hi everyone, here is my synopsis; I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I met her through a mutual friend. I pursued her at first and we ended up taking the relationship serious within a month. She has 3 serious relationships before me and the one before me was just a month prior before. They have been together for 2 years at least before that. I one always cut ties off before trying to get into a new relationship cause it always causes problems so I immediately give the respect to not involve anyone else thats an ex. okay well I caught wind of this 2 months after us being serious with each other that she had been texting him back and forth. I was not happy about it at all and I confronted her about it, the messages were coming in late at night while we were sleeping and it woke me up so I asked "who is that texting in the middle of the night?" she was willing to see and let me know. I explained it made me uncomfortable and I would like her to eliminate the excess baggage. she explained at first how she couldn’t and how he was a part of her family and pretty much gave me the run around. so I left it alone but i wasn’t convinced. 1 month later we had gotten into an argument and I was at work while she called into work. she had gotten so intoxicated she started texting him. I had an suspicion that she was so i looked at her phone and saw a few messages. I confronted her "did your ex text you at all?" she said no at first and I know she doesn’t like a certain friend of mine thats a female so I informed her that she texted me.. well she still stuck with the story of no…then i had to tell her well i seen where he did… and why are you lying about it? she got upset naturally that i looked but had no argument after realizing how deceitful it was. I explained again that it bothers me and i would hope she would stop. well ill fast forward to now. I have caught her texting him at least once a month since the past 7 months we been together..she even did it last month while we both were at home having drinks and I wanted to do my own thing just listen to music and drink a few. well i had one to many and passed out.. she ends up texting him while i was asleep. I wake up a few hours later and i found out she did because she said she felt disconnected? i was like you cant talk to me about how you feel? you have to involve someone else into our problems? she even disguised his number as an female name in her phone. so now my trust in her is gone but can be salvaged by my terms…should i loose her cause clearly she has him on the back burner when things aren’t going so well…and its been seven months! I get limited on fun activities i used to love doing but yet she can sit cozy in the house all day because she dont work…and text him.

Tags: 7 months, Ex Boyfriend, excess baggage, girlfriend, late at night, Met, mutual friend, quot, relationship, relationships, suspicion, ties

I know this question has been posted a thousand times, but it just seems close to impossible to get over my ex. The breakup was about 4 months ago, we dated for a little over 3 years. We even talked about giving our relationship a 2nd chance but then he admitted to only talking about it to "be nice". I really miss him and the hardest part is that my head knows he does not feel the same way for me but my heart feels that he would not act the way he does if he did not care for me (he still comes over to help me fix things, take my dog out when I can’t get home, etc). I don’t think he is sending "mixed messages", I just think he is being nice and I am taking it the wrong way. How can I stop thinking that everything he does is a sign of love and start getting over him?
I have gone on a few dates with other people and they just made me realize how much I miss my ex.
I know you guys are all right, cutting ties like that just sucks

Tags: 3 years, 4 months, Advice, hard time, heart, love, mixed messages, relationship, ties, wrong way

I was in a 13-month interracial relationship. It was not easy for both of us:

- he cannot be committed to me without his family rejection over a interracial marriage
- he cannot express his feeling because english is not his first language
- he cannot be himself becuase he cannot speak hindi with me
- his mom kept pushing him for marriage, but he can’t tell his mom about me
- I feel seperated/lonely whenever i hang out with his friends.
- I feel insecure about the whole situation from the beginning to the end – worried when he is going to get arranged with another girl in his culture
- I feel i cannot connect with him and there is a gap between us.
- I feel desperate…i want light in the relationship, but it is always dark
- We like each other, we enjoy each other’s companies, we talk to each other in numerous hours of phone calls everyday

Despite all these, we managed to be together for 1 year. We were, in general, very happy together, but wenever we both talk about/think of the future. We ended up talking about breaking up. So, this time is finally 99.99%.

He decided to break up with me because his friend has a similar issue like ours. She chose to marry the man despite of the family’s disappoval. The family is now no longer calling her their daughter!

This is like a series of scences in a drama:

1. He was very strong-willed. He told me strongly, "I don’t like you, that’s it. I cannot do this anymore. Even now i feel intensed to be in a relationship with you, it will be 100x more intensed after i told my parents about you."

2. He still called me for the next two days and told me how much he missed calling me sweety..So i asked what does he want, he responded the same way as before.

3. I msged him and snapped ties with him. He regret for saying no to me cus I "may be the best thing he will ever have".

4. The next day, I called him and decided to ask him what’s his intention for saying that. He said "he doesn’t know what he is doing." but he still insisted of snapping ties, so i agreed.

He is going back to his native land to visit his parents in 2 weeks. I don’t know whether i should hope for anything at this point. I am so worried he is going to find another girl during his visit. I have so much stress in myself and i feel very sad. I feel hopeless and have thought of hurting myself to ease my pain from my heart.

Tags: Culture, doi, family rejection, first language, Friends, gap, Heart Broken, intention, interracial marriage, Lonely, marriage, mom, parents, relationship, scences, ties

I cut all ties with my ex but she still keeps coming back. Showed up at my house the other day telling me she is miserable without me. I still love her but I just don’t know if it is worth taking her back. Should I give it another shot?

Tags: love, ties