I’ve been with my husband for 6 years (inlcuding dating). I’m in my early 20′s and so is my husband. I love him deeply but don’t know if I want to be here anymore. I met someone else last week and spent most of the week with them, hanging out all day and getting to know each other and eventually sleeping together.

I convinced myself to leave my husband (so I tried) and then I slept with him, came home and admitted it. Now my husband is considering taking me back.

But I don’t know if I want to work things out. I’ve developed feelings for this other person and can see myself living a good life with him. But I’m afraid to hurt my husband again. I don’t deserve my husband after doing this to him and if I could do this to him, I mustn’t be "in love" with him. People tell me you can cheat and still love your partner, but how can you. How can you hurt that person so much? I don’t understand and I don’t want to stuff him around. What do I do?
I don’t want to continue on with this guy if I decide to stay and I’m not seeing him right now. I know I need to work out my shit, but what I guess I’m asking is does a cheater deserve another chance. My view is he deserves better than this, but on the other hand I don’t want to be a quitter (even though I did quit the second I decided to cheat).

Tags: 6 years, cheater, Dating, feelings, love quot, M 105, Met, quitter