It’s been about a month now and I can’t get over my ex. I see my ex "every" day at college when I go, which makes it even more difficult. I mean he said he fell out of Love with me because we argued a lot, and that’s not entirely true. We argued normally, who doesn’t? I just sometimes feel like he’s all screwed up because he got raped at young age, I mean my heart goes out to him. I feel like when we broke up it was all my fault, I’ve tried sending flowers to get closure, called him, text him, and I have completely stopped :’(. It hurts so much, I don’t understand it. Maybe I really did care about him, and it’s taking me a long time to get over this little guy. I know he’s had a rough past, but he doesn’t have to ignore me. I’ve always been understanding, when he first told me about his situation back then I started to cry. Because I can imagine how badly it hurt him, I think that’s why he has trust issues. He just broke up with me through text, he would never answer my calls or NOTHING. He just vanished, and he tells everybody that he is completely done with me. I don’t get it? Yeah I admit, I acted immature sometimes. I argued for the heck of it, but I never was really mean about it. He knows that I Love him, which is what gets me . I just want things the way they used to be, everyone tells me that Time will heal the pain. I don’t know, I feel like I’ve lost my bestfriend and the first guy that ever really cared about me. Now he is off talking to other guys, and I’m here a month later still trying to hold back the tears. I know he gave me a second chance, but it’s so stupid with what we argued about and i realize it now. I gave up "everything" for him, my time, my friends, and I even spent a TON of money the first month we dated and more after 3 more months. I just tried to make him so happy, and everyone tells me I can do better and he isn’t worth my time. That makes me so mad, because he was worth my time, and I thought he was the best I can do.

There were a lot of negative things about him like everybody else, he did lie to me about a few important things. He manipulated me, bossed me around sometimes to much, and when we argued he talked to me like a child. But besides all that he was ‘"amazing", he treated me the way I have always dreamed of a guy treating me. And I don’t know what else to do. Don’t take this as me being a snob or being stuck up, but I have money. I bought ,000 worth of clothes, took my friends out, read a book, and I have been exercising and doing my college homework like CRAZY. I can’t get over him, money doesn’t help, my friends remind me of him, they don’t say anything but the things they do remind me of my Matthew.

You know, I really thought deep down in my heart we wouldn’t break up. I know what my heart wants, and it want’s my ex back so bad. But he doesn’t even care to communicate with me whatsoever, he just ignores me all together. I think he’s disappointed in me, and feed up with how things were going. I know were great together, he knows I really enjoy his friends company and his parents. I feel like I messed things up and I can’t go back, if he would just let me have five minutes with him I could tell him exactly how I feel. If I could give him just one more kiss then maybe he would feel what I feel between us, but seeing how he appears to hold a grudge agains’t me. I don’t see that ever happening, you know it’s painful to see somebody you care about so much care to not talk to you, ignore you, and think only the bad things about you. :’(

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this may look long but its easy to understand..i have been seeing this guy for about three weeks.. we went to a party, went to the movies, and he has met my parents. I do not sleep with guys unless they are my boyfriend, and have only slept with 1 person, and he knows this. the problem is, he has a reputation as a player, and about a week before we started meeting up he was still seeing another girl(he isnt anymore). his best friend told me that he says im beautiful..and also he messages me first in the morning and before sleeping. he is also overseas at the moment and still messages me even though its expensive and i said not to.

today, i was like "i think i figured you out..your ex screwed up your trust, thats why you date so many girls, coz deep inside youre scared tht if you stay with them that they will do the same thing your ex did. and you date a girl and then you find a better one, but you still tlk to the other one because they like you so much that you can go back to them whenever you want, which is fun to do. and mainly the reason you do this is coz a. you have trust issues, and b. you love the attention girls give you. i think were very similar, except you havent tried to do anything with me because you have respect for me, coz you know i wont drop my pants for you in a second.. and you know that i can easily stop talking to you, coz i dont have the same obsession with you unlike others. so keep being interesting " and he said "Yeah my ex and the trust thing is right, but the reason i struggle to commit to girls is because i dont respect them after what my ex did, and how can you date someone if you dont respect them? before my ex i wasnt like this at all!"

if I told him i only sleep with boyfriends and he is still seeing me, does that mean he likes me? is he just wanting a fling with me? this coming saturday we are going to a party together.. is there anything i should do? Thanks heaps.

Tags: best friend, Boyfriends, Fling, girls, going to a party, heaps, love, obsession, parents, reputation, sleep, Tht, trust issues

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years, after a 10 year split. The thing is she is still married and going through her divorce. I have had serious jealousy and trust issues with her and her " husban ". We fight all the time about it. Emails and text msg, I can’t stand it and I have become a real prick to her because of it, this is the woman I truely love. She tells me its my fault I shouldn’t be looking at his email. He is always talk sexual to her or how they are in love and blah blah blah. She said he is blocked and she dosen’t get them, it could be true I haven’t seen any replys to him from her. I got my own place this week and tonight we got into a big fight. She says she still loves me but can’t be with me because of the way I treat her sometime, that her heart isn’t in it and I should give her some space. How do you give your best friend space? How do I make her want to be with me like she used to? Please be kind I am hurting badly and need some honest answers.

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What’s the best way to end a relationship? We have been together for 2 1/2 years. My boyfriend recently moved to the mid west to finish college – I live on the east coast. We see each other every other month and we have GREAT time when we are together. We do have trust issues. Since he’s been back home (Jan 2007) he has slept with a female. I’ve been faithful to him. I don’t desire another male but I’m tired of his games. He always expresses his love for me. I can understand his needs and respedt that he was honest about the female – but at the same time what about me. We have a history and I want him in my life but I am tired of his accusations (he’s guilty so he points his finger at me). I feel like what he does at home is his business – don’t put it in my face and what I do is mines (even though I’m not involved with anyone) And when we get together it’s about us.
But the reality of it is, long distance is not working for me and I need advice on how to get over the one I love!

Tags: accusations, desire, east coast, games, great time, home jan, long distance, love, mid west, relationship, trust issues