I posted a question a while back (below) about what I should do as my boyfriend was hurting me only having come back after he left a few months ago. Firstly I want to say a big thank you to everyone who took the time to reply it really helped.
Since all of this happended he hasn’t really tried at all, he didn’t even do anything for my 30th Birthday and didn’t even help. What he was more interested in was a speaker for his car, he could afford that. On my actual birthday he wasn’t around, the night after he went out, i explained that how can I beleive him when he says he loves me, he told me I just have to. The night of my party he kept dissapearing and people where asking where is he, I couldn’t answer so felt stupid. I caught him on the stairs texting someone else but he turned his phone over when I walked towards him. He had also already mentioned that it was another friends birthday, i told him if he wanted to go to hers instead. Later that night when I went to find him I caught him outside on the phone saying I’ll be there, i’m coming, when he turned around he looked shocked that I was there, I asked where are you going and why are you abandoning me on my party night. All I got was I’m going, I said what, again he said he was leaving. Now this was really wrong but I couldn’t help it I felt so let down I ended up slapping him around the head, I shouldn’t have done this as its not me at all but I was so upset. Only days before after all the crap with that girl had he said I need to trust him that when he says he loves me he does. Certainly didn’t feel like that. When I got home his stuff was gone, which i’m kinda glad about as I was thinking of asking him to leave at the end of the month as he wasn’t paying his way with bills and stuff, but I thought I’d give him a change and no money ever showed up- just like before expect this time I had to be strong and not keep him. I feel better that I don’t have to worry about doubting someone thats supposed to care anymore, but feel lost as I was hoping that when he came back he would be the person I fell in love with all that time ago. Even some of his friends have said that they don’t like him anymore as he has changed, but not for the better. I think I was right to not stand for this anymore but your thoughts would be most appreciated if you have time. Thanks again.
What should I do, My ex came back but wont stop texting someone he was seeing?
My ex recently came back and moved in again after a few months apart. He explained he left over silly reasons and that he came back because he loves me. Obviously I loved him and tried everything to make him see sense but ended up having to give up and try to move on. I started to see someone else and a few others took interest lightheartedly of course. Anyway when he came back we had the awkward conversation of do we have anyone else to tell that we are back together he said he had seen this one girl and it didn’t mean anything and i told him about mine. The next day I text everyone to say I was back with him and I showed him this and their response. He seemed reluctant to inform his interest. Anyway eventually he did and she kept texting him and calling him and at first he got mad and didn’t reply or was abrupt with her on the phone. I explained it has to stop and he agreed. A few days ago I received a message from someone who was still interested and I told him about this to keep the honestly between us alive like we agreed. Out of curiosity I asked him have you heard from yours, he then just casually said yeah we’ve been chatting. Now i’m not sure if what I feel is wrong, but to me at my age late 20′s if you get back with some and agree to draw a line under something you don’t bring the crap that you had over that point. I mean she still texts him and calls him when we are in our bed. I now dread hearing his phone go off and don’t want to ask him. A few days ago I mentioned that this is hurting me that even without him having to ask me to get rid of those interested in me i did so, and that I now have to put up with her all the time and it feels crap almost like he is keeping her there for a reason. When I ask him about this and actually say I don’t like it all I get is that she is a friend, he makes out like she is this amazing mate, who fair enough he has know for years but before he left he hadn’t spoke to her for 2 years. I tried to explain that he was the one who screwed up and that sometimes we all have to deal with the consequences our actions, even me in loosing the friend I was seeing because I don’t think its appropriate to keep them on the scene if Im with my fella. He really doesn’t understand this and all I get is she is just a friend. I don’t know what to do as I do love him, but over the past few days since he has basically said that he wont get rid of this person I don’t feel connected to him anymore, pretty much like he threw us away so easily before weather it was a mistake or not and now I
Tags: 30th birthday, crap, dissapearing, friends birthday, Lost, money, stairs, Stuff, Stupid
