So I been with Husband for 10yr and we have 3 lovely kids. Everything seemed to be going well in our relationship, at least i tought. We had a few arguments but nothing that couldnt be resolved. Yesterday I discovered a new Yahoo username with his name so I logged in because I know all of his passwords, they say that curiosity killed the cat and what I found shattered my heart. Turns out that July of last year he was talking to a lady and they talked about meeting and doing something. then there were emails from him making excuses as to why they couldnt meet. So basically none of the emails confirmed that they met or did anything more than just email back and forth. I also discovered under his sent emails that he talked to a few other women but the emails would stop. I looked under the yahoo profile and the account was created in March of last year. Basically even though all the emails finally stopped and none of them confirm that he slept with any of this girls, I decided to ask him about this account. Of course he claims that when he started talking to this ladies he felt like our relationship was going down hill and he saw something online that he clicked and ended up talking to this women. He says that what he did was wrong and he was very ashamed and he stopped. He says that he never met with anybody because he was always thinking about me and didnt want to hurt me. He said I wasnt supposed to find out, but since I did he is really sorry. I asked him why he keeps going into this email account and he says that he just doesnt know. He swore on our three kids life that he didnt sleep with any of this girls and that if he would of done that, that he would of told me and he would of asked me for a divorce. He says that he loves me and only me and that he is very ashamed. He asked me what does he have to do in order for me to gain his trust again. I told him to begin I dont want him to change the password to that email address. I told him that we need to cancel everything. He said okay, I want to forgive him because I dont have proof that he slept with any of this girls and I always said when I see it is over but with this happening is like I dont have enough proof. He is not the type of guy that would do something like this and I’m in shock. My heart is broken and I want to trust him but I’m afraid that he can easily create another email address and start all over and this time I wont be able to know. I know that everyday women go through this and we all think that this will never happen to us and when it does we dont know what to do. I dont want to tell anyone that I know because I dont want my family to see him as a horrible person because I feel like I can get through this and be like nothing ever happend, but at the same time I need to post this here because I had to let this out. I made my decision to stay with him but I need advice on how to get through this. How can I learn to trust him again. I feel like even though I talked to him about this yesterday I still have some unanswer questions and I dont want to keep bringing this subject up with him. I want to be able to move on but I dont want to pretend that everything is okay when maybe is not. Is there anyone that has gone through a similar situation and can give me some advice. Is there any men out there that have done something similar and did change. If he says that he never slept with any of this girls, is he telling the truth. If he swears on his kids life is he telling the truth. Sorry for making this so long, Thank you for reading my question and I thank you in advance for your responses.
Tags: Curiosity, curiosity killed the cat, divorce, email account, girls, heart, passwords, relationship, sleep, three kids, Tought, yahoo, yahoo profile, yahoo username
