Okay say you were in a relationship with someone for a while. You really loved the person and they loved you too, but somehow the relationship ended, but you stayed friends and are on good speaking terms. A few months later, you’re in another relationship, but it is turning out not so well and you’re not sure if it’s going to last much longer. Then, this ex comes and tells you that they’re still in love with you. What would you do?

Tags: Ex Girl, love, relationship, speaking terms

What is the best way to get my ex back?

We ended the relationship because of long distance, but I’m willing to fight until the end to get her back because our love was so strong. But she is confused how can I get into her heart again and make her love me? I’m willing to do anything to get back with her! anything!

Tags: ex girlfriend, heart, long distance, love, relationship

My boyfriend and I broke up few weeks ago. He said that our "internal issues" were affecting our relationship (that was merely starting). The breakup was smooth and we’re still in good terms. I decided not to speak with him to give him space but I honestly want to win him back.

Tags: relationship

I really love this girl, it’s pure genuine love, and I told her I love her.

But a previous relationship she was raped and abused, and she says she doesn’t trust me.

I’ve known her for 2 years and I really want to be with her.

I don’t want to force anything on her, but what should I do, I can’t back down now, after all this time.

Please help

Tags: Love Help, Pure Love, relationship

I am moving back home and really want to start a relationship with my ex again bc i still care about her. When ever I am in town we will go see a movie or go to lunch. I cant tell if she still has feelings for me bc she seems to watch herself around me. How can I find out if she cares about me still and not ask her directly because i don’t want to make it weird if she doesn’t have same feelings. also her parents really like me does that help things?

Tags: cares, feelings, lunch, Moving, parents, relationship

I just have a quick question. I am a black woman and I’m attracted to all types of men, both inside and outside of my race, although I’ve only dated black men. Recently, I was asked by a very attractive white man if I wanted to go out on a date sometime. I haven’t responded yet, but we did swap numbers and we have talked on the phone a few times. He seems like a very nice and down to earth person that I would really like to get to know better. But, I’m a little hesitant to pursue a relationship, because I’ve been told by close friends that white men only use black women for sex and then dump them "like yesterday’s garbage." On the other hand, I have heard that white men cherish and treat not just black women, but all women nicely. So I was just wondering why white men like black women?Is it all sexual, emotional, both, or does it depend on the person?

Thanks

Tags: black men, black woman, black women, close friends, down to earth, earth person, garbage, Men Women, quot, relationship, white man, white men, White Women, Wome

I don’t know what to do I feel so alone. My bf of 3years, we just decided to part ways. We have a 4month old daughter to top it off. I feel so sad about this. For the pass few days I’ve been crying and crying. Although I’ve tried to fix things between us it just isn’t working anymore. We fight all the time since the baby has been born and he’s cheated on me twice during our relationship(The never had sex but he cheated, one was while I was pregnant). Has anyone been down this road before? Going from a family to a single parent in just a matter of months. It just hurts so bad. I’ve love this man for so long.

Tags: bf, few days, how do you heal a broken heart, relationship, single parent

im nineteen my ex and i broke up mutual we both ruined the relationship from the begining although i started dating someone else i broke up with him because i cant get my ex off my mind…… now i want my ex back and i do not just wanna ask i wanna do something special to prove i love him more than nything… ny ideas?

Tags: begining, Bf 109, love, relationship

Sorry if this is too long. So I was dating my past boyfriend for about six months, but recently I broke up with him because a whole bag of ****. He was always working and we never had any time to even see each other, and he wasn’t even willing to give me any time, and when we did have a scheduled time to be together, he always stood me up and had some excuse for why he couldn’t make it. I was wanting to move in with him but I didn’t have a job yet, but now I do after I broke up with him.

And here’s the problem. Now that I ditched him, he will not let go of me. He is always calling, always leaving me messages, and talking about how we need to get back together. I told him I am done with him, and that I want to move on, and that he needs to also. But he tells me he will always be waiting for me, and that he will never give up hope for us. I want to be nice, as I have tried to be during this entire situation, but I can’t get the point across that I don’t want us to be together ever again that he has lost me. Now don’t give me **** about it not being his fault, because he showed almost no interest in us while we were dating, and now he is all over me like white on rice.

Also when we first started dating everything was going well, and we always were together and he always had time for us. Now he is always busy with something else, and I always say that if you are too busy to find time at least once a week to be together for a little while, then you are too busy for a relationship.

