My son is 7 years old, nearly 8. We have been a happy family for the last few years but recently my wife is making my son into a woman. She has his cooking, cleaning, shopping for clothes, even reads him novel stories from her book club.

I could handle this alone, but the list goes on. She constantly has him watch Disney channel shows such as "Hannah Montana" and some lame show with kids singing on a boat. The other day she bought him a Jonas Brother shirt!!

However being a good and understanding father, I let this slide untill yesterday. While watching ESPN showing some Jets training camp footage, my son remarked "what a boring outfit thoose men are wearing, they should let women play football, they would know how to design there outfits better". I was furious, I grabbed him, threw him in the car and just took off.

Ive already filed the papers to divorce my wife, I love her, we havnt fought in years to be honest, but I wont let her be a bad influence to my son.

Right now we are in a hotel, I locked my son in a room were he is watching Rocky 1-5 and all the Rambo films. Im taking him camping later tommorow, as well as fishing. What else can I do to ensure my son leads a normal healthy life?

Also how can I legally make sure my wife has no contact with my son ever again?
I wish this was a joke, im not kidding.

There are other factors not mentioned for my reasons to divorce, she may be a loving wife, but her family definitley is not kind at all.

This incident yesterday is what finnally drove me however.

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I had no contact with The Ex over the summer, really after I broke up with him. Sporadic texting. Never flirty. He said a couple hurtful things about how he "missed me on occasion" and mostly he missed how supportive I was. So I left it. Until, a little over a month ago, I sent kind of a bitchy email saying he "didn’t have to pay me back any of the money he owed me because I’m not hurting for cash and I know he is. Everything has been going so great for me this summer. It’s so weird how everything just got better for both of us after we broke up". He responded- seemed grateful.

A week later he randomly texted about how I looked like someone in a movie- total foot in the door move. We ended up going for coffee and sushi. It was really fun but he was overly familiar the whole time. From the get-go he was throwing things down my shirt and inviting me out to his cabin. Whatever, it was good for my ego. We ended up hanging out like twice a week after that. Didn’t talk every day necessarily but often. He was always flirty. His birthday rolled around and I took him for a quick drink after school as a present. We got drunk…he admitted he still loves me. I told him I was seeing someone. He slapped my ass a couple times. We talked about the breakup a lot.

We hung out a little more until last weekend (so it’s been over a month hanging out). I was on the rocks with my boyfriend and tried breaking up with him (but he cried so I got freaked and let it be for a bit). The Ex showed up at my work when my shift was over to take me shopping. We went for dinner somewhere nice first and he paid- had a couple drinks. He bought me a present. Then my boyfriend ditched on the plans we had that evening so The Ex suggested we go and play cards. Harmless. He picked up wine and we went to my place. Got drunk. He asked if I wanted a backrub…we slept together…he left a few hours later. He texted the next day to see how I was. We ended up making plans for the following weekend (this weekend). He picked me up from work…took me grocery shopping. We got wine. Same thing happened but he stayed over. He brought up our past and asked why I always tried to break up with him. We talked about how we used to have plans to get married. We cuddled and he stroked my hair. He stayed for a bit in the morning but had plans and made plans to see me that afternoon. We hung out…it was fun. I had an hour break in there to go officially break up with my bf. I came back and talked to The Ex about it and I was super bummed out. I asked for a hug and he held me for a while. But when I put out my hand…he high fived and didn’t hold it.

So I asked him where we were…like, are we dating now? And he said…what? He would barely look at me. I said I broke it off with my bf at least partially because of him. We hung out all the time. He still has feelings for me. He buys me stuff and takes me places and we talk all the time…it’s like dating already. And he said he hadn’t thought about it that way and he doesn’t want to date anyone right now because of school. And I said I didn’t want to see him any more than we were (also because of school), so how would it make things different? His responses were short and kind of seemed like he was scared or super uncomfortable. And I said if he thinks we’re just friends we shouldn’t be having sex and I didn’t think he could keep it PG. And he said he could and he wanted to stay friends with me…he wanted to have me in his life. So when I tried to say we couldn’t be friends he talked me out of it. I brought up how he admitted he thinks about me sexually like, every day. How he said he still loves me. And he said a) well yeah, so what and b) we were together for so long of course he still has feelings for me. So I gave him the ultimatum that we could be friends but he couldn’t flirt at all because he knows I still have feelings and it’s confusing and making me feel like dirt- and that he can’t change his mind and say he wants me later. And he was all "Yeah, totally!"

