We’ve been getting together over the past 2 months. We share a house with a few friends & she told me she’s not looking for a serious relationship. She’s a nice girl, attractive and could easily pick up another guy but she doesn’t. In fact we went out a couple of weeks ago & she said "I want to be with you without feelings". Then she opened up a little saying she’s afraid (last boyfriend..she loved him but he wanted a child, she didn’t as she’s only 24 so he ended it). That was a year ago & they were together for a year. I decided to travel alone for a couple of weeks, even though we had a loose plan to go together.  Just got back & we went with friends to a club, she seemed a little distant with me, avoiding me. SHe left with another girl & 2 guys then arrived home 1 hr later & told me nothing happened. I asked her why she avoids me in the house. She said the truth is that she has only loved one guy her ex, she gave it once & can’t again. It was v emotional for me. She wanted me to look into her eyes at that moment & I couldn’t. Anyhow she was a bit drunk (she drinks 3 times a week, sometimes vomits & one time urinated in my room). Then we made love, she looks at me, tells me how goodlooking I am & how the sex was so good & she said that she does feel something.

Tags: amp, Club 115, Fall In Love, feelings, Last Boyfriend, love, nice girl, serious relationship, truth

i’m 18 years old. i’m a Filipino
I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up. how will i forget her,? how can i able to move-on? it’s very difficult for me to lose her but i have no choice but to stay apart from her. we broke up because she don’t like me anymore. i Don’t know what’s the reason. i did all my best just stay her from me.. i cared for her a lot. i gave all my love .. i gave all my time. i gave all my attention a gave everything!!! she didn’t appreciate it all….. i’m very dissaponted because i promise to myself that whatever happen i won’t give up on her because i love her so much!! i can’t explain why i love her so much. maybe i’m feeling the real love.. i’m so depress, i feel so bad. i can’t eat, i can’t sleep at night . what should i do? what are the things am i going to do to forget her? how much time will i spend to move-on? give me more advice. please help me to become strong.

Tags: 18 years, broken heart, gf, Lot 105, love, serious relationship, sleep

I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up.how will i forget her? help me please!?
i’m 18 years old. i’m a Filipino
I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up. how will i forget her,? how can i able to move-on? it’s very difficult for me to lose her but i have no choice but to stay apart from her. we broke up because she don’t like me anymore. i Don’t know what’s the reason. i did all my best just stay her from me.. i cared for her a lot. i gave all my love .. i gave all my time. a gave everything!!! she didn’t appreciate it all….. i’m very dissaponted because i promise to myself that whatever happen i won’t give up on her because i love her so much!! i can’t explain why i love her so much. maybe i’m feeling the real love.. i’m so depress, i feel so bad right now. what should i do? what are the things am i going to do to forget her? how much time will i spend to move-on? give me more advice. please help me to become strong.

Tags: 18 years, broken heart, gf, Lot 105, love, Real Love, serious relationship

I have been married for 8 months, been with him for 2 and a half years. Our marriage has turned into a legal friendship. I have had 3 serious relationship talks with him in the past 2 months. Here are the problems. One is that he is on Lexapro, has been for over a year. The side effects are that they lose interest in sex. I excepted that at first, but we haven’t had sex since November. I told him to talk to his doctor about another med and he has seen his doctor twice since I said that and he has done nothing about it. The other thing is that he doesn’t want to do anything together anymore. He does not like my friends for whatever reason, doesn’t even try to get to know them. He does not want to go out with me and my friends even though he is invited every time. Even with out friends, he does not want to do anything. I go out, but I feel like I am married living a celibate singles life. The first talk I had with him, I was nice, trying not to hurt his feelings, I just said we need to do more things together, there are things we can do that don’t cost money, even play a game of cards or something at home. He said he understood and everything was fine, but then he did nothing to change. The second time I talked to him, I was a little more blunt, I told him that I feel that we are friends who kiss once in awhile and he agreed that he thinks we have turned into roommates. I suggested marriage counseling so that our marriage won’t get worse, and he seemed ok with it. Still, he has done nothing to change. The third time I talked to him, I didn’t hold anything back.
I told him how I feel lonely, how I feel like I have one life with him in our house and then another life with me out in the rest of the world. I told him that I feel like we lost it, he doesn’t feel that way. He feels things are fine. I told him that he feels things are ok, me here at the house cleaning and cooking dinner and that he has me to come home to. I feel that something is wrong, that I want to get back the passion we once had. He really had nothing to say to me when I was talking, he felt bad because he started to cry, but that was it. Still, no changes! My mom and my friend say that I might have to be the one to say let’s go do this or that, be the one to hook up with a counselor, basically be the one who carries this marriage. I don’t want to have to do that ALL the time. I want him to show some input, show that he cares. When we were first together, things were great. Then he went on that med and our sex life went to hell, and then after marriage, he just totally changed. I know that he loves me to death, he is never mean to me, but it feels like he is content with what we have now, we don’t even hold each other anymore. What else is there for me to do? Should I mentally have a time frame to give him before I say that’s it?
As of now, I don’t see myself leaving him, but I need to feel wanted, ya know? Any suggestions, thanks so much!
I am not ready to give up on the marriage, as the question is, what else can I do to save it and that I don’t see myself leaving him right now. I am in my late 30’s by the way and I know what marriage is.