I’m mentally exhausted from him, and I was wondering if anyone has gone through this same thing, and what did you do to let them know that they just need to leave you alone and move on? I have tried everything almost, except from telling him **** you and go jump off a bridge. I also feel that if I find someone else, that he might be scared away from my ex calling and leaving messages all the time. UGH
Horace, go suck a god damned bag of dicks.

Tags: bridge, dicks, Ex Boyfriend, excuse, Gay, god, Haters, horace, job, relationship, six months, white on rice

Hello, a year ago, i broke off a 3 year relationship. The breakup was pretty bad; lots of crying and lots of drama. Then I started dating this guy shortly after the break up (in few weeks, or maybe a month). That relationship lasted for 9 months and the break up was mutual; we are still good friends. So I am convinced that, that relationship was a rebound. Now, few weeks after this break up, i’m starting to date again…would you consider this a rebound too? Is it too early to date again, even though i have moved on emotionally?

Tags: 9 months, good friends, Hello, rebound, rebound relationships, relationship

Whether it is yours or someone else’s? Does it just take time and patience and space? There is a woman who is a good friend of mine, and I have fallen in love with her. I am repairing my heart from being in a toxic relationship, and the last dyke who romanced my friend, broke my friend’s heart also. She has told me she doesn’t want to be sexual with me, and I respect that. I just would like insight as to what I could do to help her heal also… or am I doing all that I can?

Tags: dyke, good friend, heart, How Can You Heal A Broken Heart, insight, love, patience, relationship, time and patience

I went out with my sister-in-law this weekend. She is a smart, talented, hardworking, BEAUTIFUL woman. Her ex husband sucked the life out of her and never appreciated her.

Now she’s dating, and the guys that she goes out with use her up and then want nothing to do with her.

I see this all the time; a phenomenal woman will get with a guy and within a few weeks he is treating her like crap. Once he’s sucked all of the life out of her, he moves on. It seems like once a man has a woman hooked, he starts doing shady crap and when she calls him on it, he treats her like she’s "crazy" and "insecure" and "needy".

It’s to the point that I hate men! A man will try to flirt with me and I’m absolutely DISGUSTED! The thoughts that come into my mind are, "Yeah…you want ME to give YOU my happiness and worth. You want in my pants; you want me to clean your house and cook your dinner, while you go out with your boys. If I complain, then I’m a B****. If I ask for help, I’m a nag. You want me to take care of you in bed and out and I get nothing in return. Yeah, keep flirting, Loser".

I pretty much think how DARE he flirt with me!?! On the other hand, I see women. I see how they’ve been hurt. "Sl*ts" aren’t bad women; they are women that have been hurt by men so many times that they don’t care any more. They get their physical needs met and move on, because you can’t expect anything from a selfish child.

I actually told this to my husband the other day. I told him that I like him and I love him, but I just HATE men. This is genuinely how I feel. Men find a beautiful, vibrant woman, use her up and dump her out with the trash.

I don’t even understand why ANYONE would want to pursue a relationship with a man. I think if my husband turns out to be a run of the mill life-sucker like the majority of other men out there, then I’m turning lesbian.

Behind every B***h is a man that made her that way!
Ok, to be less general: why are GOOD men such a rare find?! There are some out there; I’m actually married to one of them. I kissed a lot lot lot of frogs before I found him though, and I see my girlfriends (married and single) just get used and used and used.

And to the men with the rude responses about my question: You are exactly the losers that I’m talking about! I bet you left some beautiful vibrant woman miserable in your wake. Good job! See if you can ruin a few more lives before God finally rids this planet of you.

Tags: bad women, beautiful woman, crap, Dating, happiness, loser, Many Men, Men Suck, Men Women, phenomenal woman, quot, relationship, selfish child, Sister In Law, sucker, trash, vibrant woman, Women Men

