So I’ve been dating this guy since about May. I have fallen for him so hard, its a little scary. I recently had a dream that prompted me to ask what it was that he wanted. A relationship, friendship, or what? He proceeds to tell me that he is not looking for a relationship. He doesn’t want to have to worry about anyone right now or have to deal with the responsibilities of a relationship. Meanwhile this whole time I have met his Mother Father Sister Brother Grandma Grandpa Aunt Uncle Cousin Best Friend and business associates, spent whole or half of my days with him, drove countless miles to see me or to see him. All of this was leading me to believe that I was someone special to him and that he was potentially thinking of being in a relationship with me.
His explanation of it was that he always intended on us being friends, but he fell hard for me and began to like me a lot. He didn’t intend on it getting that far but he feels like getting in a relationship with anyone would distract him from his grind because he would be slacking on his business matters etc. Like he did in his previous relationships because he focused on keeping the relationship functional and didn’t give that much attention to other matters. I told him I feel like he just doesn’t like me like that, and he told me I was reading too much into it and its not that he does like me a lot, he just feels the need to concentrate on business matters so that he can get things together to have the time for a relationship. Be it with me or with anyone else. I don’t know how I should feel about this.

Should I go with it as we were carrying on before I found out how he felt, I don’t really have time for a relationship either but I care for him a lot and I enjoy his company, and the way he always has my back and ACTS as though we are together. or should I just abandon it totally and let him get his stuff together and potentially get in a relationship with me in the future. Although when I think of it, a relationship isn’t really my goal at the moment, the thought of being exclusively with him has grown on me and now that I know it won’t happen anytime soon, I’m hurt…HELP!

I’m just not sure what’s really going on. Guys please give me the business about this…

Tags: being friends, best friend, business associates, business matters, countless miles, cousin, friendship, girlfriend, grandma, grandpa, mother father, relationship, relationships, sister brother, whole time, worry

I went out with this stupid bitch for a few months last year, and learned a few days ago that she cheated on me the whole time. We go to the same school and homecoming is coming up, and she is going with the guy that she cheated on me with. She also rides the same bus as me. What can I do to get back at that stupid dumbfuck bitch?

Tags: ex girlfriend, few days, homecoming, stupid bitch, whole time

About a year ago we broke up because i wanted to see what it was like to be single. I loved him so much 6 years together. I started dating somebody else for 1 year but talked to my ex the whole time. He tried getting back with me i wanted to but didnt. He move accross the state because i wouldnt take him back. Im single now and realize i love him more than ever. How do i get him to believe me that i really want to be with him?

Tags: 6 years, Dating, Ex Boyfriend, love, whole time

I planned this vacation in january for my wife and I. Unfortunately things went south between her and I and we seperated. After we seperated it took a good long while for me to get over her, I was very sad. She on the other hand seemed to not really care. I eventually grew tired of trying to mend our marriage on my own so I didnt see any other choice but to just give up on her and move on. About a month ago I came back in touch with an ex-girlfriend of mine. She oddly was going through the same problems as me so we hit it off pretty well… Well in the midst of this rekindled relationship I asked her if she wanted to go with me on this trip and after tying up a few loose ends she said she could go. Thing is, I wanted my wife to go with me the whole time.. As much as I hated her I still wanted her to go. But she just really didnt want to go. So, still badly wanting to go on vacation and not at all wanting to go alone or without a companion I asked my ex-girlfriend.. This whole time that i’ve come back in touch with my ex-girlfriend I have been totally over my wife. Seriously nothing she does bothers me anymore. Which is BIG for me. It took her hurting me so much to get me to that point, the point where I was just numb to her… Well about 2 weeks ago I find out my wife is pretty torn up about losing me. Kinda funny how things work right? I finally move on from her and clear her out of my mind just as she had done me and she sees that I dont call her or communicate with her at all anymore and now all of the sudden shes devastated? Its crazy.. She finds out im going on this trip with another woman and she absolutely loses it. Wants to kill herself, is all depressed, just nothing but bad.. And naturally I feel terrible. I don’t wish that kind of pain upon anyone no matter how wrong they’ve done me… So now Im in a real friggin pickle.. I’ve been talking to my wife again for the past few days which has made my new friend seem less and less appealing to me.. Im probably being stupid for even giving her the time of day but whatever.. MY DILEMMA is this: I leave in ONE day. I have this woman who I have asked to go with me, she has made adjustments in her schedule to go and she is an absolute sweetheart. I do NOT want to hurt her and tell her that I need to go with my wife.. But God I want to. I want my wife to go, she wants to go.. I feel so terrible I dont know what to do.. The right thing to do would be to just go with the plans I have made. My wife knows what the plans are, she understands, but she is hurt… My ex-girlfriend knows about my wife, she DOES NOT know that I’ve talked to her the past few days and she does not know the back and forth crap thats going thru my mind right now. My ex-girlfriend is actually going thru the same situation I am going thru. She too was married and she is going thru a divorce. She has told me several times that she would totally understand if I wanted to take my wife.. She knows our situation and she knows that basically she is taking my wifes spot… I just think its too late now to tell her that yes I want my wife to go.. At this point I dont even think I will have fun. At one point I was really into my ex-girlfriend but my wife ruined all that by making me feel just terrible about the whole situation and in turn she sucked me back in..LOL.. Afterall I do still love her and care for her.. I have a weak heart what can I say? I dont know if I should tell her before we leave about my wife and how I feel, should I tell her while im down there or should I just pretend to have fun and wait until we get back from vacation and break it off then because I think I wanna give my marriage another shot and I really, really am going to miss my wife on this trip.. It definately will not be the same without her.. This was not the case just a week ago but she somehow put some voodoo curse or trance on me and now my ex-girlfriend is all the sudden just not at all appealing to me, shes not my wife. I know breaking it off with her is gonna hurt her but I wonder if I should lead her on for this trip because she seems really excited to go but I also think she has noticed a difference in my demeaner towards her as well.. I know that i’ve really kinda cooled off on her since my wife started all her crying and wanting crap back up… ARRG!! I swear women will be the death of me!!! Ok so WHAT THE HELL DO I DO HERE??? PLEASEEEEEEE HELPPPPP MEEEE!!!!!!!
I left my wife, she didnt leave. I gave her every chance in the world to go with me and she passed.. I asked this new woman to go because I wanted someone to go with me and because I was hoping to possibly start a new.. She knows everything about my wife and I have been totally over my wife its just this depression she has been going thru lately is justkilling me and now Ive started contacting her which in turn has made me want to give her another shot and even more so I see the need for my wife to go on this trip with me now. And now that I’ve got my wife all in my head again I just cant look at my "girlfriend" the same way.. And honestly I think she wants her husband back anyway which would really help this situation alot..But my wife understands she f’d up but that doesnt cure the guilt I have and the memories that her and I will miss now and the fact that I cant see myself doing this without her. My wife will be on my mind and my "girlfriend" WILL take notice.

Tags: companion, ex girlfriend, few days, Im Real, loose ends, marriage, midst, new friend, pickle, relationship, Right Move, Sad, whole time, Woman