Like many couples we have had our bumps. Assumptions have been a killer, I have always been true to my wife. I think she is a wonderful, bright, and beautiful woman with so much to offer the world. She has mentioned that she wants to live life with no regerts. We got married and 20 and at 40 she tells me that she Loves me but not as much as she once did. I want her to understand that is normal and we must work through this for the sake of our two children and US. Yes, I admit that I have been on a emotional rollercoaster, but when someone you love so much tells you she wants to move on. It shocks the system. You feel like you are dying and a normal human reaction is to fight what is killing you. I have never hurt in anyway physical way. I do tell her I Love Her a lot and I like to spend time with her because I enjoy her company and I thought she felt the same way. That is why this has as caught me off gaurd.

Tags: assumptions, beautiful woman, couples, human reaction, sake

Two years ago, I dated a guy that I fell head over heels for. The problem was that he didn’t know what he wanted, and he was heavy into drugs. I’m a very serious person by nature, and once I realized that he was flighty – I had to cut him off. But I was heartbroken; he had treated me badly throughout the relationship.

I went to school and met a great guy – smart, ambitious, funny – but I kept comparing him to my ex (because as great as this current guy is, I still love the ex more). I finally managed to put that aside for the boyfriend’s sake, because he is very good to me.

Well, last night I got a phone call, and sure enough it was my ex (we talk pretty often, although I have always made it clear we were just friends). He told me he wanted to get back together and that he still loves me; he said he was working on quitting drugs, and has already stopped the drinking, and is actively going to a therapist. A few other people confirm this story.

He wants me to go on a romantic getaway with him, and to date him again. But I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend because he treats me well, and loves me very much and I can imagine a future with him. At the same time, I can imagine a future with my ex (one involving a lot of love).

Should I go on the trip, or tell him I can’t and cut him off? And who do you think is the best choice – dating someone I love more than anything, or dating someone safe who I have learned to love?

Tags: best choice, drugs, head over heels, just friends, phone call, relationship, romantic getaway, sake