So…he flirted from the start. Admitted he still loves me. Hung out and essentially dated me for a month before anything happened. You don’t hang out with your ex and buy them shit and flirt AND talk about the past (every time we drink he brings it up and we talk about it for hours) and actually think you’re just friends, right? You don’t tickle them to turn it into just cuddling and talk about how good it feels to hold them again, do you?

Tags: Ass, backrub, cards, coffee, Contact, couple drinks, couple times, Drunk, ego, email, Follo, money, Money Owed, Occasion, rocks, shopping, sushi, weeken, whole time, wine

Me and my ex were (are) in a distance relationship. I visted her twice and was planning on visiting her again this June. Whenever I visited her, we always have so wonderful times together, we literally sticked together and we both enjoyed our time walking together everyday, going to the park or downtown, dancing, singing together, etc. I took her shopping and bought her a lot of gifts and roses, wrote her love notes every month, love poems, draw her and us. Even when I was miles apart, I still bought her gifts regularly and she loved it. After a year together, we had been having our up and down moments but we were improving a lot. I used to hurt her a lot and I had a lot of negative things but she told me I was the sweetest person she had ever met and I was always there for her. Just last week she had to stay home because she was sick and I was the only person who was there for her, stayed up for her all night and she said she needed me, she was obsessed with me and she wanted nobody else on earth but me. Just yesterday morning, she called me to say good morning and we were happily talking on the phone. But then in the evening, one of the guy in her class gave her a rose and took her out for shopping and took her to the park and they danced together. She never had feelings or thought about him until then. She didn’t tell me about him and talked to me just as happily as ever until later at night, he called, and that was how I found out. I was so heart broken and I couldn’t do nothing else but to beg her to stay and I know it was the wrong move. According to her, he is 26 (she’s 17),tall, romantic, educated and just whatever a girl would dream of. I love her so much and I can’t, just can’t loose her… I’m blaming myself now that I wasn’t treating her right lately because I was sort of an obsessive lover. She told me she wanted to be free because she was young and she wanted someone beside her. I know she still loves me because she said so, she still talks to me, just not as much, she just wants to be with the other guy and that just breaks my heart even more. Last night, after chatting with him on yahoo messenger for a long time, she let me watch her sleep on the cam all night just how she always did when we were together. Just this morning, she called me to say good morning and we stayed on the phone for half an hour though she did mention him and what she would do with him today with a very happy tone, then she fell asleep so peacefully after I told her she could fall asleep on my shoulder. I miss her so much and the only thing I want to do right now is to hold her tight and kiss her and make her realize she loves me more but I can’t do that. What am I supposed to do? My opponent is so strong, especially when he’s there with her and I’m here…. across the other side of the U.S. I just want to have her back. Before this happened, she was planning on moving to Seattle with me and close our distance relationship. She was so excited about it and now she said she wouldn’t want to go anywhere with me anymore. What can I do now? Please help!!! And please don’t give me a "get over her" answer because I cannot do that…

Tags: Distance Relationship, earth, feelings, Love Notes, love poems, roses, shopping, yesterday morning

