I dont get it…we went out for over two years. It was a pretty wild roller coaster ride. Two pregnancies, with two misscarriages. Tons of fights and breakups. When things were good there was nothing better, we truly do care for each other. We are pretty much alike, both stubborn and easily angered. I never cared or loved another girl, she was my first. But when things were bad they were terrible. We put each other thru hell for stupid stuff and I know we both regret it. We have tried parting ways and not talking but it doesnt last. Maybe a week or two, but we cant seem to let each other go. I just want to be happy….but I feel like I cant be happy with her and I’m miserable I can’t have her. We have one of them relationships people dont understand unless they had one. everyone says we need to let go and all but its hard when you feel so strongly for someone. I dont want to be miserable forever, I just want to be happy. With or without her. Anyone know what I’m going thru. Advice???
Its not my first relationship, but the first girl i ever actually loved.

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HI,
I could sure use some helpful advice. My husband and I have been seperated almost a month. In the last year of our marriage, things have fell apart. I grew distance and have had an emotional affair with another man, in which my husband now knows about. My husband and I have 2 autistic children, which are mine from a first marriage and he adopted them. We have not seen eye to eye on many issues with the kids and I have made some very bad financial decisions which has cost us a fortune.
I moved out. I debated on this for a couple of months. The night before I moved, he said I had to go. I begged him not to make me go. He said it had to be this way for now. Since then, I have also lost my job and am having to fight my unemployment. I truly believe God has let all this happen to me to put me on my knees and get my life straight. I have never felt like I needed or wanted God more in my life. I have gotten my life right with Christ and I am totally committed to my relationship with the Lord and my husband.
I have caused him to lose all trust in me. I dont know what to do. I can tell he is very confused. Our communications has improved greatly. Before there was none and we can talk for hours on end now. We are talking about everything openly. He has spent the night with me a couple of times and the passion has returned to our love life that has been missing. I feel like he is fighting what he feels. I have begged to come home and he tells me no. I know this probably is not the correct answer right now because I do not want a quick fix. I want my marriage and I want things done the right way. I try to tell myself his roller coaster of emotions is all normal because I have hurt him so bad. He does still tell me he loves me and he misses me. He had not yet to say one way or the other if he can say he can give me another chance. His answer for most questions is I don’t know. He did tell me last night he was confused. I try to tell myself that there is still communications and that maybe that means hope. Sometimes I feel like he is trying to convince himself to let go, but deep inside he does not want too.
I know I have to earn his trust back. Does anyone have any helpful advice to help me take the right steps in saving my marriage without pushing him away? I am hoping in time he will agree for us to go to councling. I am attending councling with my pastor. He does say he does not want a divorce right now. I am more dedicated to him and my marriage than I was the day I married him. I am trying to do the right things and save my marriage with us being seperated.

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My husband and I have been married for a little over 3 years and I thought everything was great until about 2 months ago he had some form of a midlife crisis (hes only 36) about how we dont have kids (I cant) and he feels worthless etc..so we got passed that now about every other day he just turns off towards me..he’s made comments that really hurt just last night he said if he doesnt feel better soon he’s going to leave. Feel better about what? He’s harping on arguments we had early in our relationship. Almost as if it just gives him a reason to not care. He says he loves me wants to be with me but he does not show it. I cry constantly I love him with all my heart and all I want is to make him happy. I am so confused and I want to fix it, I’ve tried being sweet, listening, making his favorite food..everything..when i tell him how i feel it makes it worse. I need ideas..help..he says everything will be fine but how I can I live my life with no affection or love I feel so alone now and it would be nice just for him to make some effort..any suggestions… is this marriage going to last? is it worth saving? Neither one of us have ever cheated so I don’t understand where things went so wrong.
just to add.. I’d love to adopt but he has something against wants his own blood for whatever reason. He went from feeling bad about not having kids to now he says he’s to old to have kids and doesn’t want them. It’s been a roller coaster kind of couple months. For example right now he’s been talkative and funny..but give it a hour I’ll be in tears again. he says we don’t need counseling we’ll be fine but I like the suggestion of going on my own…
He’s 36– I’m 26..so no I am not starting to age

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