Surviving the Holidays Alone After Divorce or Loss of Mate boy I need tips on that one.The holidays and after the holidays can be a very hard time for people who have divorced, lost a loved one or mate. So can anyone give me any tips on how to survive a divorce, loss of a mate, or even a relationship. When you lose that relationship during the holidays that can be a rough patch. I do try and remember I am not alone, so take a read and help me fine me!

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(My boyfriend & I broke up yesterday)

Okay, so I know this may be a long read but I feel its crucial to add a little detail to the story for you to base your decision.

First of all, I had been with this man (who is almost 21 years old now) for 2 and a half years. We had broken up once before for 2 months the same time last year but then we both decided we were both still very in love and wanted to be together.

The reason for the break up was because we were going through a rough patch. Both of us were not changing. However, the things in our lives were. We both got excepted into Uni (part time). He works full time and I work part time, he wants to buy a house this year and is really serious about his future career and study.

His reason for the break up was because he feels that he may not be able to commit to our relationship 100% with everything else going on in his life (and I honestly think, that’s a lame excuse!) He says he doesn’t feel “in love” with me anymore. This is because I haven’t been myself lately and I haven’t been as happy as I usually am. I think I was being too dependant on him to make me happy and he just couldn’t take that anymore. On the other hand, he says he “still loves me” but not in the girlfriend way at the moment. He cares about me so much and says he still wants to be “apart of my life” and he actually still wants for us to talk & email each other. I had told him that, I can only be in his life as his girlfriend or nothing at all (as that is just too hard on me).

Aside from that, I had spoken to his Mum and she said that his aunty had come over 4 days ago (who he had never seen) and he brought out all these photos he had of both of us and he showed her, introducing me as his girlfriend. She said “well, she’s very attractive” and he said “yeah, she’s beautiful”. Now, is it just me.. Or what’s up with that?!

We were on a weeks break before we broke up to clear the air and I was constantly calling (which I know I shouldn’t have but couldn’t resist) which I think pushed him away even further. The purpose of the break was to see if he still wanted to be with me or not. He said that he was still so “confused”. And we broke up I think… basically.. So I’d just leave him alone for a while but he has me convinced that we wont ever get back together. Is he still confused about what he wants? Is he using “his excuse for this break up” as an excuse to push me away for a little while??
We broke up yesterday and I have not spoken to him since. I plan on not talking to him for 2 weeks because I want him to miss me and remember what it’s like having me around. I know deep in my heart that he will miss me & question if breaking up was the right decision. But is that enough for him to call me?

There is something so special about him that makes me want more!

PS: It was my birthday last Sunday and the week before he had spent 5 hours shopping for a present for me. If he really had no feelings for me, why would he bother?
PPS: BREAKING NEWS: MUST READ: He has just sent me a message which reads "Hey hope your feeling better today. Just though id check up on ya lol" …….. This is not good! (By the way, I’m replying)
I mean… not replying *****

Tags: amp, aunty, full time, girlfriend, half years, lame excuse, love, part time, photos, Reason, relationship, rough patch

This all happend around 5 hours ago. Me & boyfriend are having a huge rough patch. Actually may i say "EX" now. And lately hes been doing weed. I absoultey hate that it has sucha big impact on my life from the past. I’ve given him 3 chances and you can only give so many until your bieng walk all over right ? He’s my first love and i know that. it’s so hard saying good bye. I called him and ended it. He didnt even seem like he gave a damn. He admitted he did it, and was like i wouldnt blame you if you broke up with me. wouldnt that make you feel he was hoping for it ? I never took any guy seriously up till him. I cried for the 1st time over a guy i let the soul cleanse. Keep in mind we’ve been distanced for almost 41 days. Im half way around the world on vacation which just makes matter harders and im cming hom in 6 days. It’ll be so hard facing him. Hes making such a big effort of keeping things. I just feel in the end i’ll regret what i did so badly and is so mad at him theres really no effection left to spare. I really dont know what to do when i get home. I truely do want him back but i just cant. It’s just so hard and i know plenty know how it feels. He’s the boy who always puts ont he act of " bieng okay" i’ll never know his true effection unless were close like we were. Right now I have him and hes my everything or i dont have him at all and hes nothing. I just cant be " bestfriends " with him thats just a lead to pain. By the way He was all romantic and everything seemed fine for 3 weeks but bam this happens i feel ive been lead on.

What should i do with this sitaution ?

Answers please !

Tags: amp, bieng, effection, first love, happend, harders, Healing A Broken Heart, love, Pronto, rough patch, weed

My wife loved and married me over this very classmate she wrote loveletter to and against her parental wishes. We hit a rough patch in the past and we seperated briefly when she started this affair first on net and happened to meet him when he came here to take back his family. He is a family guy and has 2 kids and we are married for 14 years and have 2 kids who we love much. I don’t understand the logic of her move as she can not have any stable relation with that guy nor did she sever her relation with mine. She had been nice to me all the time and i would not have suspect her but for the letter which is full of love for him and desperately begging him not to forget her. She even introduced me to him when he visited us with his wife and kids. Did she misinterpret his emails as if he is still in love with her as he was in her college when she chose me? There is no email contact for the last 6 months and she said she would show his mail if it arrives. Can I believe her?

Tags: classmate, family guy, logic, love, mail, rough patch, stable relation, Woman

My wife is beautiful first and foremost. And right now were going through a pretty rough patch. We have 3 kids (11months, 2 years, and 7 years), Im currently in trucking school and unfortunately cant find a job that will hire me for just weekends and i wish i could do so much more for her. I know once i get on the road in 2 to 2 1/2 weeks the money will start rolling in again but right now i cry when shes not around because i want to give her the world but its not mine to give her. She has my heart though She has that kind of smile that makes your day better and makes all the rotten things seem worth it. Shes a real trooper to put up with this situation and i would like to know some cheap to free things i can do with her or for her to show her how much she means to me. I could go on and on and on and on about how much i love my wife and how much im in love with my wife but im sure you get the picture lol

Tags: amp, heart, job, love, money, rough patch, smile, trucking school