I came home from work and my wife of 19 years was gone. She didn’t take much except some clothes and a few things. She left a lengthy note which was dated a few weeks ago telling me that she’s in love with someone else and is pregnant with his child. She says she’s sorry but she hasn’t loved me for years and it’s all been a show until the girls grew up. She says she’s not coming back and I’ll get divorce papers in the mail. I called her work and her boss said she gave her notice a couple of weeks ago and she’s been gone for a week.

I feel like I’m going to throw up. Our twin 18 year old girls are away at college and don’t know she’s gone yet. I don’t know what to say to them.

I feel like just driving off a bridge. I feel like drinking until I pass out. I feel like emptying my bank account and spending it on hookers or just trying to pick up some girl at a bar and screw her. I just want to feel something good. I can barely feel anything except agony.

I did virtually nothing at work today but fight back tears and hope nobody came by my desk or talked to me.

I don’t know why this happened. I loved her to death. She was everything to me. We laughed and spent wonderful time together. We almost never fought, we talked, flirted, went out dancing just like we did 20 years ago and had a wonderful time… all the time. She always had a huge smile, ran to me when I came home, and did everything I thought a loving wife did.

How could I ever love again? I can’t tell the difference between someone who loves me and someone who doesn’t. Can one of you ladies in here explain to me how someone could masquerade as a loving wife for so many years and never give me a clue that she was unhappy? Why wouldn’t she just tell me she wasn’t happy and then maybe I could have fixed whatever was wrong.

Tags: 18 year old girls, 19 years, agony, boss, bridge, clothes, Clue, desk, divorce papers, hookers, love, loving wife, mail, masquerade, Screw, smile, wonderful time

Im 23 years old and I just went thru the toughest stage of my life, after been with the most amaizin man for 31/2 years he got killed in a motocycle accident. I took it very hard, since he was and still is the love of my life.. 4 months after his accident i decided to go out and try to smile.. I met someone that almost automatically called my attention, he was unique and very goofy, maybe thats what i needed all this time someone to make me smile.. we met at a bar and we danced all night long, towards the end he asked me for my phone numbers and even though to everyone alse i would say no.. To him i just had to.. After that we kept seen each other and getting to know each other, he had been thru a very bad brake up and i had lost my boyfriend. so in part we were helping eachother out.. after a couple of weeks of us been hanging around, i felt like i was catching feelings and i backed away – i was scared and plus i felt wrong because in my heart i felt like i had to be faithful to my boyfriend. he was catchin feelings for me to but since i backed off, he felt like he had to as well to not get hurt..

9 months have been since i last seen him – and i cant stop thinkin about him! i feel like we left somethin that could of been special, and at the same time i feel much better now and i understand that i have to move on and be happy.. the problem is i dnt know how to get to him.. i dont want to scare him off. since he problaly thinks i will reject him again. we have friends in common but we never hang around. Lately i cant have him off my mind and i dnt knw if the power of the mind is great but last week.. he called my best friend and after a long conversation with her. he finally asked her about me.. "tell her i said hi" to alot of people thats nothin but to me is.. "he is thinkin about me, he didnt have to ask"

Now the question is, what should i do?

Tags: 23 years, 4 months, 9 months, best friend, catching feelings, heart, love, Love Of My Life, Met, phone numbers, power of the mind, smile, somethin

This guy works with me. I fell in love with him a long time ago. I dream of him sometimes and smile constantly when he calls me. Maybe he doesn’t undersand. I never wanted to tell him and look dumb.

Last week he wrote me messages saying he hard I want to date him. I avoided the question and asked him if he wanted to. he said "sure so do you" I didn’t say yeah, cause I got afraid.. but told him I thought he was sexy and we should hang outside of work. He said sounds good. After that though, he hasn’t spoke to me. I’ve tried to text him 2 times, but I’m not going to anymore. I don’t chase guys.

I feel like him asking me about dating was just to play with my mind and feelings. My heart is pretty much broken now. I just want to forget about him & the feelings I’ve developed.

How do you move on from someone you work with & have to speak to daily? How do I get him to view me as a strong woman? Did I do something wrong or what kind of game was he playing?
I’m in love with him. I have been for a year. He gives me these huge butterflies that my ex fiancee or nobody ever has.

But I want to move on since he’s no longer talking to me for no reason. It’s hurting me.

Tags: amp, broken heart, butterflies, Chase, feelings, fiancee, hasn, heart, kind of game, long time, love, smile, strong woman

It’s funny, I can handle failing a test, getting rejected from an interview, getting fired from job, slipping and falling on my face in the middle of a crowd of people… I just smile and forget about it…. but I have an emotional crisis whenever I get my heart broken.

What do you do to heal a broken heart? (personally I mean, what works for you?)

Me, I take a couple of days off and cry alone in my bed, watching episodes of Ally McBeal (she is just like me – always picking the wrong guys) and drinking lots of diet coke, then I throw myself into work and spend countless hours at the gym doing weight lifting and kickboxing (I like to imagine him as the punching bag)… then I usually swear off love and men for a long time…. then one day this man always comes along restores my faith in love only to hurt me again…. this time I think I am swearing off love for good. I am getting too old for this emotional tossing and turning! From this point on, I vow to be alone!!! Alone is much better than this torture.

Tags: ally mcbeal, broken heart, countless hours, couple of days, crowd, crowd of people, diet coke, emotional crisis, Faith, Funny, Heart Broken, job, long time, love, punching bag, smile, torture, vow, weight lifting, wrong guys

Me and my girlfriend split up about a month ago, it was a smooth break up, we both decided. The relationship wasnt as good as it used to be and we werent as happy as we were. + we both knew we wernt going to see each other for 7 weeks if we did split up, because we go to the same college.

But in these 4 weeks that we have been apart i have had a lot of time to think and she was one of the best things that has happened to me….and i would like to give a shot at getting back together with her.
I sent her a little present for easter, about a week after easter she txted me saying thank you for it and it made her smile….but she said she only got it that day, a week late. I think that was a bit of a white lie…..(I didnt txt back saying that)

Whats the best way of going about trying to get back to gether, just be friends for the time and try and get closer to her over time?
Should i txt her some time in the 4weeks before i see her again?
Or what?

Thanks for reading….

Tags: Easter 97, ex girlfriend, girlfriend, relationship, smile, Split Up, White Lie