically depressed.

Tags: law lives, marriage, Marriage Law, marriage work, mom, mother in law, stress

2 weeks before my wedding my husband told me he didn’t want to marry me (had to go through with it cause of the $$ and people involved). I have went through emotional abuse, drinking, physical violence, controlling issues, and sexual issues with this man. There was absolutely nothing right in our relationship. I finally decided I wanted a divorce and I walked out. Had finally gotten enough self esteem that I didn’t need him and that I could make it on my own. I have a good job and can financially support myself. For temporary – I went to my parents house to live and my dad has cirrohsis…and after all he has been through I came home to him and my mom fighting because he was drinking again. I moved out young because of this problem and I ran from it again because I didn’t want to be there so I went back to my husband. I don’t love my husband at all. But he promised that he would start taking meds and change the way he treated me. Things have changed a little but I still have so much hatred built up for him for the things he has done to me. I met a guy on a work trip back a few months ago and we talk every now and then. We both really like each other but he lives pretty far from me. I get butterflies when I think about talkin to him. I fell out of love with my husband so long ago because he never treated me like he cared one bit and now I feel so stupid for sittin around and letting it happen. I want my life back! I am 25 yrs old and a really good person. I just want to be happy. My husband is trying to manipulate me into staying and saying I can fall back into love with him. I have been goin to therapy to try to get all this figured out but personal experience or opinions would be appreciated.

Tags: butterflies, Cirrohsis, dad, divorce, emotional abuse, good job, good person, hatred, job, love, meds, mom, parents, personal experience, physical violence, relationship, self esteem, sexual issues, work trip

First off, i ama guy with very few friends, and by that i mean one or two .. i am 18 and i finally got a girlfriend i care about and love with all my heart.. it might seem like not alot of time, we were dating for just over 3 weeks.. and we broke up last night, and i honestly contemplated suicide alot – i wrote the letters ot my mom and the select few who i think care about me. – and i didnt want to kill myself because we broke up, but because my life is horrible, no friends, nothing good to look forawrd to.

teshia(my girlfriends name) texted me and told me she wanted she wanted to talk to work things out..(last night) and i was happy again, and i called her this morning and she didnt seem to want to anymore, she told me she did but she thought something else was going to happen. she said she thought she would leave me for some hockey player who is totally out of her league, she likes him but he has absolutly no interest in her.. and she doesnt see that.. i i called things off
this morning… i have thought about her every second of the day for 3 weeks, i have gotten no sleep since weve been dating – i always looked forward to seeing her.. i am really devestated, and its not like i can just go pick up another girl, im not that type of guy – - -anyone have some advice that they have used that might help..

Tags: ama, girlfriend, heart, hockey player, love, Mending A Broken Heart, mom, sleep, suicide, type of guy

My wife and I have been married 4 years and she quit her job a year ago because we wanted to start a family and she got pregnant fairly quick. She did all of the housework and laundry in our home untill she got 5 months pregnant and then she just stoped cooking,cleaning, and would only wash my work clothing. I also noticed she started spending a lot of my money on stuff for the baby without telling me, so I took away her bank card and started giving her a 0 allowance which at the time seemed like a smart idea even though she resisted at first she accepted it. By 6 months our house had not improved so I asked my wife what was wrong and she said she was tired and her feet were swollen so I told her I was going to hire a maid twice a month and have it come out of her allowance. I ended up hiring a maid at that left her with only 0 and we both argued for a week about it and then on a friday I got home and my wife had packed her stuff and left. She left me a note telling me how much I hurt her by making what was supposed to be the most amazing time of her life into something she wanted to forget she also reminded me of how she took care of me after my accident and never took my bank card away or put me on an allowance. When I read that it really hit home and I drove to Georgia to bring her back home and she didn’t want to come back with me and then I really knew I messed up big time. My wife and I are still legally married but she said she wants a divorce once our son is born and that she doesn’t want to see me till after she has the baby, so I won’t even get to see my first son be born. I feel awful about how I treated her is ther any way I could try to save our marriage or Am I just hurting her by trying to save it? I already send her flowers daily and call her daily but her mom says she doesn’t want to speak with me. Her mom did tell me she cries a lot and says that she thinks my wife still loves me. What else can I do?

Tags: 5 months, big time, divorce, flowers, hiring a maid, home untill, housework, job, laundry, marriage, mom, money, smart idea, time of her life, work clothing

My boyfriend has an expired visa. It’s been expired for 5 years now. His mom didn’t renew his visa and didn’t work his papers that’s why he is having a lot of trouble. We don’t want him deported. And we want that his status would be legal. Would marrying him give him a green card? Coz my grandparents said that marriage cannot change a visa’s status anymore.

HELP!

Tags: Deportation, expired visa, grandparents, green card, marriage, mom, Visa

My wife comes to my office to have lunch with me but mostly we make love and than lunch, off course we lock the doors. Is a family owned business by my dad, my mom found out about it since I bought a bed for us to put it in the back room so wife and I have more privacy. My mom now tells everyone and she called my wife all the names in the book, I’m very close to my mom so I wasn’t harsh on her and now my wife is mad and won’t speak to me saying that the whole family things she is whore and I wasn’t standing up for her like I should. What can i do to make my wife make love to me at office again, i’m welling to tell her whatever she needs to hear or do?

Tags: 101 Names, dad, doors, family owned business, love, lunch, making love, mom, whore

First off I’ll start with I am going to small claims court once I get this ready.

Then what happened. I borrowed money to my ex for bills. It comes it like 1100 plus. I know of that much in checks. We lived together from most if it. We had our bills separated. He would pay the house payment on his place. I would cover all the bills and groceries which is the same or more. We were not married. Our money is separate. Those times it was one of those needs to pay or get kicked out. One time his mom helped me I paid her back even though he said he would handle it. All the checks I wrote to him, he agreed to pay me back. I have the checks. Is that good enough? Should I try it and see what happens. His names are on the checks. And he signed for it.

I also have every check/bill with credit card I paid for the place. I should only need it if he says he wants money for the bills right?
For my property a few questions here. For small claims do I have to put down the total I paid back then or now? I know chances are I won’t get it back because I don’t have proof right?

I had to pay his cell phone bill because it was on my plan after we broke up. My phone almost got shut off because it was so high. I kicked him off after an incident and when he said he wasn’t sure he had money. He agreed to pay anyway. I have the bill and his name is on it could I get it back?

I also paid for him to get out of jail. A bonds man I have that. Another promise. Could I get that back?

Tags: Bonds, cell phone bill, Checks, Claims Court, credit card, groceries, mom, money, Money Back, Possessions, proof, small claims court

I’m now upset with my mom because she moved to England a few years ago. I have never forgiven her because in the process she lost my little sister and me. I now belong to my father and my sister lives with her father. She came back, but I still haven’t forgiven her.

Tags: england, little sister, mom, New Mom, relationship, sister lives