Tags: celibate, feelings, friendship, game of cards, half years, lexapro, marriage, marriage counseling, money, rest of the world, roommates, second time, serious relationship, Sex, third time

Hello everyone….

I’m posting this question because I’ve reached
a real low point in my life.

I’ll be 42 in July and…. I am desperate to get
married & have children.

Some background…..

Had a serious relationship from age 23 to 26.
Mutual (and friendly) break-up….. We both just
grew apart.

Dated another guy from 27 to 28. Liked him,
thought he was a nice guy, but was never actually
in love with him. We parted ways, again on friendly
terms.

Dated yet another guy from 29 to 30. He, too, was
nice, but he had been married before, and he told me
he didn’t want to have any more children.

So I broke up with him, too.

And now….

From age 31 to this day (10 years later), I have
NOT been in a romantic relationship….

(My, but the time has gone fast!!)

I’ve tried just about everything….

— asking friends if they know anyone for me

— going hiking with the Sierra Club singles group

— taking golf lessons, sailing lessons, tennis lessons
(mostly other WOMEN there, looking for a man, too!!)

— trying online dating sites (match.com, eharmony, etc.)
(Have had about 18 or 20 blind dates through these, but
not met anyone.)

— trying church groups for singles, and even "all-church"
events just to meet people, in general.

— volunteering with a number of charities, in town.

— getting to know people at work, etc.

NONE of it has "worked" (resulted in being asked
out on a date.)

(Although, I have made an awful lot of nice friends,
in the process.)

About me…. I am 5 foot 7 inches tall, slender, no
stunning beauty, but not bad looking, either…. kind,
funny, nice (enough) personality, etc.

I just don’t know where to turn, now…. All my friends
(and cousins) my age are all married with multiple kids
by now….

Does anybody have any ideas for me??

Thanks so much, in advance, for your help.

Tags: 10 years, amp, blind dates, charities, church groups, cousins, Find A Husband, getting to know people, golf lessons, hello everyone, love, nice guy, Old Maid, online dating sites, personality, Romantic Relationship, sailing lessons, serious relationship, sierra club, stunning beauty, tennis lessons

Say for instance, you’re a woman that just got out of serious relationship with a guy whom they thought they may marry. Only a few short weeks later the woman sees a guy from her past that she has known for the last 10 years, whom she’s never been attracted to and hasn’t seen in quite some time. Broken hearted and angry that her previous relationship has failed, the woman and the guy from her past begin dating quite heavily shortly thereafter, and enter into a relationship that would be considered a rebound relationship by definition.

Why are relationships, similar to this example, destined to fail? What makes these relationships typically fail? What makes these relationships typically work initially and then fail? Is it sex, entertainment, and distraction? Is it possible for a woman to shut down herself emotionally to her previous relationship and move on successfully so soon? If so, how? If a relationship built like this was to be successful and not considered a rebound, after how much time would have to pass in order to say it’s no longer a rebound and is now legitimate? When’s the first reality check for relationships built like? Lastly, what has to happen in order to legitimatize a relationship where the woman is on the rebound?

Thanks!

