I was in a relationship for 3 years and 90% of the time was not a pleasant experience. He was abusive (physically and emotionally) and hurt me emotionally in almost all the ways possible. I finally woke up 6 months ago and I decided enough was enough and I ended the relationship. He has not come to terms with our breakup and he calls me constantly for whatever excuse to talk to me. He will show up at my door, he was leaving lots of notes and roses and now occasionally will leave a note. He is extremely jealous/possessive and I can’t even be interested or date anyone because of this. I still love him and care about him, but I will never be in a relationship with him ever again. He said that he ruined the relationship with his behavior but I stopped his trying to re-establish a relationship. Basically I gave up in his eyes. I didn’t try my best according to him. I was always there for him, day and night. He owes me a large sum of money and I sacrificed many things (including one year of school) so I could make him happy. I worked two jobs to support him and his family in their times of need. I am now focusing on myself, school and family and friends. I’m only 21 and this is the only serious relationship I’ve been in and it was quite traumatic. Now for some reason he has switched it to where I am the selfish one who doesn’t have the time or desire to see him, when all through the relationship I had to practically beg him for his attention and time and love, which I didn’t receive. He tells me that he loves me and tells me all the things I wanted to hear 3 years ago. He hasn’t gotten mad in the past 6 months and has been respectful (except for trying to make passes/moves on me) and pleasant…but I still don’t trust him and apparently that’s MY issue. I don’t know what to do. I know that I won’t ever date him again and I’ve told him that. He is very needy and I think he doesn’t want to let me go because I am the only person that has ever helped him with anything he has needed. I think he relies on me too much and now that I am not with him, he doesn’t know how to handle it on his own. I wish we could just be friends, but with my resentment and his unwillingness to move on I don’t think that’s possible. I would hate to get a restraining order b/c he is my first love and that would be hard. Am I being a cold, hard person because I can’t just forget the past and move on with him. He said if I truly had loved him, I would be able to be with him like he is able to be with me. I need some input from other people because I am so confused if what I feel is okay.

I was so scared to speak my mind in the relationship that I buried my feelings. I find that now when I see him and he is calm, I will let my feelings out and I get so livid. I don’t know why I didn’t get mad until after we broke up. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I need help to move on and be happy. I want him to be happy too, and it kills me because I can’t give him what he wants, but I figure he asked for it with his inappropriate behavior.

Sorry so long…thanks for taking the time to read my story and offer advice. God bless! <3

Tags: 3 years, desire, excuse, family and friends, jobs, many things, relationship, roses, selfish one, serious relationship, sum of money, T Amp

OK this is quite long and complicated! This guy that I work with (now for 3 years), we have always been friends, and done friend things. Back in March I started having a bit of a crush on him. He is 19 years older than me. We kissed for the first time in June, and slowly we have entered a dating relationship (he tells people that we are dating, including our boss). He has only dated 2 other women in his lifetime, the rest have been men (yes he is bisexual). We usually hang out on saturdays and tuesdays outside of work. This last saturday I did the dumb girl thing and told him I really liked him. He kinda laughed, and then said that he liked me too, a lot (although in his voice it sounded like he was nervous saying it). The next day we went to breakfast. He brought me 3 roses into the restaurant, he then wanted to show me the house he was buying, then took me to Lowes to help him pick out paint colors. I am really confused about all of this. He seems hot then cold. The intimacy thing is strange.we have tried to be intimate a few times, but he has a difficult time keeping himself ‘up’ (if you get my drift). This makes me think he is not very sexually attracted to women. He compliments me all the time, says I am beautiful, funny, intellegent, and on and on. But I think he is afraid of anything and everything (he says he has never loved anyone before or been in a serious relationship). He is not a player at all (really he is not). He has a bit of low self esteem about himself, but I care about him and accept him just the way he is. I have no clue if I should just take this with a grain of salt, and just try and not let more of my feelings get in the way, or I don’t know! My friends think I’m turning his straight LOL. They also think he likes me quite a bit. He is very much a loner, but I need perspective on what to do! Should I date other people as well? Give him space? Blow him off a few times? I really value him and his friendship, so I don’t want to scare him away. I know if I asked him about it, he would say he is just taking it day to day. But I don’t want to get too deeply involved if it really has no where to go. HELP!

Tags: 19 years, 3 years, Clue, compliments, drift, dumb girl, feelings, girl thing, grain of salt, intellegent, intimacy, last saturday, lifetime, lol, loner, low self esteem, paint colors, roses, saturdays, serious relationship

I am the husband. She runs to men when she doesnt feel wanted now shes running to women but not sexualy
I tell her everyday how much i love her and how much she is worth to us I tell her she is beautiful and the hottest asshopable milf in the world that no one could ever make me happier to be married to I buy her at least 3 roses a month in a dozen or single doesnt matter. I tell her all the time how she is the world to me and that she has made me whole.

Tags: doesnt matter, milf, roses