And how long before I quit wanting to pick up the phone and call him? This relationship has been over for him for a long time, but it’s easy and convenient for him so he’d just assume stay even though he’s already decided he doesn’t want anything long term with me. Get this – he’ll leave when the next best thing comes along, but until then, he doesn’t see any reason for us to break up because something better may never come along and I’ll get to keep him by default, at least day by day. Huh? I decided to pick up my pride and move on, but my pride is seeming less important by the minute! lol He’s so sweet and so nice and has really helped me out the last 3 years of my life – he just doesn’t love me! But I sure love him… Actually I guess I just need y’all to call me an idiot and tell me to leave the dang phone alone!

Tags: 3 years, Initial Pain, long time, Move On 98, pride, relationship, years of my life

A breath I long to breathe,
A nightmare, I wish to wake wake from,
the isolation from your poetic love
has brought me but in deep contemplation,
a raging anxiety within a womans heart
A tear of confusion within a womans being,
turmoil and solitude, as I wait, for none but thee,

Return to me oh dictator of mine heart
Stretch thine fine hands towards mine heart
repossess your place within my being,
For now till forever
An eternal slave to thee

Across oceans and rivers goes my cry too thee
return to thee oh angelic being..
a love not from you is like hard bark of wood
A love originating from u rejuvinates my entire being,

How crazy this love has made
From the mountains of feminism I roared,
From the pride of independence I glowed
but now am sitted at your table
willing to serve you and honour your need
a life without you , unfanthomeable
a need of you unbearable
you have redesigned me
reconstructed me…
And forever will I dream of thee
till your Return,

Tags: anxiety, confusion, contemplation, dictator, eternal slave, feminism, heart, honour, isolation, love, mountains, Nightmare, Oceans, oceans and rivers, Poem Love, Poem Type, pride, Rivers, Sad, solitude, turmoil, Wake Wake, womans heart

Are you sure that you want to get your guy back after a breakup? It can be hard to know exactly how you feel in the days following the breakdown of your relationship. Feelings of loneliness and wounded pride can be confused with real love. It is always a good idea to try and analyse your relationship and why it failed. If the reason is that long term you are not compatible then do yourself a favor and move onto the next guy. You and your ex deserve to be happy but this does not necessarily mean that will be as a couple.

But if you are genuinely pining for him try these tips:

1) Never stalk a guy to get back with him. He won’t find it flattering but will think you have lost your mental capacity. You need to project a confident image even if your insides resemble melting ice-cream.

2) Always look your best whenever you go out. As Helena Rubenstein once said, there is no such thing as an ugly woman, only lazy ones. Now is not the time to let yourself go. Get your hair done, always wear make up and wear the clothes that show off your body in the best light. Don’t change your image. He fell for you the way you are so now is not the time to change.

3) Try to determine why you were dumped. Did you behave badly? If you did, then you need to apologise and do this properly. Men have feelings too although they usually manage to hide them better than women.

4) Did you play too many games? I don’t know what it is about us women but for some reason we sometimes treat relationships as if they were a game of Chess. If I do this, he will do that approach doesn’t work in most cases and men, like all human beings, do not like being played. Honesty is always the best policy. If you have been playing games as you were trying to see if your feelings were returned, then just ask him out straight. Most men like the direct approach – they are not very good at reading signs and subtle hints.

If you do get back together, make sure that you have sorted out the problems that caused the break up in the first place. Failure to do so just means that you are postponing your heartache. If you are looking to spend your life with this guy you need to be sure that you are compatible in all areas. While sexual attraction is fantastic and in my view a necessary part of every good relationship it isn’t the only thing that matters. Mutual respect, appreciation and shared values go a long way to avoiding having to deal once again with the question of how to get a guy back after a break up.

Tags: feelings, loneliness, love, pride, Project 97, relationship, Stalk

this is for boys… what would make you want to take your ex girlfriend back? My ex and i dated for over four months and i still really miss him sometimes. he was honestly the only one that made me feel good enough and feel like i was worth something. we had a really good relationship and i still care about him. i just want to know from a boy’s perspective what would make a boy want an ex girlfiriend back.
we broke up because he was going after a girl he had wanted for ages. but they got together and we stayed best friends and then she was a b***h to him and he came back to me twice but i dunno…. we just work together and he knows that. im not the type to be like baby i miss you and i want you back. good lord, i have pride ya know. i dunno maybe its a bad idea to think about us anymore. god im kind of pathetic ha.
and p.s. i have gotten hotter

Tags: bad idea, best friends, ex girlfriend, four months, god, good relationship, perspective, pride