Tags: 10 years, distraction, quite some time, reality check, rebound relationship, rebound relationships, relationships, serious relationship, sex entertainment

I have been dating a guy who was hurt by his ex just last year and he is having trouble dealing with it. he cannot decide if he wants a serious relationship or not. Is he over the ex or should I let this relationship go?

Tags: serious relationship

ok well there is this guy ok and like we went out for like 2 months… and this was my first serious relationship… this guy was also my first kiss as i was his.. k and like we broke up and im not over him at all and we were talking anf we both relized that we still loved eachother! but the problem was that he had a girlfriend and so we couldnt go out but we were gonna try waiting untill they broke up but untill then we flirted like crazy! and after a while they broke up but he didnt ask me out so i figured he needed time so i waite and waited then i find out that he started goin out with someone else!! i was like wtf!?!? but it only lasted like 2 days… so i wated and waited again and now hes goin out with the same gf that he was before! i am so confused i need help! i rally wanna go out with him again but i cant get hurt plus he keeps tellin me he loves me and he wants to be wit me but he has a gf… which is not me!!!!!! plz help!!

Tags: amp, eachother, Ex Boyfriend, first kiss, gf, girlfriend, kiss, Love Help, Loved Eachother, relized, serious relationship, wit, wtf

I was in a relationship for 3 years and 90% of the time was not a pleasant experience. He was abusive (physically and emotionally) and hurt me emotionally in almost all the ways possible. I finally woke up 6 months ago and I decided enough was enough and I ended the relationship. He has not come to terms with our breakup and he calls me constantly for whatever excuse to talk to me. He will show up at my door, he was leaving lots of notes and roses and now occasionally will leave a note. He is extremely jealous/possessive and I can’t even be interested or date anyone because of this. I still love him and care about him, but I will never be in a relationship with him ever again. He said that he ruined the relationship with his behavior but I stopped his trying to re-establish a relationship. Basically I gave up in his eyes. I didn’t try my best according to him. I was always there for him, day and night. He owes me a large sum of money and I sacrificed many things (including one year of school) so I could make him happy. I worked two jobs to support him and his family in their times of need. I am now focusing on myself, school and family and friends. I’m only 21 and this is the only serious relationship I’ve been in and it was quite traumatic. Now for some reason he has switched it to where I am the selfish one who doesn’t have the time or desire to see him, when all through the relationship I had to practically beg him for his attention and time and love, which I didn’t receive. He tells me that he loves me and tells me all the things I wanted to hear 3 years ago. He hasn’t gotten mad in the past 6 months and has been respectful (except for trying to make passes/moves on me) and pleasant…but I still don’t trust him and apparently that’s MY issue. I don’t know what to do. I know that I won’t ever date him again and I’ve told him that. He is very needy and I think he doesn’t want to let me go because I am the only person that has ever helped him with anything he has needed. I think he relies on me too much and now that I am not with him, he doesn’t know how to handle it on his own. I wish we could just be friends, but with my resentment and his unwillingness to move on I don’t think that’s possible. I would hate to get a restraining order b/c he is my first love and that would be hard. Am I being a cold, hard person because I can’t just forget the past and move on with him. He said if I truly had loved him, I would be able to be with him like he is able to be with me. I need some input from other people because I am so confused if what I feel is okay.

I was so scared to speak my mind in the relationship that I buried my feelings. I find that now when I see him and he is calm, I will let my feelings out and I get so livid. I don’t know why I didn’t get mad until after we broke up. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I need help to move on and be happy. I want him to be happy too, and it kills me because I can’t give him what he wants, but I figure he asked for it with his inappropriate behavior.

Sorry so long…thanks for taking the time to read my story and offer advice. God bless! <3

Tags: 3 years, desire, excuse, family and friends, jobs, many things, relationship, roses, selfish one, serious relationship, sum of money, T Amp

Can you win back your ex wife after a tumultuous relationship. I have been with my significant other (not formerly married but went thru a private, spiritual ceremony to profess our love for one another) for close to 4 years. Things started pretty good at the beginning stages, the trouble started once I started to loose patience for her emotional ups and downs, (about a year into the relationship) and she got hurt from my quick to react temper, and vindictive communication during arguments. She says my mean words pushed her away. I moved out of the home about a month ago…started seeing a therapist to face my issues.Last week she told me there is no need for us to plan a reconciliation because she no longer loves me, that she wants to move on. Yesterday we met again and I packed all my stuff from the home.
Last night she told me she wants me to be strong. I take it she wants be to be strong so I can move on as well? Or be strong and show her I can be the person she initially saw in me? Any chance of her changing her mind? By the way, this makes no. 2 divorce/separation, plus another failed serious relationship) and no. 2 divorce/separation for me as well…I am concerned about a trend here….We both have emotional issues we need to deal with. I am working on mine, she said she would seek therapy on her own….I am having a really hard time letting go of the woman I love and feel helpless.

