Ok, so I had treated her like crap and took her for granted the last 3 months of our 1 year relationship (before that it was PERFECT!) and that is b/c I had severe clinical depression and treated everyone that way (and also b/c I was a F*CKING DUMB*SS and took her for granted!). I lied to her (not much), and I was somewhat manipulative and would always start fights. She even told me (throught text yesterday) that she "never want you to say ‘I love you’ again". And she said i had even manipulated her into thinking she loved me b/c I would say or do anything to try and get her to stay with me. I sent her a text back saying the only reason I’d say NEARLY anything to keep her with me is b/c I love her sooo much. I know I dont deserve her back and Im such a dumb*ss but please I need your help! Did she mean what she said or was she just frustrated and angry???? Its been 2 months since our breakup and weve been talking most the time, but Im not going to contact her til around Valentines Day and give her a long sorry letter and a necklace. Did she mean it though? is that a good plan? SORRY ITS SOOO LONG! 10 points best answer!

Tags: clinical depression, Contact, crap, ex girlfriend, love, Reason, relationship, sooo, sorry letter, ss, Valentines

The ultimate sin is being boring. Why? Because the instant
you bore the girl, he or she is onto something else, and you’ve
lost her.

Keep in mind women love adventure and excitement; intrigue creates attraction. Open any romance novel and you’ll find nothing but exciting (to women) event after exciting event.

One reason why many relationships go bad is that the guy who was exciting in the beginning now becomes boring because he stopped doing the things she found exciting. Remember, women view relationships as the ongoing process of attraction, men view them as an end in themselves. If you want to keep the attraction alive, you must keep doing the things she finds exciting.

This is not particularly difficult to do, and really, "variety" is
a better word than "exciting." Constantly changing up the places you go and the things you do is more than enough to keep her from getting bored with you.

Tags: Boyfriends, excitement, intrigue, mind women, Reason, relationships, romance novel, women view

My wife recently disclosed she has been having an affair for the last three months and wants to pursue this guy and end our marriage of 17 years. How can I reason with her?

Tags: 17 years, having an affair, marriage, Marriage After An Affair, Reason, three months

diamondcity34 Posted on Jun 12, 2010 9:41 AM

I am writing today because I am the victium of a DL brotha(Down Low), I am at the point now where i am lost and I feeling i’m crazy..well at least me is making me feel that way..We have been married for 3 and half years now..and we have 2 kids together..my husband is in the national guard and currently is serving his second term in Iraq. I served in the military as well but got out to jet married and have a family. I should have known something was up when everytime i would cheat on him when we were dating..he always took me back and said that he loved me soo much and couldnt see me not being in his life..we were high school sweethearts, forgot to mention..anyways when i was stationed in germany which was his first tour in Iraq we were suppose to get married since then..but for some reason i didnt feel right about the situation and i turned him down..i could never put my finger on it as of what it was..anyways that was my last tour and i got out of the military..came back home and he would always push the issue of us getting married..so then we just got married with the justice of peace..honestly i was pressured to marry him by family members and all…so i did it…his mother never even came!!!, said that she had to work!!..wow, A MOTHER KNOWS HER CHILD..but it still never dawned on me..anyways a couple months later i was preganant with his first my second child!, while i was preganant he neva showed no affection..and so i fussed and fussed on the issue and moved out and went my own way..got me an apartment and all…

Anyways ima skip some things cause i will be typing forever..My husband is currently on a tour in Iraq at the moment and I heard him having sex with another guy on the phone..my heart dropped, I was trembling, shaking and all..shocked out this world..I kept on listening and he was telling this guy that he loved him..and the guy was screaming his first name!!!..So of course I started screaming and going off on him..and he never said a word..I hung up on him and he never called back til 2 days later!…during that time, i was lost..my world had just came down right there in my face..He finally called back and said look i know that you heard things but jus ignore it!!!..now u know if i coulda stick my hand throu that phone..lets jus say it wouldnt be nice!..Anways through all this yes he has desires of being with me..he told me he felt that way since high school..its like i have soo many questions and he’ll tell me little things like yeah i have been sleeping with men..then turn around and say he lied!!, He constantly does things like that to me…and its breaking my heart..he dont even tell me he loves me anymore..we only had sex twice before he left..he shows me no affection and says when he gets back that he will work on that..??my take on that is how do you have to work on something that is natural when u love someone!!…His ring he doesnt even wear his ring…I asked him if he had it and he said yes and when i asked him to see it, he refused to show it to me!!!…and then the next day he apologized and showed me a ring that is not even the same ring that i purchased for him!!!..crushed me again…he is always going to the gym at 10:30pm!!im like wth!!..he sleeps with his back faced me!!..He doesnt even ask about the kids!, He lies, and keeps secrets..

*And he laughs like its amusing to him!, and brushes me off…The killing part of it all is that he is sleeping with his roomate!!…so he is living the life out there..wrk once a week…and watch dvd’s all day..he never sleeps and i dont understand that..I ask him to show me his d**k and refuses..and when he does it on the hard!!! and all shiny!!! wth!!…i ask him why is that like that..and he makes up lies and i see it in his face that he is lieing!!! It’s like when we talk its like he twists it on me!, like i can ask him well do you want a divorce and he tells me well thats what you want so do it..i dont want it but if thats what you want then thats on you!!, like he does things like that!! and laughs like its funni!!..*

HELP ME WHAT AM I TO DO!!??

Tags: affection, apartment, dl, family members, germany, half years, having sex, heart, high school sweethearts, iraq, justice of peace, Lost, national guard, neva, Reason, second term, Typing, Wow

I am a very sexual person I love making love to my wife it puts my mind at ease and takes me to a place in which me and her are the most important things on eachothers minds. We have only had sex twice in 4 weeks for no reason and when I ask her about it she says she just doesnt want to. It makes me feel like she just isnt atracted to me any more i ask her if its me and she says no. I am very romantic I cook her breakfast in bed and give her massages for no reason I am so confused. How can I show her that this really upsets me. I try to talk to her about it and when I am done I think she cares but then we go through it again the next night. It feels like I have been reduced to begging for sex. I know she isnt cheating on me so i just dont understand. Any tips to get her in the mood would be very helpful. She has no sex drive she has said "sex just isnt important to me" but it is very important to me. We never have sex twice in a day or two days in a row. What to get her in the mood????

Tags: Atracted, begging for sex, breakfast in bed, cares, important things, making love, massages, Puts, Reason, sex drive, Sexual Love, sexual person