I ask because he has made NO further attempts to contact her; I gather she is on holiday (at home, and he is working) but as far as I know, he has NOT contacted her. Assume this is the truth.

So – was their meeting last week just coincidence?

History is:

In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn’t want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again.

After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years’ worth of those messages. BUT –

He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good – most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out ..

The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for ‘sexual assault’ in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other.

PRESENT DAY:

As some of you know, lately (last 2 weeks) he has watched her from his work van as she walks from her office to the station; he DOES genuinely have jobs in that street but he HAS watched her as opposed to hiding behind a newspaper as he sits in his van/looking away, etc.

This has happened 3 times in 3 weeks, and each time, he has stared, and she has walked on, not stopping.

THIS TIME, SHE STOPPED AND THEY TALKED.

I can’t believe it. If the sexual assault arrest has not made him hate her WHAT THE F*CK WILL???

This is what they talked about, which I know because his partner driver "felt I should know" – he was not there but was nearby -

Admitted to her that he HAD indeed been waiting for her to approach him all those times he was parked near her work, and asked why she had been "running past" him!
Apparently he "forgave" her for having him arrested.
He wished her a happy belated birthday.
He asked how her new house was going.
Oh this is good; he asked why he "could not find her" on Facebook.
He asked her ‘can I trust you now?’ (!!)
He said ‘will you let me wave at you if I drive past you?’
She told him another guy had got obsessed with her lately and he said "See I told you you were dangerous" – what does that mean?

Please can someone decipher the things he said to her,AND tell me why would he give her the time of day?

This was last Monday but even on Tuesday, apparently he passed her in his truck and beeped & waved at her!

I am concerned as to what he plans next.

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We’ve been getting together over the past 2 months. We share a house with a few friends & she told me she’s not looking for a serious relationship. She’s a nice girl, attractive and could easily pick up another guy but she doesn’t. In fact we went out a couple of weeks ago & she said "I want to be with you without feelings". Then she opened up a little saying she’s afraid (last boyfriend..she loved him but he wanted a child, she didn’t as she’s only 24 so he ended it). That was a year ago & they were together for a year. I decided to travel alone for a couple of weeks, even though we had a loose plan to go together.  Just got back & we went with friends to a club, she seemed a little distant with me, avoiding me. SHe left with another girl & 2 guys then arrived home 1 hr later & told me nothing happened. I asked her why she avoids me in the house. She said the truth is that she has only loved one guy her ex, she gave it once & can’t again. It was v emotional for me. She wanted me to look into her eyes at that moment & I couldn’t. Anyhow she was a bit drunk (she drinks 3 times a week, sometimes vomits & one time urinated in my room). Then we made love, she looks at me, tells me how goodlooking I am & how the sex was so good & she said that she does feel something.

Tags: amp, Club 115, Fall In Love, feelings, Last Boyfriend, love, nice girl, serious relationship, truth

i broke up months back and we are friends now….we were together for around a year and then we broke up cos i could not stand him anymore..to tell the truth i was with him that long cos of circumstances..we both were in the same univ and were new to the city and we got attached cos were from the same hometown…i didnt want to be alone and was with him..but now after breaking up i have these dreams constantly that he is with another girl and he has moved on and i have not…..i finally admitted to my ex that i was not in love with him at any point and was with him cos i didnt want to be alone and was a co-dependence thing……..i just want to stop having the dreams….plus he has found a great job after uni and i still havent…so its more like i am jealous he doing so well when i am not…..any remedies for me not feeling pain when i think of him moving on?

Tags: circumstances, co dependence, dreams, hometown, job, love, these dreams, to tell the truth, truth

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I still want him. The reason he broke up with me was because I had slept with someone about 3 days before we got back together. When he confronted me about it I lied and told him I didn’t do it.

Well a few weeks later everybody and their mama knew about it and finally one night the truth finally came out. He broke up with me but we still slept around for a week and a half after that. He even lived with me for a week after he broke up with me.

He tells me that he needs space to figure out what he wants and I’m tired of guessing. So one night I confronted him about it and he said that we might get back together but not in the near future.

What should I do? Should I wait on him or try to move on? I’ve actually went out one time since me and him broke up but I didn’t have a good time because he was all I could think about. I am in love with him and I can’t eat or sleep. What should I do?

Tags: Ex Boyfriend, good time, love, mama, sleep, truth

I had been dating my ex for over 5 Years and I broke up w/ her approx 4 months ago because I couldn’t stand her verbal abuse any longer and we fought like cats and dogs… We both love each other a lot and still do! She is a few years older than me and much more experienced than I am as she was my first for nearly everything including a real relationship. We’ve had our ups and downs and at certain points our relationship became extremely unhealthy and even at certain points have become abusive physically and other.. She has a very troubled past and was a very broken person when she came to me, its truly very sad… I guess I probably felt I could rescue the damsel in distress… Her biggest flaw is that she trusts nobody not even herself.. and she cannot tell the truth for very long… and due to this becomes very destructive. I understand that we are in a much more healthy situation now and that our relationship had a lot of built up resentment do to the things we did and ways we had treated each other, which was the ultimate recipe for failure.. After some serious prying and pleading she has told me that she is now with other men and has moved on or is trying to.. and that I should do the same.. and that she loves me and will always love me but she isn’t the one for me and she will just hurt me, but also tells me that she is very confused.. even then I still have a hard time letting go and want her back in my life soOooo badly! I cannot function properly and even though she isn’t directly causing me stress now I am under so much stress now and in so much pain without her I cannot tell which was worse! I know that I need to give it time and that I need to move on but It hurts me so badly knowing that she has moved on every time I close my eyes I think of her with someone else and everything i do, hear, or see reminds me of her. I want to remain friends but it is so difficult…. What will allow me to let go? How do I move on? Will I ever be ready to move on? I honestly have nearly no interest in anyone else and always am thinking of her and how I can make her happy.. but then greed takes over and I want her to be with me and only me! She told me that she is doing this for me so I can move on and that I need to experience a heartbreak and that she is just a stepping stone for me to get something better.. She also says I am her closest friend and an awesome guy but that she doesn’t feel romantically for me any longer.. It hurts so badly… Its been 4 months and Its hurting worse each day.. shouldn’t this be getting easier!? What can I do to truly let go and be at peace..? Please help I really need some honest advice from someone with life experiences… and I am not looking for an answer like go have sex! because that’s not what I am looking for right now.. I need to fix myself before I think about that..

Tags: 4 months, back in my life, Cats, cats and dogs, Damsel, damsel in distress, Dogs, failure, hard time, long term relationship, love, relationship, Relationship Breakup, resentment, Trusts, truth, ups, ups and downs, verbal abuse