me and my long term boyfriend broke up today… we lived together in cali and he moved today to chicago to go get his life together.. i took him to the airport this morning and we said our goodbye’s. we were both crying and he didnt want to leave, but we both know he has no choice. he says he still wants a future with me and so do i with him. he said he will be back, but didnt say when. he wants to get a job out there and save some money and come back to me. i love him so much and this pain is unbearable. i feel like i cant breathe, like ive lost my best friend, like he’s died, like i will never see him again. i cant stop thinking about it. we have been together 24/7 for a long time and now he’s completely gone.. i dont even know what to do with myself. im so hurt. we are going to keep in contact, but it will be very little. please any advice to help me feel better. im desperate. and please nothing negative. thanks

Tags: Advice, best friend, cali, job, long term boyfriend, long time, love, money

Okay so on March 1 I broke up with my best friend named Beth. I broke up with her because she always lied to me and she stole my money. Once she was dating a guy named Jacob who did drugs. I told her that she should break up with him. She told me that she did. A couple days later I found out that she still thought she was in love with Jacob and that she wanted to run away with him to Canada and that she never broke up with him. After that I forgave her and didn’t talk about it anymore until she stole my money. I showed her were my money was because we were going to Starbucks and I needed some money to go. Two weeks after that a hundred dollars of mine were missing. She was the only person who knew where my money was. She said she didn’t take the money which was a lie… so on March 1 I broke our friendship. My heart has been breaking very since. We were friends for four years and best friends for three years. I have thought about suicide but that would heart my family to much. So I don’t know what to do and I really need help… please tell me the best way to heal my broken heart…cause I still love her with all my heart.Thanks for the help!!

P.S. Please don’t call my lesbian because I loved my best friend which just happened to be a girl… I like guys so I am straight. I’m not dissing those who are gay or lesbian I’m just not going to be one.

Tags: best friend, best friends, broken heart, Canada, couple days, Dating, drugs, friendship, jacob, love, march 1, money, starbucks, suicide

My boyfriend and I were together for about 10 months. I broke up with him 3 weeks ago. I didn’t want to, but he stopped talking to me so much. He would text me about once every week for the past month. He lives 4 hours away and hasn’t come to see me in 3 months because we have both been busy. However, he told me he would come see me 2 months ago and we made plans. He didn’t come. Two days before he was supposed to come he tells me that he doesn’t have the money because he just bought a “crotch rocket.” I was upset with him at first but I just let it slide. Then we made plans for the next month. One week before he was supposed to come, he tells me he can’t because he is busy. Once again, I am disappointed. I can’t go up and see him because I don’t have a car (I’m in college and he is a few years older). Then, he stops talking to me, as I mentioned earlier. I’m so in love with him so I didn’t want to give up on him but I wondered “what is going on?” I start thinking that maybe he’s found someone else or he just doesn’t want me anymore, or something like that. So, eventually I just break up with him because he kept telling me “I’ll come see you. I’ll talk to you more….” but would never do it. I didn’t even get an explanation. A week goes by and he doesn’t try to talk to me at all.
I then met a guy that I was kind of attracted to but he wasn’t the kind of guy I would want to date seriously. I was thinking that my ex and I were done for good. So, I had sex with the new guy twice. I did it because I was extremely hurt about the breakup and I thought it would help me get over my ex (it was not a smart thing to do, but I have learned my lesson to not have sex so soon after a breakup; I think everyone has to experience things before they learn). Three weeks after the breakup, my ex texts me. He says how sorry he is for everything and that he’s been having emotional problems because his grandfather was in the hospital and his aunt just found out that she has less than a year to live. I completely understood and asked if he would keep talking to me on a more regular basis, but we didn’t get back together. He asked if I had been doing things with other guys and I said no. I shouldn’t have lied though. Like 3 days later I told him that I actually had been with another guy. He got really upset and acted like I cheated on him. I knew it would hurt him but I explained how I had been feeling about him. He didn’t forgive me and told me “whatever, I hope you enjoyed it.”
So he asked me to leave him alone, and I have. I want him back though. I would never cheat on him if we were dating and I’ll never do something like that again. I honestly feel like I want to be with him for the rest of my life, so I don’t want us to be ruined forever. It makes it so difficult because we live far apart. What should I do or say to make him forgive me?

Tags: 10 months, crotch rocket, emotional problems, love, money, Money 98, texts

For the past year. Things have been really rough. I lost my job and got another a month later for less money. In November i have been going to school and working 2nd shift keeping me out of the house alot. My wife who has two beautiful daughters who i raised as my own is considering a divorce in June. She says the last past year i have not been myself she says i have been mean and angry alot. At times i have been verbal abusive to her. I know my sins regret them and feel shame on myself and the things i have said. It has not been easy on me and i handled the stress terribly. I told her not to think of the bad things but to look at the whole picture and the 7 years we had together. I do love her, and I am man enough to see my faults. She says she doesnt love me anymore and wants her space. She has been staying at a friends house over the weekends. She says no matter what she does it wasnt a easy decision. She says she is miserable and feels unloved. I tell her everyday that i love her. I want to be and i know i can be a better man and a better husband than i have been. If i knew she was this unhappy i would of done something about it sooner. She says she is thinking about it but it hasnt changed her mind. I want to get her a mothers day card what should i say to show her i still love her and that im sorry for the pain? Can I save this marriage. If so how do i go about doing it?

Tags: better man, divorce, Faults, House Wife, job, Lost, love, marriage, money, mothers day card, shame, stress, unloved

Three months ago, my wife and I got married. We were doing just fine. Until she started stripping. I wasn’t ok with it, but she started doing it with a friend. I was never ok with it, but I accepted it because I love my wife more than anything in this world. And it was her decision. But a little over two weeks ago, she had a break down after telling her dad what she was doing. She started blaming me for her stripping because of where I work. I dont make enough money where I work to comfortably support us. Which is why she started stripping. Before we got married, I had promised her I’d get a new job. But I kept putting it off. I had every intention of getting a new job, but I just put it off. And that happened a couple of times. This time, she left. She is staying at a friends house and has been ever since. Ive changed the way I do things. I use to be lazy, but Ive changed that. Im taking resposibility and doing things that I should have done a long time ago. I sold my truck, so 300$ a month goes back into our pockets. Ive been constantly been looking for a job. Got a couple different options coming up. one possibly with the school system. She wont come home because she is afraid I’ll quit searching for a job. And she doesnt trust me when I tell her that I promise to do everything I say im going to do. But after what Ive done, can you blame her? Saturday, she talked to me and said, she wanted an Anullment. But a couple hours later, she tells me that she is going to hold off on the anullement because she loves me. And I know she does. She said dont call or txt her. She’ll call me. She called me after 3 days. Today. She said she was calling to hear my voice and to see how the job search was going. ive been looking for a Fulltime job that pays more than minimum wage for over 2 weeks now. Its hard to find somthing like that. And believe me, ive been looking as hard as I can. I have a few connections and maybe able to get a job with the School System here as a Custodial/Maintanence engineer. I guess you could say, Janitor. Im in college but they are all online classes. Thank god. But i cant convince her to come home and let me show her how much ive changed. And im afraid that if I cant get this job fast, she’ll get tired and leave for good. I love my wife. I know ive made some mistakes in the past. But I am human. And i want to make up for all that. But How can I show her if she isnt home and I cant call her? Any suggestions?

Tags: anullment, anything in this world, couple hours, cust, dad, enough money, fulltime job, intention, job, job search, long time, looking for a job, love, marriage, minimum wage, money, new job, pockets, searching for a job, Somthing, Stripping, three months