we broke up new years eve….almost exactly a week ago. we were together 8months and generally happy, but he suffers from depression and was in a nasty mood the week of new years eve. we had an argument and broke up….. shortly after i told him i didn’t mean it and it wasn’t what i really wanted, but he said he feels like he needs to work on himself as an individual and can’t do that when he’s so involved with someone. he said he really didn’t want to lose me as a friend though, so we’ve been ‘friends’ so far. we hung out for the first time last night with a friend, when we were alone he admitted it was the first time all week he was awake and happy and he asked me if id please stay his friend. im hoping if im patient and play it cool, he’ll start wanting me back.
but how long should i wait to try to make the jump? i don’t want to move to quick before he has time to miss me(and maybe appreciate the ’single’ me), but i don’t want to wait so long that he adjusts to being without me.
and how should i make the move: while it’s generally my style to be verbal, he seems to be MORE resistant to emotional moments, he kind of shuts down sometimes. i was thinking maybe i can just wait till the right moment and kiss him, he wouldn’t over think and maybe it would be the fun spontaneous kind of thing that would make him fall for me again.
what do you guys think? any advice for me?
Tags: depression, emotional moments, Ex Boyfriend, new years eve, right moment, Years Eve
Ok we dated for two months & a month of it was long distance because he goes to college like an hour away & we completely trusted eachother! We never fought, ever! The other month of our relationship he was home for Christmas break and let’s just say he took my v card but he wasn’t a virgin..and on new years eve he wanted to go to a party where he went to college & asked me to go but i said no i wanted to stay home with my family & friends..so he comes back the next day and says we need to talk and says he seen his ex at the party and it brought back feelings and it wasnt fair to me and i was completely broken. They broke up because they fought nonstop and never really were happy I guess you could say but they were eachothers first so he says he loves her. A month after he breaks up with me there dating and its been like a week into it now and they are already fighting and i was talking to him tonight and he told me why they were fighting basically because he doesnt trust her and its long distance for them too and he told me that he knows he screwed me over but he loves her with his whole heart and no matter how much shit she puts him through he will always be stuck with her even if he does deserve better..and he told me i know you wouldnt do something like that but im with her and its not going to change..will he ever realize that he does deserve better and that he can actually trust me and want to be with me again???
They dated over 2 years ago and she just got out of a 2 year relationship is she just using him for a rebound??
Tags: amp, christmas, feelings, Guess, long distance, new years eve, rebound, relationship, Stay Home, Virgin, whole heart, Years Eve