My step children are hideously selfish and don’t listen to a thing I tell them. They won’t even bathe! They’re 14(boy) and 11(girl). My husband has a passive parenting style. He hates to hear any fussing or fighting and likes to avoid confrontations. He knows that they treat me bad, but he says he doesn’t understand why he lets them do it. He says he just doesn’t know how to make them do the right thing. He’s tried punishment, rewards, and a combination of both. Nothing seems to work. I know that he loves me very much and it bothers him that he can’t figure out how to make the children behave and do as they’re told. He also loves his children, but they are tearing our marriage apart. Anyone have any ideas or have you ever been in this same situation??
A little more info:
We have a two year old daughter together. Mu husband just deployed to Iraq and will be gone 15 months. The mother rarely calls, lives out of state and is schizophrenic . She sees them maybe once every other year. My husband is a good man and a good father to my baby. He carries a lot of guilt about his divorce and the impact it had on his kids. I didn’t mean to make it sound like he was spinelss. I think his passiveness stems more from guilt than anything else.
We’ve been married for about 3 1/2 years.
I tried for the first two years to have some sort of relationship with the two of them. I’ve done things with them/for them, I’m the one who takes them shopping, I’m the one who buys them new clothes, I’m the one who makes their father take them to the library, the park, etc. After two years of doing for them and getting nothing (respect) in return, I stopped doing so much for them. They are just REALLY selfish children who were used to being the bosses and getting what they wanted. I’ve even suggested family counselling, but now that my husband is deployed, it’s too late for that.
Just a little nore in defense of myself: My husband is in the military and he’s not home much. The children are left in my care. I have provided them with structure and activities. It’s easy for a few to point the finger at me and say I’m the one being selfish, but if you any idea how many "talks" the kidsa and I have had about our relationship, you’d understand why, at this point, I’m pulling my hair out. I agree with some of the negative comments. You’re right, I shouldn’t let their behavior bother me, but I don’t know of any way to just "turn off" my emotions when they treat me so badly. Even their father ADMITS that they treat me badly. Again, I have suggested (on several occasions) that we seek family councelling. I work, their father is gone, and I’m taking care of all three children. Is it so much to ask, for them to just follow a few rules? I’ve compromised a lot. I stopped nagging them to bathe, brush teeth, do homework or clean up after themselves!
By the way, Skidoo, my screen name was a joke between my sister and myself. One I’ve had for years. No hidden meaning whatsoever.

And for any of you who took offense to the term "demonic step children", come on! It was a phrase to show just how frustrated I am with them! I’ve done more for those two chilldren since I’ve known them than either their real mother or their father. I’ve taught them why they shouldn’t lie or steal, how to have compassion for others, how to take care of themselves, and a lot of other real life skills they need to become productive adults. The issues they have were going on a looooong time before I was ever in the picture. I tried to give them what they needed but they rejected me, so don’t point fingers at me for getting tired of trying to help them when they don’t want or appreciate my help. Sometimes, I think the only ones who really understand are the ones who have walked in my shoes. And some called ME judgemental?

Tags: 15 months, clothes, confrontations, counselling, divorce, do the right thing, good man, guilt, iraq, little nore, marriage, Mu, parenting style, passiveness, relationship, Rewards, selfish children, shopping

I was with my ex for nearly a year. However towards the end, we made a stupid mistake and she became pregnant. Due to our age and other circumstances, i knew that it would not have been possible to raise the child. She wanted to keep it though. However for fear of losing me, she went through with the abortion. This made her hate me. She lost all feelings for me and although we tried working through it… she said she couldnt do it anymore. This killed me as we were really in love and already knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
For comfort, she went to her colleagues house most nights. And one thing led to another and 3 weeks later they were in a relationship. This killed me as i was trying to get her back. However just before they started their relationship we shared an extremely passionate kiss and she said she missed me and if it wasnt for what happened, she would still be with me. She told me she is over what happened and doesnt blame me anymore.

Recently we have become very close friends. She stops over at my house on the way home from her boyfriends for a chat. We are on the same course at university and have lunch together or go out shopping together when uni is finished. She is always wanting to chill with me and everyone says things are looking good for me. However she is still with her boyfriend and i found out they booked to go on holiday in june 2009… they booked this 2 weeks after being together!!

just wondering if anyone has any tips on how i can win her back. She calls me all the time and we seem to do everything together that we are allowed to do without cheating… (lots of hugging and kissing on the cheek)… her boyfriend doesnt know she even talks to me let alone meeting up cos he wont allow her to.. She is a girl that needs lots of attention and i have heard from her friends that she is having problems with him cos he wont give her any attention.

Does she really like this guy or is it just a rebound.. and is it looking good for me???

Tags: abortion, Boyfriends, Cheating, cheek, circumstances, close friends, colleagues house, ex girlfriend, fear, feelings, Led, Lost, love, lunch, passionate kiss, rebound, relationship, rest of our lives, shopping, stupid mistake, Uni