If a dad has children from his first marriage and remarries and has more children is it possible for him to have equally good relationships with all of his kids? In my experience the children from the first marriage always seem to be forgotten or want to be forgotten. Is it possible to juggle fatherly responsibilities between two households?

I’m really looking for personal experience.

Tags: dad, Divorce Children, households, marriage, personal experience, relationships

2 weeks before my wedding my husband told me he didn’t want to marry me (had to go through with it cause of the $$ and people involved). I have went through emotional abuse, drinking, physical violence, controlling issues, and sexual issues with this man. There was absolutely nothing right in our relationship. I finally decided I wanted a divorce and I walked out. Had finally gotten enough self esteem that I didn’t need him and that I could make it on my own. I have a good job and can financially support myself. For temporary – I went to my parents house to live and my dad has cirrohsis…and after all he has been through I came home to him and my mom fighting because he was drinking again. I moved out young because of this problem and I ran from it again because I didn’t want to be there so I went back to my husband. I don’t love my husband at all. But he promised that he would start taking meds and change the way he treated me. Things have changed a little but I still have so much hatred built up for him for the things he has done to me. I met a guy on a work trip back a few months ago and we talk every now and then. We both really like each other but he lives pretty far from me. I get butterflies when I think about talkin to him. I fell out of love with my husband so long ago because he never treated me like he cared one bit and now I feel so stupid for sittin around and letting it happen. I want my life back! I am 25 yrs old and a really good person. I just want to be happy. My husband is trying to manipulate me into staying and saying I can fall back into love with him. I have been goin to therapy to try to get all this figured out but personal experience or opinions would be appreciated.

Tags: butterflies, Cirrohsis, dad, divorce, emotional abuse, good job, good person, hatred, job, love, meds, mom, parents, personal experience, physical violence, relationship, self esteem, sexual issues, work trip

I’m a 19-year-old college girl, and for personal and religious reasons (I’m Christian), I’ve committed to remaining a virgin until my wedding night. I still want to date now, because naturally my body is encouraging me to have sex, and I want very much to fall in love and move toward that wedding night. The only trouble is that it seems most guys are accustomed to getting sex much earlier in a relationship than I’m willing to provide it, and I’m worried they’ll all get snatched up by girls who put out sooner.

Also, I hear so much talk about wanting to ensure "sexual compatibility" before marriage. This doesn’t really make sense to me because I’m thinking that if we have compatible sex drives, as well as similar morals and desires when it comes to sex (all of which we can find out just by talking), and we both have all functioning parts, there can’t be any real sexual incompatibility. Of course, I’m a virgin, so if I’m wrong on this, do tell. My point being that many people consider premarital sex common, and even practical.

So here’s the thing: I want a man who will respect my desire to save sex for marriage, who will be willing to marry without a "test run," and who will be patient enough to work with me on the honeymoon until I’m able to please him sexually. Are they still out there? If so, where can I find them? Are there any men on Y!A who are also waiting?
greatprincemichael, that was completely unhelpful. I’m already aware that most people in our society engage in premarital sex. If you read the question, I’m looking for someone to help me live up to my personal standards, not to scoff at them. A conservative church has not forced these values on me; I have chosen them myself based on my own personal interpretation of the Bible, and based on what I do and don’t want to experience in my life.

Thanks to everyone else for the wonderful answers! I really appreciate the suggestions, the encouragement, the personal experience, and the humour!

Tags: college girl, conservative church, desires, encouragement, girls, honeymoon, humour, interpretation of the bible, life thanks, love, marriage, morals, personal experience, personal interpretation, personal standards, premarital sex, relationship, religious reasons, scoff, Sex Marriage, sexual compatibility, sexual incompatibility, test run, Virgin, wedding night

Why do i feel this way???
I don’t understand why you are playing games with my heart.. I know you really want to see me cry.. I hate myself beacuse i’m in luv with you.. I’m tired of the bullshit everytime you say " I love you".. But, i do understand that LOVE HURTS SO BAD..
personal experience……

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