She is a witness of domestic violence as a child. So she can be very emotional at times, and very withdrawn at others…

Tags: Divorce Separation, domestic violence, emotional issues, emotional ups, Ex Wife, hard time, Home Amp, Loose Patience, love, patience, reconciliation, serious relationship, spiritual ceremony, temper, tumultuous relationship, ups, ups and downs, witness

It sucks because I work seasonal construction jobs and right now im not working, so I have way too much time to think about it, this was my first serious relationship and I just cant stand that there’s nothing I can do, our relationship is unrepairable so now I have to get over her. What are some ways or what can I do to get over someone I love? I would really appreciate any tips, advice, or personal experiences from people who have gone through this. Thanks in advanced

Tags: jobs, love, personal experiences, serious relationship

Lets say you got involved with someone, and from the begining it was always more than friends…things got pretty serious pretty fast, but then all of the sudden the other person decides they’re not "ready for a serious relationship," and they want to be just friends. This person really does want to be friends, and they know it’s going to be hard because both people still have strong feelings, but they’re willing to try. So what’s the easiest way to go about this? Do you have any advice as to how a person should act and what they should/shouldn’t do?

Tags: begining, feelings, Friends, just friends, serious relationship

My ex-boyfriend and i were dating for 5 months. It was my first serious relationship .He broke up with me a week before my birthday. Which was about two months ago. We go to the same church and he didn’t show up after that until two weeks ago. I saw him and it brought back memories. I still have feelings for him, even though I have had a boyfriend between when we broke and now. And he probably doesn’t have the same feelings for me anymore. How do I get over him?

Tags: 5 months, Ex Boyfriend, feelings, memories, serious relationship

OK this is quite long and complicated! This guy that I work with (now for 3 years), we have always been friends, and done friend things. Back in March I started having a bit of a crush on him. He is 19 years older than me. We kissed for the first time in June, and slowly we have entered a dating relationship (he tells people that we are dating, including our boss). He has only dated 2 other women in his lifetime, the rest have been men (yes he is bisexual). We usually hang out on saturdays and tuesdays outside of work. This last saturday I did the dumb girl thing and told him I really liked him. He kinda laughed, and then said that he liked me too, a lot (although in his voice it sounded like he was nervous saying it). The next day we went to breakfast. He brought me 3 roses into the restaurant, he then wanted to show me the house he was buying, then took me to Lowes to help him pick out paint colors. I am really confused about all of this. He seems hot then cold. The intimacy thing is strange.we have tried to be intimate a few times, but he has a difficult time keeping himself ‘up’ (if you get my drift). This makes me think he is not very sexually attracted to women. He compliments me all the time, says I am beautiful, funny, intellegent, and on and on. But I think he is afraid of anything and everything (he says he has never loved anyone before or been in a serious relationship). He is not a player at all (really he is not). He has a bit of low self esteem about himself, but I care about him and accept him just the way he is. I have no clue if I should just take this with a grain of salt, and just try and not let more of my feelings get in the way, or I don’t know! My friends think I’m turning his straight LOL. They also think he likes me quite a bit. He is very much a loner, but I need perspective on what to do! Should I date other people as well? Give him space? Blow him off a few times? I really value him and his friendship, so I don’t want to scare him away. I know if I asked him about it, he would say he is just taking it day to day. But I don’t want to get too deeply involved if it really has no where to go. HELP!

Tags: 19 years, 3 years, Clue, compliments, drift, dumb girl, feelings, girl thing, grain of salt, intellegent, intimacy, last saturday, lifetime, lol, loner, low self esteem, paint colors, roses, saturdays, serious relationship