I was with this guy for three months, I really liked him so much. I never felt this connection with anyone before.

I was very distant I admit but it’s because he was the first and this is my personality, it takes me time to get comfrotable with a person. And then I started becoming comfrotable. A few things happened and we decided to break it off, mostly he decided. But he said we should stay friends. I can’t stay friends, I tried but I can’t – I like him way too much to think of him as a friend only.

I tried getting back together, I thought we were going in the right direction but then he insisted it was only friendship.I decided to stop calling him, but it is so hard. It’s been two days and I cannot stop crying.

I really thought we clicked, and I think I had started to fall in love. Now I have to live with the idea that he’s probably going after some other girl and that he moved on while here I am constantly thinking about him. IT IS HARD. Especially when it is not easy to find a good guy where I come from, they’re all immature players.

For anyone who has gone through this, how long will it take for me to forget, I can’t stand this feeling anymore!!
and BTW, I can’t even make myself go out at night or anything. I know I will be in a bad mood only thinking about him, and it won’t be fair for my friends to endure with me.

And every place remind me of something about him. I would just rather be home being sad, than going out and thinking about him constantly.

How can I get over this??

Tags: bad mood, broken heart, friendship, going in the right direction, love, personality, Stay Friends, three months

I have been with this guy on and off for 7 years. We have a 5 year old together. I love him very much though I have every reason not to. He has lied, cheated in the past, done drugs, been arrested for them, and still hangs out with the people he used to do them with even though he is on probation. We would fight every single day over his poor choices and his continual lying.

He told me 2 weeks ago he doesnt love me anymore and that I ruined his family by telling his parents the bad stuff he was up to. He said he would find another girl he doesnt have such a history of doing bad things to. This hurts so bad… I know I shouldnt be with him but no matter how many times I hear that its near impossible to let go. It sounds selfish but its hard for me to see him with another girl because im afraid they will have some great relationship that I tried to have with him but we couldnt cause of his actions.

Why is my heart not healing from this? He has moved on and hasnt looked back…
Lily – you dont have the most comforting personality, do you?

Tags: bad stuff, broken heart, drugs, great relationship, heart, lily, parents, personality, poor choices, probation, single day

so heres the summary of my past 2 yrs. i fell in love and well we were on and off and she liked another guy but it didnt matter bc she always ended back with me bc she "loved" me……so this time its different. im not broken hearted bc she dumped me.im broken hearted bc she doesnt know what she is doing..b4 she left 2 her moms house on a 4 day vaction she was saying i love you to me and kissing me and making out..she is a good girl.or atleast i thought.her mom lives 2 states away

i found out and she even confessed after i asked her..she fell in "love" w a guy in 3 days and had sex w him the last night she was there.so she thinks shes in love but i think she is super infatuated..

but anyways my real question is. i have dated and got to know many girls.but i cant seem to find a good girl for me. i feel like i’ll be alone the rest of my life bc i cant find someone who are like my ex. i knoweveryone is diff but my ex made me so happy. she had the personality i loved. and well since everyone is diff i dont like the other girls

so will i ever be happy again? i’ve dated atleast 8 girls and im tired of getting bored of them

Tags: Advice From, Broken Hearted, Broken Hearts, girls, good girl, infatuated, love quot, mom, personality, rest of my life

Hello everyone….

I’m posting this question because I’ve reached
a real low point in my life.

I’ll be 42 in July and…. I am desperate to get
married & have children.

Some background…..

Had a serious relationship from age 23 to 26.
Mutual (and friendly) break-up….. We both just
grew apart.

Dated another guy from 27 to 28. Liked him,
thought he was a nice guy, but was never actually
in love with him. We parted ways, again on friendly
terms.

Dated yet another guy from 29 to 30. He, too, was
nice, but he had been married before, and he told me
he didn’t want to have any more children.

So I broke up with him, too.

And now….

From age 31 to this day (10 years later), I have
NOT been in a romantic relationship….