Last year I ended my 8 year marriage to my wife for MANY reason. We were total opposite, and in different places of our lives. My family understood my reasons and were very supportive. Until I started dating again. Shortly after my divorce I started dating Jenn, younger girl from work. We NEVER had any type of relationship before my divorce. We talked now and then but that was it. She is a lot younger then me she is 22 and I am 38. Our relationship went moved very fast, when we were seeing each other for close to 3 months she found out she was pregnant. My family were horrible towards her. My sister called her a home wrecker, gold digger and a child everything she could think of. my brother says I am in a midlife crisis and that our relationship isn’t real. My mother is nice when my girl friend is there but when I am alone she is always saying things like how she is to young or how one day I will wake up and she will be gone with some one her own age. I am happy and that’s what matters. But I know how much it upset Jenn, she wants my family to like her, she wants to be close to them. She has went out of her way to be nice but they are so closed minded that they don’t care.So many times after visit with my family they have made Jenn feel so unwelcomed that she was literally cried on the drive home. I hate seeing her so upset. It is to the point now that I don’t care if we visit them at all. Which makes Jenn feel like it is her fault I am not seeing my family. My sister in law (one of the few family members that is nice to her) asked me if she would mind if she threw us a baby shower (this is the first child for both of us)and my sister was mad about it. I know jenn would love it but at the same time how rude and cold would they be towards her. My daughter is due to be born in a few weeks and I am happy and excited so is Jenn but I am afraid of the way that my family will act. I literally stress out over wondering what they coudl possible say at the hospital to upset her. How can I explain or show them how happy were are as a couple and how much pain they are causing us?

Tags: baby shower, brother, Dating, different places, divorce, family members, girl friend, girlfriend, gold digger, home wrecker, marriage, midlife crisis, Pregnant, relationship, saying things, Sister In Law, younger girl

i friended this girl over myspace and she’s honestly the most beautiful girl i’ve ever seen. i’m normally not into starting a relationship with someone met online, but i’m definitely willing to make an exception. How can i go about doing this tho, especially cuz she’s a freshman at a local college and i’m a junior in high school? How can i get to know her without coming off as a creeper? And do you think she’ll be up for starting a relationship over myspace anyways?

Tags: Beautiful Girl, creeper, freshman, local college, myspace, relationship, tho

call me crazy but i have a problem. my boyfriend and I were really good friends. then we started going out. and after around 3 months he told my best friend that he loved me. and i already knew i loved him. and at the 4th month we had our first kiss. the reason why he waited so long is because he said he wanted to go slow and not rush things because he didnt want to loose me. its now 6 months that we have been together. 2 of my friends think ever since we started going out we both have changed, and his bestfriend wants us to break up because of it. also in the last month too was kind of hard for me: his parents got in the way of our relationship, he flirted with this girl like crazy right infront of my eyes, & because he had done something that almost ruined our relationship totally. I told him it would be awhile before i trusted him again when it happened. recently though he hasnt talked to me as much on the phone and he has stopped texting me. alot of girls seem to like him too. he tellls me he loves me and all but can i really believe it? and worse i really am in love with him. i am so lost and confused and its even worse to think about if he might break up with me because hes getting tired of us or something. and i know that if he is he really doesnt love me at all. so i figured if i could make him love me more or even get him to love me or care about me more maybe i could fix everything. because i dont want to just sit around and iqnore all that could be coming, especially if i had a chance to fix it or change it. So tell me what should i do?

Tags: amp, best friend, bestfriend, Fall In Love, first kiss, girls, good friends, infront, kiss, love, parents, relationship, rush

I have been dating a girl for about 2 months now. When we are together the chemistry is perfect and every outside influence concerning her family and friends are completely supporting our relationship and view me as "the one." The only problem is her ex-boyfriend. They dated for about 3 years off and on while he lived for away partying all the time and taking her on an emotional roller coaster. He’d tell her he’s not ready to commit because he’s scared and therefore their "thing" was solely physical every time he came to town. A couple months ago, he came back to town lived with her for a couple weeks (he had nowhere else to go) and started treating her like they were a real couple. Well when he left back to party city, he cheated on her. That was when she had enough, she was heartbroken and decided to move on. Thats when I came in the picture about a month later. Everything since then has been perfect. I have never been happier in my life since we started dating. The only problem is her ex-boyfriend is now freaking out after he heard that she has moved on with me and is telling her he is in love with her, wants her back, wants to have kids with her, and all the things she wanted to hear in the last 3 years she’s known him. Nobody, not her friends, or her family like this guy, nor has he ever made an attempt to even meet her family. I know he has the upper hand over me because of all the things they’ve been through, but where do i go from here? She is now confused about what she is supposed to do. I had a conversation with her about life and these situations and honestly, i’ve played all three roles before in the past at different times, and I know the psychology behind it and how these things work. I also told her exactly how I feel about her, how I want not only her in my life but her family and friends as well, and how genuine and pure my feelings are for her. Time has no effect on intuition or the feeling you have inside when you just know who you are meant to be with. It certainly doesn’t take 3 years of a physical off and on relationship to figure it out either. This guy is telling her that sometimes you have to lose something to figure out what you lost and everything else in the book.

