We’ve been getting together over the past 2 months. We share a house with a few friends & she told me she’s not looking for a serious relationship. She’s a nice girl, attractive and could easily pick up another guy but she doesn’t. In fact we went out a couple of weeks ago & she said "I want to be with you without feelings". Then she opened up a little saying she’s afraid (last boyfriend..she loved him but he wanted a child, she didn’t as she’s only 24 so he ended it). That was a year ago & they were together for a year. I decided to travel alone for a couple of weeks, even though we had a loose plan to go together.  Just got back & we went with friends to a club, she seemed a little distant with me, avoiding me. SHe left with another girl & 2 guys then arrived home 1 hr later & told me nothing happened. I asked her why she avoids me in the house. She said the truth is that she has only loved one guy her ex, she gave it once & can’t again. It was v emotional for me. She wanted me to look into her eyes at that moment & I couldn’t. Anyhow she was a bit drunk (she drinks 3 times a week, sometimes vomits & one time urinated in my room). Then we made love, she looks at me, tells me how goodlooking I am & how the sex was so good & she said that she does feel something.

Tags: amp, Club 115, Fall In Love, feelings, Last Boyfriend, love, nice girl, serious relationship, truth

i’m 18 years old. i’m a Filipino
I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up. how will i forget her,? how can i able to move-on? it’s very difficult for me to lose her but i have no choice but to stay apart from her. we broke up because she don’t like me anymore. i Don’t know what’s the reason. i did all my best just stay her from me.. i cared for her a lot. i gave all my love .. i gave all my time. i gave all my attention a gave everything!!! she didn’t appreciate it all….. i’m very dissaponted because i promise to myself that whatever happen i won’t give up on her because i love her so much!! i can’t explain why i love her so much. maybe i’m feeling the real love.. i’m so depress, i feel so bad. i can’t eat, i can’t sleep at night . what should i do? what are the things am i going to do to forget her? how much time will i spend to move-on? give me more advice. please help me to become strong.

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I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up.how will i forget her? help me please!?
i’m 18 years old. i’m a Filipino
I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up. how will i forget her,? how can i able to move-on? it’s very difficult for me to lose her but i have no choice but to stay apart from her. we broke up because she don’t like me anymore. i Don’t know what’s the reason. i did all my best just stay her from me.. i cared for her a lot. i gave all my love .. i gave all my time. a gave everything!!! she didn’t appreciate it all….. i’m very dissaponted because i promise to myself that whatever happen i won’t give up on her because i love her so much!! i can’t explain why i love her so much. maybe i’m feeling the real love.. i’m so depress, i feel so bad right now. what should i do? what are the things am i going to do to forget her? how much time will i spend to move-on? give me more advice. please help me to become strong.

Tags: 18 years, broken heart, gf, Lot 105, love, Real Love, serious relationship

I have been married for 8 months, been with him for 2 and a half years. Our marriage has turned into a legal friendship. I have had 3 serious relationship talks with him in the past 2 months. Here are the problems. One is that he is on Lexapro, has been for over a year. The side effects are that they lose interest in sex. I excepted that at first, but we haven’t had sex since November. I told him to talk to his doctor about another med and he has seen his doctor twice since I said that and he has done nothing about it. The other thing is that he doesn’t want to do anything together anymore. He does not like my friends for whatever reason, doesn’t even try to get to know them. He does not want to go out with me and my friends even though he is invited every time. Even with out friends, he does not want to do anything. I go out, but I feel like I am married living a celibate singles life. The first talk I had with him, I was nice, trying not to hurt his feelings, I just said we need to do more things together, there are things we can do that don’t cost money, even play a game of cards or something at home. He said he understood and everything was fine, but then he did nothing to change. The second time I talked to him, I was a little more blunt, I told him that I feel that we are friends who kiss once in awhile and he agreed that he thinks we have turned into roommates. I suggested marriage counseling so that our marriage won’t get worse, and he seemed ok with it. Still, he has done nothing to change. The third time I talked to him, I didn’t hold anything back.
I told him how I feel lonely, how I feel like I have one life with him in our house and then another life with me out in the rest of the world. I told him that I feel like we lost it, he doesn’t feel that way. He feels things are fine. I told him that he feels things are ok, me here at the house cleaning and cooking dinner and that he has me to come home to. I feel that something is wrong, that I want to get back the passion we once had. He really had nothing to say to me when I was talking, he felt bad because he started to cry, but that was it. Still, no changes! My mom and my friend say that I might have to be the one to say let’s go do this or that, be the one to hook up with a counselor, basically be the one who carries this marriage. I don’t want to have to do that ALL the time. I want him to show some input, show that he cares. When we were first together, things were great. Then he went on that med and our sex life went to hell, and then after marriage, he just totally changed. I know that he loves me to death, he is never mean to me, but it feels like he is content with what we have now, we don’t even hold each other anymore. What else is there for me to do? Should I mentally have a time frame to give him before I say that’s it?
As of now, I don’t see myself leaving him, but I need to feel wanted, ya know? Any suggestions, thanks so much!
I am not ready to give up on the marriage, as the question is, what else can I do to save it and that I don’t see myself leaving him right now. I am in my late 30′s by the way and I know what marriage is.

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Hello everyone….

I’m posting this question because I’ve reached
a real low point in my life.

I’ll be 42 in July and…. I am desperate to get
married & have children.

Some background…..

Had a serious relationship from age 23 to 26.
Mutual (and friendly) break-up….. We both just
grew apart.

Dated another guy from 27 to 28. Liked him,
thought he was a nice guy, but was never actually
in love with him. We parted ways, again on friendly
terms.

Dated yet another guy from 29 to 30. He, too, was
nice, but he had been married before, and he told me
he didn’t want to have any more children.

So I broke up with him, too.

And now….

From age 31 to this day (10 years later), I have
NOT been in a romantic relationship….

(My, but the time has gone fast!!)

I’ve tried just about everything….

— asking friends if they know anyone for me

— going hiking with the Sierra Club singles group

— taking golf lessons, sailing lessons, tennis lessons
(mostly other WOMEN there, looking for a man, too!!)

— trying online dating sites (match.com, eharmony, etc.)
(Have had about 18 or 20 blind dates through these, but
not met anyone.)

— trying church groups for singles, and even "all-church"
events just to meet people, in general.

— volunteering with a number of charities, in town.

— getting to know people at work, etc.

NONE of it has "worked" (resulted in being asked
out on a date.)

(Although, I have made an awful lot of nice friends,
in the process.)

About me…. I am 5 foot 7 inches tall, slender, no
stunning beauty, but not bad looking, either…. kind,
funny, nice (enough) personality, etc.

I just don’t know where to turn, now…. All my friends
(and cousins) my age are all married with multiple kids
by now….

Does anybody have any ideas for me??

Thanks so much, in advance, for your help.

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