(My, but the time has gone fast!!)

I’ve tried just about everything….

— asking friends if they know anyone for me

— going hiking with the Sierra Club singles group

— taking golf lessons, sailing lessons, tennis lessons
(mostly other WOMEN there, looking for a man, too!!)

— trying online dating sites (match.com, eharmony, etc.)
(Have had about 18 or 20 blind dates through these, but
not met anyone.)

— trying church groups for singles, and even "all-church"
events just to meet people, in general.

— volunteering with a number of charities, in town.

— getting to know people at work, etc.

NONE of it has "worked" (resulted in being asked
out on a date.)

(Although, I have made an awful lot of nice friends,
in the process.)

About me…. I am 5 foot 7 inches tall, slender, no
stunning beauty, but not bad looking, either…. kind,
funny, nice (enough) personality, etc.

I just don’t know where to turn, now…. All my friends
(and cousins) my age are all married with multiple kids
by now….

Does anybody have any ideas for me??

Thanks so much, in advance, for your help.

Tags: 10 years, amp, blind dates, charities, church groups, cousins, Find A Husband, getting to know people, golf lessons, hello everyone, love, nice guy, Old Maid, online dating sites, personality, Romantic Relationship, sailing lessons, serious relationship, sierra club, stunning beauty, tennis lessons

You noticed a change in their personality or looks etc.
They seemed to have fixed the things that lead you to break up with them/lose feelings?

Tags: feelings, personality, Running

My one fiend says I listen to sad music lol, but I listen to A LOT of music, all kinds. My art is actually darker. I like the scary pictures (but the nice ones too), I LOVE scary movies and adrenaline rushes in real life. I write poetry and it’s kind of dark (about death) and it’s hard to write good love poems, although I have. But it’s wierd because I’m totally the happiest guy EVER. I am always smiling and laughing.

Tags: Adrenaline, adrenaline rushes, fiend, lol, Lot, love poems, Music Art, personality, poetry, sad music, scary movies, scary pictures

She is a beautiful woman. Maybe her personality isn’t so good. Tony Romo just dumped her and before that it John Mayer. She is so hot looking. I don’t get it.Nick Lachey divorced her also. What’s the deal ?

Tags: beautiful woman, Boyfriends, Doe, Jessica Simpson, john mayer, nick lachey, personality, tony romo

Wall of text incoming!

So my friend, lets call her Sue, has been my friend for a long time and has started going out with a new guy, let’s call him Jack. Now, Sue introduced me to Jack and I got to be really good friends with him. Early in the relationship, Jack cheated on Sue. Jack kissed another girl, which was big because of Jack and Sue’s lack of much physical contact. But, Jack didn’t ever tell Sue about this and it’s just been realized what has happened these past few days, several months later. I personally think Sue should forgive Jack. This is because I’ve talked to Jack and just know his personality, and I believe he genuinely loves Sue and is very sorry. However, Sue’s family and all of her friends disagree, and I didn’t believe it myself until a few days ago when I talked with Jack about it. I told Sue this and I think she discussed it with her friends and family, and because I was once also against Jack but now am not, I think they are mad at me, which I don’t want.

As I sad before, I talked about this with Sue, and she will NOT be together with someone who cheated on her, even though he has gone as far as apologizing and giving her a ’sorry’ gift in front of her sister, mom, and lots of friends, which in my opinion, takes a lot of guts. I also think that Sue is mad at me now.

Now I feel like I just can’t win. I told Jack I would try to talk to Sue, and I did, but it didn’t end up the way Jack was hoping, so he’ll be mad at me. I think that Sue and her family, who once deeply trusted me, no longer trust me, and I’m afraid that both parties, who I was once friends with, are not anymore.

I guess I changed my view on Jack, and I’m afraid that people won’t like me because of it. And suggestions on how I can get myself out of the large hole I’ve dug myself into?

Tags: few days, friends and family, good friends, guts, large hole, long time, personality, relationship, sister mom