Say for instance, you’re a woman that just got out of serious relationship with a guy whom they thought they may marry. Only a few short weeks later the woman sees a guy from her past that she has known for the last 10 years, whom she’s never been attracted to and hasn’t seen in quite some time. Broken hearted and angry that her previous relationship has failed, the woman and the guy from her past begin dating quite heavily shortly thereafter, and enter into a relationship that would be considered a rebound relationship by definition.
Why are relationships, similar to this example, destined to fail? What makes these relationships typically fail? What makes these relationships typically work initially and then fail? Is it sex, entertainment, and distraction? Is it possible for a woman to shut down herself emotionally to her previous relationship and move on successfully so soon? If so, how? If a relationship built like this was to be successful and not considered a rebound, after how much time would have to pass in order to say it’s no longer a rebound and is now legitimate? When’s the first reality check for relationships built like? Lastly, what has to happen in order to legitimatize a relationship where the woman is on the rebound?
Thanks!
Tags: 10 years, distraction, quite some time, reality check, rebound relationship, rebound relationships, relationships, serious relationship, sex entertainment
I have been dating a guy who was hurt by his ex just last year and he is having trouble dealing with it. he cannot decide if he wants a serious relationship or not. Is he over the ex or should I let this relationship go?
Tags: serious relationship
ok well there is this guy ok and like we went out for like 2 months… and this was my first serious relationship… this guy was also my first kiss as i was his.. k and like we broke up and im not over him at all and we were talking anf we both relized that we still loved eachother! but the problem was that he had a girlfriend and so we couldnt go out but we were gonna try waiting untill they broke up but untill then we flirted like crazy! and after a while they broke up but he didnt ask me out so i figured he needed time so i waite and waited then i find out that he started goin out with someone else!! i was like wtf!?!? but it only lasted like 2 days… so i wated and waited again and now hes goin out with the same gf that he was before! i am so confused i need help! i rally wanna go out with him again but i cant get hurt plus he keeps tellin me he loves me and he wants to be wit me but he has a gf… which is not me!!!!!! plz help!!
Tags: amp, eachother, Ex Boyfriend, first kiss, gf, girlfriend, kiss, Love Help, Loved Eachother, relized, serious relationship, wit, wtf
I was in a relationship for 3 years and 90% of the time was not a pleasant experience. He was abusive (physically and emotionally) and hurt me emotionally in almost all the ways possible. I finally woke up 6 months ago and I decided enough was enough and I ended the relationship. He has not come to terms with our breakup and he calls me constantly for whatever excuse to talk to me. He will show up at my door, he was leaving lots of notes and roses and now occasionally will leave a note. He is extremely jealous/possessive and I can’t even be interested or date anyone because of this. I still love him and care about him, but I will never be in a relationship with him ever again. He said that he ruined the relationship with his behavior but I stopped his trying to re-establish a relationship. Basically I gave up in his eyes. I didn’t try my best according to him. I was always there for him, day and night. He owes me a large sum of money and I sacrificed many things (including one year of school) so I could make him happy. I worked two jobs to support him and his family in their times of need. I am now focusing on myself, school and family and friends. I’m only 21 and this is the only serious relationship I’ve been in and it was quite traumatic. Now for some reason he has switched it to where I am the selfish one who doesn’t have the time or desire to see him, when all through the relationship I had to practically beg him for his attention and time and love, which I didn’t receive. He tells me that he loves me and tells me all the things I wanted to hear 3 years ago. He hasn’t gotten mad in the past 6 months and has been respectful (except for trying to make passes/moves on me) and pleasant…but I still don’t trust him and apparently that’s MY issue. I don’t know what to do. I know that I won’t ever date him again and I’ve told him that. He is very needy and I think he doesn’t want to let me go because I am the only person that has ever helped him with anything he has needed. I think he relies on me too much and now that I am not with him, he doesn’t know how to handle it on his own. I wish we could just be friends, but with my resentment and his unwillingness to move on I don’t think that’s possible. I would hate to get a restraining order b/c he is my first love and that would be hard. Am I being a cold, hard person because I can’t just forget the past and move on with him. He said if I truly had loved him, I would be able to be with him like he is able to be with me. I need some input from other people because I am so confused if what I feel is okay.
I was so scared to speak my mind in the relationship that I buried my feelings. I find that now when I see him and he is calm, I will let my feelings out and I get so livid. I don’t know why I didn’t get mad until after we broke up. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I need help to move on and be happy. I want him to be happy too, and it kills me because I can’t give him what he wants, but I figure he asked for it with his inappropriate behavior.
Sorry so long…thanks for taking the time to read my story and offer advice. God bless! <3
Tags: 3 years, desire, excuse, family and friends, jobs, many things, relationship, roses, selfish one, serious relationship, sum of money, T Amp
Can you win back your ex wife after a tumultuous relationship. I have been with my significant other (not formerly married but went thru a private, spiritual ceremony to profess our love for one another) for close to 4 years. Things started pretty good at the beginning stages, the trouble started once I started to loose patience for her emotional ups and downs, (about a year into the relationship) and she got hurt from my quick to react temper, and vindictive communication during arguments. She says my mean words pushed her away. I moved out of the home about a month ago…started seeing a therapist to face my issues.Last week she told me there is no need for us to plan a reconciliation because she no longer loves me, that she wants to move on. Yesterday we met again and I packed all my stuff from the home.
Last night she told me she wants me to be strong. I take it she wants be to be strong so I can move on as well? Or be strong and show her I can be the person she initially saw in me? Any chance of her changing her mind? By the way, this makes no. 2 divorce/separation, plus another failed serious relationship) and no. 2 divorce/separation for me as well…I am concerned about a trend here….We both have emotional issues we need to deal with. I am working on mine, she said she would seek therapy on her own….I am having a really hard time letting go of the woman I love and feel helpless.
She is a witness of domestic violence as a child. So she can be very emotional at times, and very withdrawn at others…
Tags: Divorce Separation, domestic violence, emotional issues, emotional ups, Ex Wife, hard time, Home Amp, Loose Patience, love, patience, reconciliation, serious relationship, spiritual ceremony, temper, tumultuous relationship, ups, ups and downs, witness
