I’ve been dating someone for 4 months, everything has been smooth, easy and wonderful. A lot in common. Same morals, blah.. blah.. blah. He’s recently divorced (I know, my 1st mistake) and has a child with her. This is the 2nd time she had left him, filed for divorce this time. Told him that she felt no compassion for him on their honeymoon that he went through a lot to plan out and make special. No intimacy between the 2 before she left the 1st time and certainly not the 2nd. She now tells him she wants another chance, he has since told me that he isn’t considering her, that I’m everything he’s ever wanted and have made him happier than he’s ever been, I’ve done nothing wrong and I’m a wonderful person, BUT… he needs some space. He feels lost and empty. Doesn’t know if he can love again. Wants time alone to work on himself, get his head back on straight. Hasn’t called me since. Is he contemplating her? Or did he get scared? Will he be back or do I need to move on?

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I’m a 19-year-old college girl, and for personal and religious reasons (I’m Christian), I’ve committed to remaining a virgin until my wedding night. I still want to date now, because naturally my body is encouraging me to have sex, and I want very much to fall in love and move toward that wedding night. The only trouble is that it seems most guys are accustomed to getting sex much earlier in a relationship than I’m willing to provide it, and I’m worried they’ll all get snatched up by girls who put out sooner.

Also, I hear so much talk about wanting to ensure "sexual compatibility" before marriage. This doesn’t really make sense to me because I’m thinking that if we have compatible sex drives, as well as similar morals and desires when it comes to sex (all of which we can find out just by talking), and we both have all functioning parts, there can’t be any real sexual incompatibility. Of course, I’m a virgin, so if I’m wrong on this, do tell. My point being that many people consider premarital sex common, and even practical.

So here’s the thing: I want a man who will respect my desire to save sex for marriage, who will be willing to marry without a "test run," and who will be patient enough to work with me on the honeymoon until I’m able to please him sexually. Are they still out there? If so, where can I find them? Are there any men on Y!A who are also waiting?
greatprincemichael, that was completely unhelpful. I’m already aware that most people in our society engage in premarital sex. If you read the question, I’m looking for someone to help me live up to my personal standards, not to scoff at them. A conservative church has not forced these values on me; I have chosen them myself based on my own personal interpretation of the Bible, and based on what I do and don’t want to experience in my life.

Thanks to everyone else for the wonderful answers! I really appreciate the suggestions, the encouragement, the personal experience, and the humour!

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