I had been dating my ex for over 5 Years and I broke up w/ her approx 4 months ago because I couldn’t stand her verbal abuse any longer and we fought like cats and dogs… We both love each other a lot and still do! She is a few years older than me and much more experienced than I am as she was my first for nearly everything including a real relationship. We’ve had our ups and downs and at certain points our relationship became extremely unhealthy and even at certain points have become abusive physically and other.. She has a very troubled past and was a very broken person when she came to me, its truly very sad… I guess I probably felt I could rescue the damsel in distress… Her biggest flaw is that she trusts nobody not even herself.. and she cannot tell the truth for very long… and due to this becomes very destructive. I understand that we are in a much more healthy situation now and that our relationship had a lot of built up resentment do to the things we did and ways we had treated each other, which was the ultimate recipe for failure.. After some serious prying and pleading she has told me that she is now with other men and has moved on or is trying to.. and that I should do the same.. and that she loves me and will always love me but she isn’t the one for me and she will just hurt me, but also tells me that she is very confused.. even then I still have a hard time letting go and want her back in my life soOooo badly! I cannot function properly and even though she isn’t directly causing me stress now I am under so much stress now and in so much pain without her I cannot tell which was worse! I know that I need to give it time and that I need to move on but It hurts me so badly knowing that she has moved on every time I close my eyes I think of her with someone else and everything i do, hear, or see reminds me of her. I want to remain friends but it is so difficult…. What will allow me to let go? How do I move on? Will I ever be ready to move on? I honestly have nearly no interest in anyone else and always am thinking of her and how I can make her happy.. but then greed takes over and I want her to be with me and only me! She told me that she is doing this for me so I can move on and that I need to experience a heartbreak and that she is just a stepping stone for me to get something better.. She also says I am her closest friend and an awesome guy but that she doesn’t feel romantically for me any longer.. It hurts so badly… Its been 4 months and Its hurting worse each day.. shouldn’t this be getting easier!? What can I do to truly let go and be at peace..? Please help I really need some honest advice from someone with life experiences… and I am not looking for an answer like go have sex! because that’s not what I am looking for right now.. I need to fix myself before I think about that..

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What is the best way to get over someone, a love, that you have for someone? You cant someone love you or care for you if they dont. This seems to all date back to around april 25th, I am 19 and believe in karma, i dated this one guy for around 3 years and we had our ups and downs but in the end i was the wrong one in the end, since i maybe took things too far and cheated after i found out he did, i was much younger then and had learned my lesson, but i guess that saying is true that everything comes full circle and i found myself in a relationship with a 23 year old guy, cute and great dancer, he has cancer and so has some emtoional insecure issues, but i looked past all of that, and when i first met him he had a great personality. Things started to go from great to bad, when fights happened more and more and then they started to get physicla he never "hit me" but he would push me and shove me, hold me aganist the wall and hold my head straight so i would look at him, id be crying and i think after he snapped out of it and realized what he was actually doing, he would try to kiss me and tell me he loves me and is sorry and that i should know how he gets and shouldnt bring him to my level, so then i began seeing it as though it was my job to not piss him off, but all throughout the time, i am losing myself, forgetting the values and morals that i was instilled with as a child, self respect, the true meaning of love, and knowing who you are. so we fly by three months, the same thing happens make ups break ups and even talks about having a baby. Yet in the end he broke up with me, saying that the fighting was getting to be too much and i was immature and blah blah blah! so he promises me that there is no other girl, and that he is single and is going to stay that way, yet i later find out that he is now with some girl, and she is older than me and he said hes with her because she is soooo mature and has her own apt. and he spends the night there all the time. and that im annoying, yet i was the one who was there for him through all his down moments, took his abuse, bought him a tv, well in advance since he now owes me the money and is telling me that i need to not call him and wait for him to text me to see when i can go get hte money. basically he is treating me like how i treated my x, i dont need anyone to say its karma because maybe it is and maybe it isnt, i just need ANSWERs and maybe some advice.
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Ive asked family and friends, but WhAT DO YOu have to say?
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Tags: 3 years, blah blah, broken heart, cancer, dancer, fly, Full Circle, great personality, having a baby, job, love, relationship, self respect, three months, true meaning of love, ups, ups and downs, values and morals

We all have periods of ups and downs i guess, so how to make a relationship go for the better?

Tags: crazy in love, Crazy Love, Guess, periods, relationship, ups, ups and downs

Can you win back your ex wife after a tumultuous relationship. I have been with my significant other (not formerly married but went thru a private, spiritual ceremony to profess our love for one another) for close to 4 years. Things started pretty good at the beginning stages, the trouble started once I started to loose patience for her emotional ups and downs, (about a year into the relationship) and she got hurt from my quick to react temper, and vindictive communication during arguments. She says my mean words pushed her away. I moved out of the home about a month ago…started seeing a therapist to face my issues.Last week she told me there is no need for us to plan a reconciliation because she no longer loves me, that she wants to move on. Yesterday we met again and I packed all my stuff from the home.
Last night she told me she wants me to be strong. I take it she wants be to be strong so I can move on as well? Or be strong and show her I can be the person she initially saw in me? Any chance of her changing her mind? By the way, this makes no. 2 divorce/separation, plus another failed serious relationship) and no. 2 divorce/separation for me as well…I am concerned about a trend here….We both have emotional issues we need to deal with. I am working on mine, she said she would seek therapy on her own….I am having a really hard time letting go of the woman I love and feel helpless.

She is a witness of domestic violence as a child. So she can be very emotional at times, and very withdrawn at others…

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So we had our ups and downs, then I gradually force myself to not like him so that I can break up with him then things got better, he’s much nicer person now and is asking me to married him, like I do love him, but I felt there is not chemistry now, he is really good to me and I dont want to put him down so please how can I love him again like I used to .

Tags: chemistry, love, ups, ups and downs