I will try and make this short- over a year ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me. We were actually engaged, to be married this past September. Over the past year, we have gone from not speaking, to being friendly, to being full fledged back together, to breaking up- several times. He has come back to me probably 4 times since he first ended things, and the last time was around this past New Years Eve.

We had been living together and I moved out when he ended things. I moved about 4 hours away, back to my hometown. He came out here around New Years, we had a good weekend, talked about being back together, he said he loved me, etc. He even said while he was here that he would marry me the next weekend if that’s what I wanted, but of course that would be rushed and I said I would rather wait and plan something low key but special.

He left and not two days later he called me and told me what he did every other time he broke up with me- he’s depressed, he doesn’t feel the way he should about the relationship, etc. And he ended things. He said he is also unhappy with the business he runs and he wants out, he isn’t making enough money, etc. I asked several times what the real reason for breaking up with me is and he said he can’t put his finger on one particular incident or reason, just that he gradually changed. I was devestated and could barely function for over a week after this.

He told me via text last week that he talked to his parents and he is going to talk to a therapist about his depression/unhappiness. He said that we can’t keep doing what we’re been doing because it’s too hard for both of us.

He is 30 years old, by the way. I love this man, and I cannot picture my life or future without him in it. I would have stood by him through anything, no matter what, but he has pushed me away several times now. I feel like I can barely breathe I miss him so much. I kept taking him back because he is a good person and I believed him when he told me he loved me and wanted to be together. Now I feel like a fool.

What should I do? I know I have to leave him alone, but its so hard- he was my best friend. Beofre anyone says there is someone else- I know for a fact there is not. We both have dated other people this year we’ve been apart, but I am best friends with his now roommate and I would know for sure if someone else was in the picture. So, how do I proceed? If he really is depressed, I want to be there for him. But I don’t want to chase him either. Adivce?
He now says he cannot continue forward with me because he has doubt about the future, and cannot enter into a marriage with doubt. I understand that, and would not want him to be with me if he wasn’t sure anyway. Should I wait for him to come along? I can’t stand the thought of losing him, but don’t want to hold on to someone that doesn’t want me, either…

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I’m in love with this guy I work for and I found out a few weeks ago that he was married and has two kids but I really loved him. He’s 34 and I’m 24 so he’s ten years older then me but I’ve always liked older guys. He’s very cute and romantic though so I don’t want to let him go. He told me that the real reason he hired me was because he was attracted to me but he told me this before I found out about his wife so I was flattered by that. But I feel bad for his wife especailly since I met her and she seems very nice and when I told her I was "single" she offered to pair me up with one of her friend’s younger brother who is also single. I feel so bad smiling in her face knowing I’m in a relationship with her husband. I don’t know what to do!

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I had a feeling that I never had before in my life before I broke up with him: I can only describe it as a poisonous gaseous implosion. Has anyone had this feeling and what is it!? I couldn’t handle it and so I broke up with him, interpreting it as a sign that it wasn’t right. Nonetheless he is such a good match for me and I can’t seem to move on because I had no real reason why I broke up with him.

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I dated my girlfriend for 14 months. We went through ALOT together. To get started, we began our relationship on January 18th, 2008. In march of that year, i came very close to losing my life in a ski accident. I ended up with 7 broken bones and was out of school for about 3 months. The night that the accident happened, i told her i loved her while half conscious, ha. From that point on we were perfect together. She helped me all the way through my recovery. She ended up breaking her leg that same summer and i helped her with that too. We were completely in love. And yes, you may be thinking that this is the young, lust type of thing that people mistake for love. Im not the guy that said i love you after 2 weeks of dating. It took something serious, and life altering for me to fall head over heals for this girl. We kept getting closer and closer together, even throughout our periods of fighting. But overall, we knew that we could never let eachother go. I talked to my little girl from the first thing in the morning, to the time i fell asleep. My life revolved around her. It was perfect. I had everything i could ever want. Our anniversary, and valentines day of 09 were days i will never forget. In march 09, she ended our relationship. There was no one real reason. I broke down. I couldnt function. I lost everything. And over the next 4 months, i was so screwed up in the head. I always thought about her, i tried talking to her, begging her to come back, confessing my love to her again and again. Until one day her parents put a stop to it. No more contact. I was on anti depressants, started drinking a little, didnt want to have a social life. Our group of friends was pretty close. There were guys and girls and we did everything together. After the breakup, everyone didnt seem to hang out together anymore, it all ended. I finally got back under control of myself about 2 months ago. I didnt break down as much but i still loved her more than anything in the world. Even seeing her talk to other guys as a friend made me sad. Im around her everyday in school now. The no-contact period is pretty much over. She’ll talk to me now and then, smile, say hi, and so on. We’re on good terms but i want to be more than friends more than anything. I want someone to care about. Someone to give my all for again. I want to make her the happiest girl on earth. I NEED a way to convince her mind that im ok now. Now may i remind you that i havent talked about our relationship with her in about 2 months, so its been quiet lately. Please help. Ive been to therapists, talked with my parents, and just about everyone else. Its impossible to let go when you would die for this person. I want to show her that i can do this. She means the world to me.

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Many girls dump their boyfriends and don’t give any real reason. They have the urge to purge and drop their lover without him doing anything to her. Sometimes they want to get back together right away, but other times, they move on leaving you to hold the bag. This article will discuss how to get over a girl you still love.

First of all, you should understand that you are not alone. Most men fear being dumped by a serious lover than being rejected in the early stages of dating. This is because the bonds men form with the women they are dating are important to them. Sometimes it seems that the men see them as more important than the women do despite all of the literature directed toward women about relationships.

To get over girl, you need to stop adoring her. Don’t put her up on a pedestal like some kind of Greek Goddess. She has feet of clay which she exposed by dumping you when you did nothing wrong.

Don’t hold on to past memories of her. Get rid of the photos and momentos in your home that remind you of her. If you have some of her “stuff” get rid of it or give it back to her.

If you have entangled finances, sort them out so you can move on. This includes both joint banking accounts and settling debts you owe each other.

Don’t allow her to occupy the space in your mind that she had when you were together. She is part of the past and you have to live in the present and the future.

Close out all contact with your ex. Don’t call her “just to chat” or allow her to continue to email or text you. Instead, tell her that she called it quits and you want to start a new life without her in it.

This may make her want to pursue you even harder. Women are crazy that way. They want what they can’t have. If you are open to restarting the relationship, you can allow this communication to go on. But, if you want to start the healing process, she should be a persona non gratis in your life.

Don’t be afraid to express your feelings. Sometimes writing in a journal or writing music is sufficient. Other times, you’ll need a shoulder to lean on. If the situation is severe, consider getting short term counseling.

Finally, don’t mope around the house. Get back into the game. While you may not be ready to start dating again, you should go to the gym, play basketball with your buddies and go to a bar from time to time. Don’t stick around the house because you are too sad to go out.

If you have the opportunity to go out on a casual date, take advantage of it. Show the girl a good time, even if you’re not really that in to her. You will be more ready for a real relationship if you’ve kept up your dating skills.

That is how to get over a girl.

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