So where do I go from here? She wants to stay together because she knows what we could have, but her past with him and her feelings are too much for her to handle, and she feels like she needs a break to figure out what is right for her. But this would entail her talking to him and maybe seeing him in person. Do I step aside and let her make a mistake? or what do i do?

Tags: 3 years, chemistry, couple weeks, different times, emotional roller coaster, family and friends, feelings, gf, intuition, love, party city, partying, psychology, relationship

me and my ex broke up do in part to her having soo many guy freinds and one in particular that i knew really liked her.we fought a lot and eventually broke up i never cheated,lied everybody lies i guess what i mean is i never lied about anything realiting to the relationship.we fought a lot because i was overly jealous she lives and another state how do u get your ex if she lives in another state and how or were do u start to get her back?

Tags: freinds, Guess, relationship

It’s been about 9 months since I’ve been with my boyfriend he’s great and treats me the way anyone should be treated. Not to mention he is so gorgeous. Which makes me wonder sometimes why he’s with me when I have nothing more than average looks. Anyways…. I love him very much and he tells me the same everyday. But there are times where I feel like there is something wrong. I don’t know why but I sometimes get the feeling that he would leave me for someone else. I’ve told him a few times before that if he were to leave me it would be for someone better. And when I say better I mean physically and someone who has a better lifestyle than I do, because I grew up in a semi-impoverished background. And I feel like if I lose him that I wouldn’t be able to love again because I went from such a horrible relationship to a great one and it would just hurt me so much. I don’t know what to do and I know if I keep feeling like this that he will leave me. How can I supress this.
Another thing is I wanted to get a job and at the time we were living in separate dormitories in different locations. And I told him I wanted a job and he said there would be no point of him going to the dorms I was at. And now he is out looking for a job which leaves me to be confused. I know if he gets a job he’s never gonna have time for me or anything. And that doesn’t help me any. I’m just so confused and helpless in this.

Tags: 9 months, Background, dormitories, dorms, feelings, lifestyle, looking for a job, love, relationship

I’m 24 years old and my girlfriend of three years recently dumped me via text message. Her reasoning was she was too busy with school and work to have time for a relationship, which I can understand but it hurts nonetheless. Not sure how best to deal with this loss because I was really starting to have some serious love for this one and now it’s just over. I’m just looking for any helpful advice. Like do I give her time, ignore her, call or not call, delete her number/facebook, wait it out and hope she’s realized it was a mistake?

Tags: 24 years, girlfriend, How To Cope With A Breakup, love, mistake, relationship, text message

hi everyone, here is my synopsis; I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I met her through a mutual friend. I pursued her at first and we ended up taking the relationship serious within a month. She has 3 serious relationships before me and the one before me was just a month prior before. They have been together for 2 years at least before that. I one always cut ties off before trying to get into a new relationship cause it always causes problems so I immediately give the respect to not involve anyone else thats an ex. okay well I caught wind of this 2 months after us being serious with each other that she had been texting him back and forth. I was not happy about it at all and I confronted her about it, the messages were coming in late at night while we were sleeping and it woke me up so I asked "who is that texting in the middle of the night?" she was willing to see and let me know. I explained it made me uncomfortable and I would like her to eliminate the excess baggage. she explained at first how she couldn’t and how he was a part of her family and pretty much gave me the run around. so I left it alone but i wasn’t convinced. 1 month later we had gotten into an argument and I was at work while she called into work. she had gotten so intoxicated she started texting him. I had an suspicion that she was so i looked at her phone and saw a few messages. I confronted her "did your ex text you at all?" she said no at first and I know she doesn’t like a certain friend of mine thats a female so I informed her that she texted me.. well she still stuck with the story of no…then i had to tell her well i seen where he did… and why are you lying about it? she got upset naturally that i looked but had no argument after realizing how deceitful it was. I explained again that it bothers me and i would hope she would stop. well ill fast forward to now. I have caught her texting him at least once a month since the past 7 months we been together..she even did it last month while we both were at home having drinks and I wanted to do my own thing just listen to music and drink a few. well i had one to many and passed out.. she ends up texting him while i was asleep. I wake up a few hours later and i found out she did because she said she felt disconnected? i was like you cant talk to me about how you feel? you have to involve someone else into our problems? she even disguised his number as an female name in her phone. so now my trust in her is gone but can be salvaged by my terms…should i loose her cause clearly she has him on the back burner when things aren’t going so well…and its been seven months! I get limited on fun activities i used to love doing but yet she can sit cozy in the house all day because she dont work…and text him.

