I know this is a dating question, but I’m asking in this category because the answer are more mature.

Saturday I buried my cousin who died on my front door step New Years Morning and I hadn’t talked to her much since the day he died (she was at my house when he died).

Yesterday, I text her to tell her I missed her and she kept quoting a line that I posted in a comment on Facebook this week. It started, "I’m single by choice…" Whatever it was, I was in a long dialogue with friends & various relatives. My girlfriend isn’t on my Facebook friends list, but I have it where friends of friends can read my posts. She said that her mom was reading my posts and brought it to her attention.

She kept asking me "are you single by choice." I explained that the conversation wasn’t that serious and I was referring to not being married right now. I also explained that who I’m dating is none of my family’s business on Facebook. My immediate family knows who I’m dating…and if they didn’t before they know now because my cousin died on my front porch the morning she was at my house.

Even after the explanation she wouldn’t let it go. Then she text me later that night and said she wanted to end it, because the relationship isn’t working for her. My response was, "Ok"…then I went to sleep.

She text me later last night and early this morning telling me that she missed me and didn’t want to break up & that she was expecting me to fight for her. My response was, "You didn’t ask my opinion, you told me that you wanted to end the relationship. My response was ‘ok’. If a woman says she doesn’t want to be with me, I usually believe her."

Now she wants to get back together. I’m not sure it’s worth it. I’m 36, and she’s 29, if that has anything to do with it.

Tags: amp, cousin, Dating, dialogue, facebook friends, Family Business, Friends List, front porch, girlfriend, immediate family, Mature, mom, relationship, relatives, single by choice, sleep, Woman

My husband has been getting angry at me over small things. I’m not sure what to do when this happens. Here is the latest example, and had I known it was going to send him into a rage I wouldn’t have done it.

Two days ago I thought I’d joke with him. So I sent my friend a text and told her I thought it would be funny if she send him a facebook message telling him to get offline so I could use the computer… So, she did, which I knew I wasn’t going to go online and I told him so. So, he responded to her "Well, I think she was going to take a nap, but ok." and then he got off of the computer and I responded to his response by saying "I always take a nap because he’s always on the computer! Just kidding!!" So then later he saw what I said, which I was totally joking and he got really angry at me and said I was disrespectful. I didn’t get mad because I thought it was silly to be mad over such a small thing. So, I did not react to his outrage. It made him more angry and he said I was cold, that I was raised to be a hard @ss. Every time we get into any SMALL fight it turns into something greater from him, how I’m a terrible person, how my whole personality is screwed up. How I’m not a woman, how I’m not what he wanted. I’m not sweet enough (but I make sure supper is ready and he has a cold glass of water when he walks through the door after work, I clean the house and work). He even threatened me with divorce over it! I said I was sorry even though I don’t know what I did. He only seems to calm down and love me again if I get upset enough to cry….

So my question is, is this something he really should have gotten angry about? Was I disrespectful even though I thought I was only joking? Could it be that my husband is bipolar? How should I handle these situations? What should I say? What should I do? Should I leave until he calms down? I just don’t understand why he gets angry over small things, and once he does get angry it turns into cut down after cut down about how I am a bad person. What should I do?? Could he possibly be bipolar???

Thank you.
Thanks a lot guys. ANd Kevin, he’s not into that.

Tags: Bipolar, Clean House, cold glass, divorce, glass of water, joke, nap, outrage, personality, quot, rage, ss, terrible person, Woman

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years, after a 10 year split. The thing is she is still married and going through her divorce. I have had serious jealousy and trust issues with her and her " husban ". We fight all the time about it. Emails and text msg, I can’t stand it and I have become a real prick to her because of it, this is the woman I truely love. She tells me its my fault I shouldn’t be looking at his email. He is always talk sexual to her or how they are in love and blah blah blah. She said he is blocked and she dosen’t get them, it could be true I haven’t seen any replys to him from her. I got my own place this week and tonight we got into a big fight. She says she still loves me but can’t be with me because of the way I treat her sometime, that her heart isn’t in it and I should give her some space. How do you give your best friend space? How do I make her want to be with me like she used to? Please be kind I am hurting badly and need some honest answers.

Tags: best friend, blah, blah blah, divorce, email, Fall In Love, girlfriend, heart, honest answers, jealousy, prick, quot, replys, text msg, trust issues, Woman

My ex has feeling for me I know this to be true and I want him back. He is currently living with another woman who is has a 9 month old kid with but I know they are not happy. How should I go about getting him back?

Tags: Ex Boyfriend, Woman

I am in a happy, stable (semi open) marriage with my man. He allows me to date women. We have been together 10 years. He and I recently met/got to slightly know a woman who is SPECTACULAR! Since the minute we both met her (and each separately the first time) we conected with her on many levels, and she was very flirty with us sep and then together when we met up together. We both got an immediate bi or lesbian vibe from her. But then we found out she was married but yet she continues to exude a flirtatiousness with mostly me the woman. (less with him now) Soon we will be meeting HER husband as well and will be hanging out as a couple. I don’t think they are swingers but I can almost bet SHE is at least bi (or closeted). I am SOOOO attracted to her that I burst out of my skin when I think of her!!! And when she was in my presence those few times, I got the same kind of energy from her that she also loves being in my presence! I am almost certain I am not mistaken with these vibes, I am also pretty sure she knows I am bi bc its openly on my myspace profile as such and we are friends on there. We are going to start hanging out as 2 couples soon, and though I am happy to be ‘just friends’ with the couple, my crush will always shine thru I fear. How, if, or when should I tell or show her I am attracted to her? At some point I don’t mind risking rejection if I do make a move and she declines. Because I know we and I could still be friends even with the humiliation of being rejected lol, but she is SO worth the chance to find out! Last time we hung out with her, she was excited about drinking wine together. If we have wine again, and she continues to be flirty, and I continue to be attracted, should I use the wine to my advantage lol…! And how do I make a move? Ask first or try to be a little affectionate and see what happens? In the meantime, I can’t stop thinking about her. My husband thinks its so cute… I am lucky to have the relationship I have with him and I will never leave my man. But this woman is literally ONE in a million and I would love to nurture whatever special relationship/friendship I can with her. And, where does her hubby fit in all this? Also, I am in my 30s the woman in her late 40s thanks!
Not everyone views marriage as YOU people do. 65% of people cheat on their spouses. I really hoped that someone with an OPEN mind could have answered my question properly instead of judge me. And for the first 2 responders, for your info, we have brought other people in before with nothing but bliss and fun for all… you should try it sometime!

Tags: 10 years, Bet, Bisexual, couples, Crush, drinking wine, humiliation, just friends, last time, lol, marriage, Met, open marriage, presence, rejection, relationship, vibe, vibes, Woman