I’ve been in a relationship since highschool. She’s actually my first and only girl friend ever.
So we’ve been together for more then 5 Years…
The relationship seems fine and everyday is the same. A few stupid fights here N there, but we get along great most of the time, and I love her. All is good.
But recently my emotions are getting to me. My friends are hooking up with girls that they’ve had crushes on, people are getting married, and other friends are just living the single life up. They come over and hang out and my guy friends bring over just amazingly beautiful girls! Making out in front of me and I just can’t help but envy them. Being young wild and free, but I’m feeling locked down. As if I’m married and old…we as a couple don’t go out enough, don’t make love ever, and she always has to bust in the room and spew negativity. I love her, but she’s so lazy and full of drama.

She’s gained alot of weight since we’ve been together, which seems to make thing worse. She’s gotta be 250 now!?? I’m not shallow and actually like thicker built women, but I honestly don’t feel like ive ever been with a real woman ever!!! My girl is so out of touch and uninterested in me, it’s like I’m lonley.

I’m kinda a clean cut nice guy and girls always smile and say I’m really cute and a great guy, but them go home with one of my dweeby friends and bang.

I’m just having that feeling of regret and wondering if I’m doing the right thing and keeping this relationship going when deep deep down Im jealous of my friends all doing what they really want to do and dating girls and being young and wild.

I just feel lost….anyone know what I mean… Advice?

Tags: beautiful girls, Bust, dating girls, doing the right thing, emotions, Envy, girl friend, guy friends, heart ache, nice guy, real woman, relationship, Relationship Advice, single life, spew, Wild 97

I am having an extremely difficult time getting over a past boyfriend. We were together for about a year and a half, and spoke every day, and saw each other often. I find myself thinking about him a lot, and I just start crying at the drop of a dime. It’s only been a few days, so I’m hoping it will get better, but it seems to only be getting worse.

Should I seek counseling or even consider medication? I’m just really depressed.

Or, are there other things that I could try to do to help me not be so sad? Please help: any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

Tags: amp, counseling, drop of a dime, few days, Getting Over A Relationship, hard time, medication, Relationship Advice

Are you in the process of surviving a break up? It may seem like there is no hope. But, really there is – all you need is some proven relationship break up advice.

First of all, you have to decide whether the relationship is really over or whether it’s just a temporary situation. Some people find that their coupledom becomes even stronger after a hiatus.

But other times, you know that it is over and you need to go about mourning the relationship. Your ex was probably the person who you were closest to in the whole world. Now, you need to find people and activities to replace him or her.

Sometimes you can turn to friends and family members to discuss the situation. If they are sympathetic and allow you to do the talking that you need to do, this is an optimal situation.

Unfortunately, most people are consumed with their own situations. They have little patience for dealing with other people’s problems and concerns. While they may listen for the first couple of days, their basic tenet will be “get over it.”

If this is the case, you may want to consider going to a counselor. A therapist will help you work through the issues that caused your relationship to dissolve. Many people have found that a counselor is the best person to help you in surviving a break up.

At some point, you have to start to move on. One of the best ways to do this is to exchange all of the personal items you have with your ex. Most of the time, this means clothes, but there are other items which you keep at each other’s homes.

If there are things like toothbrushes that don’t merit an exchange, throw them away. If you have personal gifts that you don’t want to give back, box them up and put them away for the time being. You don’t want to have anything that reminds you of your ex lying around the house for the time being.

Then, start focusing on how you can improve yourself. Because you were part of a couple for so long, you referenced yourself as “we.” Now, it is all about “me.” And, that’s not a bad place to be in.

You can now do the things you want. She didn’t like gambling? You can now go to the guys’ poker night. He didn’t like chick flicks? Rent all the movies you missed.

And, start doing a self improvement campaign. Go work out. Take some classes. Join a hiking group.

Start to meet new people, particularly people who can be friends not lovers. These people will provide a valuable network for you now and in the future.

Finally, at some point, you have to put yourself back on the market again. Go to single’s events or check out online dating sites. When you find someone new who you really like, you know you will be finally over your ex.

And that’s how to go about surviving a break up.

Tags: amp, Break Up Advice, Hiatus, Relationship Advice, Temporary Situation

Men often wonder if they are speaking the same language as women because they can land in hot water very quickly. They look for relationship advice for men in order to avoid these situations but most relationship advice is written by women for other women.

There are some basic “understand women” rules that men need to know of  in order to increase their success rate with women.

The first one is you need to worry when your woman gives you the silent treatment. Most men go silent because they have nothing left to say but when a woman goes silent, it is generally a bit hint that you have upset her. Whilst you may think that silence is golden, women use not talking as a punishment. So if your lady friend has a silent day, think back over your actions and try to determine what you have done to upset her.

Secondly, PMT is not always the reason for a woman being in a bad mood. Sometimes they are upset and hurt over something and it has nothing to do with when their period is due. If you constantly blame PMT, you will probably find yourself searching the lonely hearts columns in the near future.

Women like to talk about their problems but this doesn’t mean that they want you to fix everything. Most females are quite capable of looking after themselves and they just want to let off steam. God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. Just in case, it was so you could listen to what your partner is saying before you jump in with the solution. Do yourself a favor and believe that silence in this instance goes a long way.

When looking for relationship advice for men, they often look in the wrong places. It is not ideal to ask your partners father what her problem is. Firstly he is unlikely to understand her any more than you do but being the apple of his eye, he will wonder what you have done to upset her.

It helps to remember that your female partner and an elephant have something in common – their memory. Your partner will never forget anything so don’t be surprised if she has a list a mile long of all the things you did wrong in the last six months.

Try talking to your partner. Tell her often how much you love and appreciate her and cuddle her without always expecting it to lead to sex. Like people of both sexes, women like to be held and appreciated without feeling they have to give you something in return.

Also if you are worried about something speak to your partner. Whilst she may be female, she is not helpless and two heads are often better than one at solving a problem. In addition, if she knows what is bothering you she is less likely to become emotionally distant having decided that you must be having an affair or are planning to leave her.

Life long partnerships take work on both sides but be careful what sources you use as relationship advice for men.

Tags: amp, hot water, Lady Friend, Relationship Advice, silence, Silent Treatment, Success Rate, understand women, worry

I dated this guy for 6 months during high school but we broke up when he went to college. There really wasn’t a good reason, we were just both interested in living the new life ahead of us (his first year of college-and being an athlete, and my senior year of high school). A while after we broke up, I realized just how much i really liked him and wished that I had tried harder to keep the relationship going. His family really liked me and was really disappointed when we broke up. They were upset with him, which made him kind of mad at me just because they understood my side more than his. We broke up about 3 years ago and I am currently in a relationship that has been going on for 2 years. I am really happy with the guy I am with now, but I just don’t understand why I can’t stop thinking about my ex. I had a dream about him last night where we ran into each other and things were just back to normal and we realized that we still loved each other. So yeah, I just need some advice. I am not sure if the dream is a sign that I should try to get back with him or if it just just a thing. I am just so confused right now and I am not sure how to get over him.

Tags: 3 years, athlete, good reason, hard time, relationship, Relationship Advice, senior year