Tags: 7 months, Ex Boyfriend, excess baggage, girlfriend, late at night, Met, mutual friend, quot, relationship, relationships, suspicion, ties

We have been married for 20 years next month. I am a stay at home mom with a 13 and 17 year old kids. I feel unappreciated for everything I do (everything except the yard work) but that’s just part of the problem. Although my hubby says he loves me, he really doesn’t show it. We have this pattern of things going fine for awhile, I get frustrated, blow up and tell him what’s wrong, he changes for a while but in about 3 weeks, he’s back to his old ways again. He’s trying and even my daughter told me he’s trying, mom, he really is, but I don’t know how many more times I can keep this up. The difference this time is that I’m not "running back to him" like I usually do. I hate conflict and it kills me inside to have this going on. I’m very frustrated and angry and have quite honestly thought about the greener grass, but realize it has it’s problems too… I’m feeling stuck… Any words of wisdom out there?

PS… He has a lousy relationship with his mom and I think he really doesn’t know how to relate to women. I asked about all of his previous relationships and he said they all broke up because "the new wore off". I asked him what was different about me….hoping for some awesome statement… He said, basically it was because I stuck around…
To give a bit more detail… I have been working off and on part time throughout the years. My husband likes to be the sole breadwinner and rather discouraged me working, especially full time, so I could stay at home with the kids. After the summer I do plan on finding a job since our oldest is graduating. We got married when I was 19 and really had no idea about love or marriage.
I’d also like to add that there have been several years of verbal abuse to not only myself or my children. He believes marital counselling is a "last resort" and isn’t interested in going. I have given everything to my husband and my family…I just want to be loved in return…that’s all…
Oh and for those of you who think there’s another man…there’s not!

Tags: breadwinner, conflict, finding a job, full time, greener grass, Home Mom, home with the kids, hubby, last resort, love, marital counselling, marriage, part time, quot, relationship, relationships, stay at home, stay at home mom, verbal abuse, words of wisdom

I have been dating this guy for 6 years now. We have a 2 year old daughter together. I decided that I wanted to leave the relationship when I was about 7 months pregnant because I was really unhappy. At that time he was finishing grad school 2 hours away from the home that we shared, so even though we "weren’t together" I continued to live in the home that we had together. When he finished school. I was in my Junior year of Undergrad and decided that it was not financially possible to leave while finishing school with my little girl. So in order to stay on track with school we now lived in the same house but in separate rooms. We called ourselves dating other people and like most girls while he was actually out dating other women I simply lied about seeing other men for about a year so I didn’t seem like I could’ t move on. I was so hurt that the mother of his child could be less than 20 feet away from him and he could actually carry on a romantic conversation in the next room. He had been completely unthoughtful of my feeling and what he had at home. So one day I started to see this really great guy. He treated me like a princess and understood my position on things in my life. He never pushed me to do anything that I wasn’t ready to do including meet my daughter! This guy took a job 5 hours away because I wasn’t ready to fully commit to him though. After my little girls dad realized that I had really moved on and might really like someone, he decided that I was the one that he wanted in his life. I can most definitely see his efforts in trying to turn things around. He still doesn’t cater to the romance that I need from him, but he does make an extra effort to give me all the simple things that I used to ask of him. We have been trying to make it work for about 3 months now and I am really having a hard time trusting him. I am constantly having to tell myself that it is okay to let my guard down but the simple thought of going through what I have been through with him again makes me want to cry. A simple hug from him almost makes me cringe. I am so emotionally disconnected from him. However a small part of me says if he is sincerely trying I should give him the benefit of the doubt. Could I ever fall in love with him again?

Tags: 6 years, 7 months, dad, Fall In Love, Finished School, finishing school, girls, grad school, hard time, job, little girl, little girls, Live 105, princess, relationship, romance, separate rooms, simple thought, undergrad

Its been 2 weeks since we both departed and we both have not contacted each other at all. I thought I could move on, but I just can’t. We had minor issues in the relationship, but I don’t feel like we should be apart. I believe that I can change my ways and save this relationship. I feel like he is my sou lmate. Help me get him back

Tags: Move On 98, relationship

In a relationship its always the mean who decide when to terminate the relationship, most of the time..but why is it that way? why are us women always the ones to get dumped. but we rarely dump men, instead we are always the victims? men aare always the cold hearted ones that decide they want nothing to do with us?

Tags: Break, Men Women, relationship

If you suspect your relationship with a man was on the rebound and you’ve been together for over 2 years, have a child together and he says he loves you and is marrying you, is he being real?

Tags: rebound, rebound relationships, relationship